tara Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Im getting married next year in august at http://www.knowlecountryhouse.co.uk/gallery.htm thought id share im getting really excited now can't wait to say l do.We will have been together 15 years next year we have 2 wonderfull children.The only problem is when the familys get together as they had a row 13 years ago and have never seen each other since but im fed up with that holding us back.Any tips ????? for my big day or leading up to it would be helpful ??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 No tips to offer I'm afraid but just wanted to say how lovely!! Lots of planning ahead then!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Congratulations to you! How exciting - the venue you have chosen looks stunning. I hope you have a wonderful day. No tips to offer I'm afraid, I just hope your families can remember it's YOUR day and can enjoy it and celebrate with you without falling out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Congratulation - the venue looks amazing. My YD is getting married in May next year and we are therefore in the middle of all the preparations. The main tip I would give is don't get hung up on trivialities - no-one will remember if the tablecloths match the groom's socks but they will remember having a good time. Try not to let the day drag too much - I went to an evening wedding reception recently and the invitation was for 7.30pm. We showed up at the appointed time and the happy couple didn't even have their first dance until 9.00pm!!!! We are having a live band for the evening - I think if you get a good one they can create a brilliant atmosphere and get eveyone up dancing, much more than a disco can (also the discos can be far too loud so that people can't have a conversation). Above all, enjoy the preparations as well as the day - if parts of your family don't get on, so be it, you can't make them get on. I bet if they all come to the wedding they will forget what they rowed about 13 years ago anyway. If there is one main troublemaker in the family consider not inviting them - it is your day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majorbloodnock Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 A young lady was in a similar situation to you, and, on the eve of her wedding, she found herself being given some last-minute advice by her mother. "Remember", her mother said, "the wedding is a ceremony full of tradition, designed to set the two of you up for married life, and it's important to remember the sequence of things. First, when you get to the church, you are expected to walk slowly and gracefully up the aisle. Then, once you join your fiance, you will both face the altar to take your marriage vows. Finally, we'll all celebrate by singing a joyful hymn. Got that? OK, just to set it in your mind, repeat after me. Aisle, altar, hymn. Aisle, altar, hymn." **Disclaimer** For anyone who doesn't get it, read it out loud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..lay a little egg for me Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 A young lady was in a similar situation to you, and, on the eve of her wedding, she found herself being given some last-minute advice by her mother. "Remember", her mother said, "the wedding is a ceremony full of tradition, designed to set the two of you up for married life, and it's important to remember the sequence of things. First, when you get to the church, you are expected to walk slowly and gracefully up the aisle. Then, once you join your fiance, you will both face the altar to take your marriage vows. Finally, we'll all celebrate by singing a joyful hymn. Got that? OK, just to set it in your mind, repeat after me. Aisle, altar, hymn. Aisle, altar, hymn." **Disclaimer** For anyone who doesn't get it, read it out loud. *groan* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majorbloodnock Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 I never made any claims as to the quality of the wit, but at least it's clean. Congrats, though, Tara. My personal addition to the advice bank is not to get stressed on irrelevances. Decide what you two see as particularly important about the day and put your effort there. For instance, if you don't really care what car you roll up in, don't invest hours on making the choice, but if you absolutely must have a white 1913 Silver Ghost, then by all means wear out your phone and Yellow Pages. However, if someone else tells you that you absolutely must have a magnificent cake "because it wouldn't be right without one", feel free to interpret that as their volunteering to both organise and pay for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 There were arguements on my wedding day... My advice? trim your guest list down to those who can be trusted to behave and act civilised on the day Dont feel pressured to invite everyone in your family - the marriage is about you two not about giving the whole family a knees up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 just enjoy yourselves, its your day, I loved my wedding day certain people were not invited for various reasons & it was better without them. I did feel guilty for just a second but soon realised that they dont speak to me from one year to the next anyhow so why worry. After waiting 15 years youd better be sure he's the right one Congratulations Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 The venue looks great. As others have said, try not to sweat the little stuff and just make sure you and your partner have a fantastic day. Hopefully your guests will behave themselves as its your wedding day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 No advice, just CONGRATULATIONS and I hope you have a wonderful day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenNutter Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Fantastic news. All I would say is that it is easy to get lost in the arrangements and forget what it is you are both doing, which is committing to spend the rest of your life together. It shouldn't matter whether it is just the two of you in jeans and Tshirts at the church/register office followed by a drink down the pub to celebrate, rather than the theatrical performance that weddings seem to have become, just make the day meaningful to you - to heck with everyone else. (Oh, but also, if you are inviting friends with children, consider having a face painter (like me! - only I'm too far away, so check out www.facepaint.co.uk for someone reliable near you) in an additional room with a TV/games staion to keep them occupied and quiet during the speeches, and so their parents can relax, so no-one is stresed out.) How exciting! Keep us up to date with the arrangements! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy chickens! Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Looks a gorgeous place to get married, many congratulations and have a truly wonderful wedding day. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C&T Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Agree about keeping the Children entertained. We did it slightly differently though. Each child had a box of goodies with helium balloon attached at their table placing. The goodies were all tailored to the age/sex of the child - a local party shop did them for us. Nothing noisy, but stuff designed to keep them entertained - colouring books etc. They were really good value, and the parents were really grateful. One in particular said that often at weddings Children (even when invited) don't always seem to be welcome, but having these special little boxes made a massive difference. Kept them entertained and busy with new toys, and took some of the stress off the parents. We had (from memory) about 9 small children - and they were all as good as gold during the speaches, which I think was mostly down to the boxes. My mantra for the wedding was all we needed was a Bride, Groom, Vicar, Church and Pub. The rest was purely an optional extra! Congrats on your wedding day! And enjoy all the organising! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whoopsie Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 I love the idea of the boxes for the children. Some friends of mine hired a conjurer and a 'silhouette' artist wo wander round the tables during the reception and this was also excellent. As for the arguments i'd agree with all the other advice on here. It is YOUR wedding and you have waited a long time for it. Only invite the people that YOU want and hang the rest of them (well, not literally). My mother says she felt so pressurised about who to invite she doesn't actually remember the guest list and none of her friends were there. Mum and Dad are still happily married but I am very sad they can't look back on the actual wedding day with as much happiness. She's told me that when it's my turn i'm to have exactly who I (and the OH) want there and "Ooops, word censored!"ody else. Sound advice I think. Have a WONDERFUL day x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarkBevBen Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Many congratulations to you both! We had 'two' weddings because my hubby is from New Zealand, we did it all in the UK and again in NZ too so were very lucky As the others have said, I'd concentrate on the fact that it's both of your day and you don't have to please anyone. Have you joined any wedding websites or been looking in magazines at all? I found the internet very helpful, especially when planning our NZ do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tara Posted October 12, 2010 Author Share Posted October 12, 2010 Thankyou everyone we are very happy and were at our happiest now i went through ivf with my last child and my partner got made redundent 5 years ago which we nearly lost our house.We have had some really rought times but have come through them and are both very happy.My dad was very nasty to his mum and of course his dad was then wanting to hit my dad that was when we was 20 we are now 33 nearly 34 l asked his mum to let it go as it was years ago but she said she will never forget .We are fed up with all the family his family dont include us anyway and dont care about seeing there grand kids that live 10 min away or tho they will travel to see there others anyway thats family im just fed up with my parents atitude abouth wether they want to come and see his parents again ggggrrr.I did join a wedding fourm which gave me some good ideas.I cant wait to get married and feel complete we have waited along time im doing it weather they like it or not what l will say to them is you dont have to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whoopsie Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 No question in my book then - they don't get invited and if they kick off, tell them why! Do not let family ruin your wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
