Dizzy-Deb Posted October 17, 2010 Share Posted October 17, 2010 Hope she hurries up! 20/10/2010 would be a date and if you tell yourself you want her out by then, she'll probably appear tomorrow! 20/10/2010... that would be a great birth date Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 17, 2010 Author Share Posted October 17, 2010 well, had a wee inkling that maybe, because I was so down about her and very sure that she wasn't doing anything today, she might have done something. But no. So going to bed very miserable now. My mother and father-in-law emigrated to Turkey many years ago, before OH and I met. They've been over since September 30th for a few England-related tasks, but to co-incide with both grandkids emerging. My sister in law was due on the 12th but had an elective C-section on the 6th due to a breech baby, and of course we were due on the 9th. Anyways, father-in-law flies homme tomorrow to Turkey - without ever getting to meet babs. It'll be the new year before they can afford to fly back over to the UK, so she'll be all tot-ish and not "new" anymore Fortunately mother-in-law has another two weeks before going, but I'm really miserable about it, I am a "daddy's girl" with my own dad and also have found myself much closer to dad-in-law than MIL (although she is also a good MIL not a horror!!) Unless I have a lightning quick pop overnight, it's bad news for grandad-to-be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunty e Posted October 17, 2010 Share Posted October 17, 2010 OK, I moved a book case, go me. I guess you didn't have a baby while I was gone? Sorry you're having such a rough time of it Can I interest you in some lightly-used pretty girly things to cheer you up? I have some lovely little dresses and sleepsuits and a pink snowsuit with cats on it that are off to the charity shop otherwise... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 17, 2010 Author Share Posted October 17, 2010 I'd never say no to pretty girlie things!! All our outfits, bar about two, are hand-me-downs, charity shop numbers or ebay joys - but I like that kind of eco friendliness! Three scans (obviously not including the dating scan) and each has told us that babs is a girlie, but just had a thought that maybe she isn't coming out because actually it's a he???? And the radiographers just didnt see his astronomically tiny winkie?? panic!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted October 17, 2010 Share Posted October 17, 2010 .... And the radiographers just didnt see his astronomically tiny winkie?? panic!!! Even more worrying..when my daughter was born the midwife told me I'd had a lovely bouncing boy!!! We all know that they will come when they are good and ready (for both my two at the most inconvenient times!!!) so....relax and enjoy your last few days of peace and quiet..put your feet up and be a princess, you won't have any time to call your own for the next couple of years... who here can't remember breastfeeding one child whilst reading/playing with the others???? Hoping when the time comes everything goes very well, thinking of youx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 no news this morning, home birthing and no induction is looking further and further away :'( I'm going to be stuck in a hospital bed on artificially introduced hormones aren't I before being sent to be anaethatised and sliced and diced. *boooooooooo!!!* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 How overdue are you Cally? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 nine days now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I really really really hope that they give you more time to go into labour naturally Have they given you a time limit? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mollie333 Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Boooo come on baby . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 My daughter was allowed (!!) to go to 14 days over when she was expecting Lauren and had the date set for induction on a Sunday evening - she started naturally on the Sunday morning.....it must have been fright! I hope you start naturally and have the birth you're hoping for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 yep, fourteen days, which is friday. they said i could refuse induction but would need to go to the hospital every day for a placental scan and post-maturity check, which is an imposibility. I dont drive, so it's a five hour round trip on various buses and trains with my three yr old, and then if my appointment was delayed it'd turn into a 7 hour round trip . Sometimes being so rural is the cause of major problems for our little family. The other option is getting hubby to start his paternity leave, but it's not really something we want to do. After all, if they give me another week, then in the end it turns out to be a hospital job anyways, and it takes three days, then a day staying in - hubby would be back at work after only 3 days with babs. And I'd be going insane with a brand new one and my son at home all day! Just got to keep hoping but that in itself is exhausting. And I keep worrying about her getting bigger and bigger - my bump has become much much bigger in the last two weeks and even the midwife commented that what had looked like being a small baby was turning into a "brute" (nicely chosen words, midwife!!) The more time goes by, the less like giving birth I feel, and I just can't see me starting in the next few days, she seems so settled and if all those long walks, hot baths and "intimatacy" with hubby still aren;t shifting her, what the goodness is she waiting for?? My dates were correct as I was checking when I was ovulating, so she is DEFINITELY BAKED! I think I'm giving up hope... and with so little sleep due to being so huge now, I am not going to have the energy for labour anyways. I can barely walk from the lounge to the toilet without needing a zimmer frame. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I do sympathise, but she will be here soon........I agree that you want OH to start his paternity leave as late as possible so that he's around to help. I walked my daughter around the village on the longest hike ever - it had no effect apart from massive blisters on her heels which were still sore when she did eventually go in to hospital Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Good grief Cally! A weekend with very little forum-time and she's still not out! Come on little madam, get shifting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 My ED was 10 days late so you have my sympathies as every day over the due date seems like a year. I was told by the midwife 2 weeks before my due date that it would be "any day now" so it seemed even longer. Come on baby Cally, it's not funny any more - Mummy is fed up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I can't think of anything useful to say I wondered if the hospital has a birthing pool and would that be an option if you went in sooner. However I completely understand why you want to be at home - I had a traumatic labour too. Perhaps discuss all this with your midwife and explain the last thing you want is lots of intervention (although I'm sure you have done already). Really hope it's soon - come on baby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sageandonion Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Hugs to you Cally, I would be climbing the walls by now. Really really hope things get going today and you have the birth you want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 thanks everyone, it really is getting tiresome now. and yup, done all the conversations with the midwife - but I appreciate the comforting thoughts. My midwife is quite sympathetic but at the end of the day, come 14 days she has to hand me from the community team to her hospital colleagues whether she wants to or not - it's just the PCT's policy. So I have til Friday to pop or it will HAVE to be institutionalised. (Unless I stay honme and do it all by myself then ring 999 when she's out and have her checked over - but that is actually illegal I found out today for hubby to be there and help in any way without calling for a medical professional!!) Tried more embroidery this morning - I know it sounds daft, but I keep thinking she is waiting for me to finish it! All I have left is the backstitching (done about a third of that) and then some french knots which I am replacing most of with some shiny seed beads - so by this evening, I plan to have done it all, and we'll see. Wonder if the sewing is sort of my subconscious nesting now that the whole house is straight? Bump itself is now feeling so bruised from carrying all this weight (she is very prominent and all at the front, so ligament pain is bad - from behind, I don't look pregnant and still have a waist!), I had to check before that I hadn't started dilating and that this pain was actually contracting - needless to say, it wasn't, but at least I know now to ignore the bruisy feeling, it's just her having a wriggle against a very tired woman's body. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Griffin Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 You don't have to be induced after 14 days. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do, and no amount of hospital policy can make you. It's just words. I know plenty of ladies who have had homebirths more than 14 days overdue. I even read about one who was 28 days late! Have a read of the "Overdue" - but desperate for a home birth section on the Homebirth site. http://www.homebirth.org.uk/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 thanks for that Griffin, I'd had a good read a week or so ago as that website has been a wealth of information for deciding on homebirth in the first instance, and also for which borthing pool to choose. It was reassuring to read tho that if I am still hanging on tomorrow, I still have a 60% chance of popping before Friday. That's not too bad odds as lately I have felt that the longer I go, the less chance I have of actually starting without intervention! Basically, my midwife has said that she would risk her registration (PIN) by attending a birth at home which has increased in risk according to the policies for our NHS trust. She says she has the same "duty of care" to me that I know so well as a nurse - that you can't refuse treatment to someone in need - but that her duty would be to send an ambulance to me rather than attend. While she agrees that in some cases wrong dates can make an overdue lady not that overdue, I both had been using ovulatory dipstick thingies and also a dating scan, so we know my dates are accurate - so if I get to 42 weeks, I really am overdue and not just a bit wonky on the dates. She feels the risks of going that overdue are not suitable for home management, and so would not be obliged to attend and is backed up by the hospital policies which she feels are in place for the safety and wellbeing of both mother and baby. She says it's not worth getting upset about, and that she knows as a nurse I am aware that my preferences for a natural home birth have to come second to the safety of baby. She can see how tired I'm getting and knows that my hips are driving me crazy at night - and last wednesday said that she really does feel that if I have to go to hospital it'll be the best thing by that point as I won't have any energy left for all that hard work at home. I guess the big black rings round my eyes are telling tales on me. She also brought up the subject of shoulder distocia when I had my sweep, she says that when she had a good feel of the bump, baby does seem quite broad on the shoulder - my husband is very broad and so am I for a woman, so I had expected that. I suppose that is something that I'm going to have to take seriously thanks to living where we live. I am already having two midwives from early on in the labour due to being 12 miles from the hospital, through country roads that take the ambulance about 23 mins once they've picked me up, and of course there might be more than that length of wait for them to arrive (so said the paramedics from my work). I think that's what is making the midwife so set in her policies - I am actually on the border between all the different GPs and PCTs, and the furthest away mum she has ever had to look after although she has said many times that it is not a concern for her having to travel but purely for the "in case of emergency" picture. She keeps reassuring me that having a hospital birth will not be that bad - that I might be able to bring my own pool if theirs is in use, that all the midwives there are lovely, and that I can still get up and walk about and won't be strapped to a bed.... It's all very well though, but I just dont want to be there!! This baby wants to come out here in my comfy cosy lounge not in the MRSA-filled hole where all my family go to die. She does, in her merit, keep telling me that I am not going to need that though as she has every faith that this baby will come sooner or later before 14 days late, as she has been sure that she's ready and has been for some time now, she says it's just a waiting game and to take it easy. She says she and the other members on the team are all just waiting for the call to come through that they're needed at the "chicken lady's" house!!! this is getting such an emotional nightmare.... for goodness sake baby, just start already. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenNutter Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 I think we need to start an Omlet sweepstake on the arrival of this baby! My guess is she will make an appearance at the eleventh hour Thursday night or Friday morning just before you are due to go in. Kids are like that! Seriously, I really feel for you CallyChook, feeling a little stressed about it though may delay things even more - a sort of primeval throw back to making you hang on to it inside you until the woolly mammoth or sabre-tooth tiger has gone and it is 'safe' to give birth. Drink plenty of camomile tea, hug a chicken and relax! Sending hugs (big ones to get around your tum!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 hehe, hugging chickens has been occuring even more frequently than normal... night before last we had a croad langshan cockerel stalking round the lounge while I coo'ed at him how beautiful he was. Yesterday was a Morgana day, she has been picked on something cronic and in the end, I gave her a few hours FRing with the little chooks... she was a bit of a bully as expected, but nothing major, so she's out there again today with the bantams. They're all staring at her from various points in the garden, except Beaker who seems blind to her presence and is snoozing mid-lawn (Beaker has never thrived much and I keep expecting him to pass on to the big coop in the sky by he is now 16 weeks old and just keeps perking up!) Embroidery is becoming frantic now.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 My DS was born at home 10 days late after 6 hours of strong contractions a fortnight earlier on my birthday There is hope yet don't give up give her positive vibes about the lovely homebirth. I have everything crossed for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 OMG, note to self - dont google "X days overdue" and read scary induction stories, then see pictures on pregnancy/baby forums of newborn babies. You'll end up both scared half to death, and horrendously broody and sobbing to yourself about why your baby isn't here yet when all the other mums from your forums have had their bundles of joy and are getting on with it. Cally, go make your lunch already, I know you don't feel hungry now but sitting here crying is not going to help one bit. Tim's on the telly talking about antiques and the wee man is watching videos in his room so get off your bum. you're still there talking to yourself via the forum media format. Shift it, fatso! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Have a nice lunch and think positive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
