Charlottechicken Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 Sorry but this is a bit of a rant. I joined Facebook last year as a means of keeping in touch with my cousins, as we are spread all over the world. I'm not ashamed to say that I have less than 30 friends on there, and this is how I like it. I did accept friend requests from a couple of older women (who happen to be sisters) who were mothers of children I knew when I was little, big mistake! One has just shared my new profile photo to her wall, and a couple of old photos which have nothing to do with her! I usually only share photos with those who have an interest, hence keeping friend list short, and on this occasion I didn't, but my profile photo is public. I am furious, and have unfriended the pair of them and OH has happily spouted his "that's why I'm not on Facebook" speech. There appears to be no way of stopping someone sharing your personal photos. I have been wary of sharing photos on facebook from the start, as they appear to lose their electronic fingerprint when uploaded. I am happy to let people use my photos if they ask nicely, some photos on my blog were used in connection with a thesis on a particular National Trust property, and correct consent from me was required. I'm seriously considering watermarking my facebook photos but feel it is overkill. Rant over! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 I'm sorry to hear that CC You know my view on facebook I am furious, and have unfriended the pair of them and OH has happily spouted his "that's why I'm not on Facebook" speech. nuff said Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted November 6, 2015 Author Share Posted November 6, 2015 Yes, it felt good to unfriend I avoided facebook for years, and this has just reminded me to think about who I am sharing stuff with. Thankfully I don't post a lot of stuff on there, or share my life with it. Lesson learned! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 6, 2015 Share Posted November 6, 2015 Or you could look at it from another angle and be flattered that they thought your photos nice enough to want to share. Not sure anyone's ever shared photos of me on FB, obviously not share-worthy enough . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merlina Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 IMHO, those who share their every thought (and meal and illness and whatever they're watching on YouTube) on FaceBook will never comprehend thoseof us who are more circumspect about what we put in the public domain. They just can't understand what's so private about your coffee that you wouldn't want to share details of it with all and sundry I get round this by using lists. I have, effectively 4 - one called something like 'tom, dick and harry' - ie my handful of closest friends, one called 'close friends' one called 'most people' and one called 'everyone' (that's everyone in my friends list). Every time I post anything, I make sure I check the 'who can see this' carefully. Other friends have gone down the route of watermarking all their pics, as you say, but generally, that's fallen off and hardly anyone seems to bother for very long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 I do the same! I have one called called "actual friends" - no offence to Omlet friends, it just means I haven't met you in the flesh! Of course a couple of Omlet friends are in both lists now . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 I do the same. I have several lists for the different people I know (close friends, friends, old school friends, omleteers) Im not sure how to stop people sharing photos. I do remember someone tried to share a photo of something I had made but I was informed by FB about it and was able to stop it happening. I don't think anyone has shared a photo of mine, amd I wouldn't even think of doing it to a friends photo! You can have the various people in your friends under different things, like some who you want to see what they write about and want to let see what you write about and you can have them set to acquaintances so they can see bits of what you have on your wall and if you unfollow them you don't see all of what they are up to either Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soapdragon Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 Sorry to hear that you have had this hassle and unpleasantness. However, I am totally with your OH on this - neither hubs nor I faceboot or twit (actually the faceboot was a typo but I think I'll let it stand!!!) I am a bit paranoid about letting any of my stuff 'out there' and was horrified to find a big pic of YS and I from an article in The Mail from 7 years ago is available online - had no idea at the time or wouldn't have let them do it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted November 7, 2015 Author Share Posted November 7, 2015 I also have my friends split into two groups, just family and everyone. All my settings are tight, all my friends are hidden from each other too. I never thought someone would share a profile photo though! I did a lot of research about facebook before I finally joined as I wanted to be sure it was secure. I love being able to share my photos with family members around the world and to see what they are up to and as none of them have violated my privacy I shall cautiously continue to do so. I have been deleting my old posts on there since I joined, so there's only a few week's worth of stuff to view too. Trouble is, now I have unfriended the culprit, I can't see who else has shared or commented on my photos she put on her timeline As I said I never post really personal stuff on there, even to my very small group of "friends". Some things are better kept personal, and I'm amazed at what other people do post. Ah well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I've only been on FB for a relatively short while. I joined initially to be part of a private group but left my page open just to see what would happen. Not much really. I've established contact with a couple of cousins and an uncle which was nice. It is OH's family who make up the bulk of my contacts and I like sharing pictures on there so that they can see what we're up to as we're not good at visiting and they are nice people. I like it as well for contact with ES on messenger. It's such a simple and straightforward way of chatting to him. I was in M&S the other day chatting to him when he was on a beach in Bali. It's a great way of keeping in touch with him. Apart from my sister & her family the rest of my family remain resolutely uninterested in my life but I know some are on FB so if they care they can see what I'm up to through my photos. Generally, although I enjoy social media I don't trust it and doubt that anything I put on it is truly private so if I'm not happy for the entire world to see something then I don't post it. As with this post I don't mind who reads it so I post it. I don't take photos that are outstanding or anything different to those taken by thousands of other people so I have no concerns about that. My photos very rarely are of people in my life and are generally similar to the ones I share on here so again it doesn't really matter who sees them or what they do with them. That's my experience of FB for what it's worth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I was rambling on so much I completely forgot to mention the thing I really like about FB. It's the sheer amount of accounts that are cultural, informative like science news or simply news news focused. I follow loads of accounts and my mind can be brimming with stuff after going through them. Those pages are far more interesting than most personal ones, my current favourites are Japanese cultural ones I'm following in prep for my holiday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 If you wouldn't write it on a postcard, then don't put it on social media. Like others on here I have 'friends', 'close friends' and 'acquaintances' and restrict who sees what, but I accept that once I've posted something, anyone could get hold of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 My advice once to Rosie was that anything posted on the internet is like a tattoo; always there, whether you like it or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted November 8, 2015 Author Share Posted November 8, 2015 I think my point has been missed. My profile and cover photos are publicly visible, I have no problem with anyone else seeing them. As has been said already, once you post things on the internet, they are there forever. I do have a problem with someone else randomly sharing my photo to her wall. All my settings beyond that are tight, my friends and family are split into groups and certain things get shared with certain groups (and we are talking about very small groups of people here!) and it is rare that all my "friends" get to see what I am posting, not that I post more than once a week in any case. Even though my posts are shared with a small group of people, they are neither embarrassing, too personal or defamatory, so I wouldn't be concerned about them being seen by the world, but I choose not to. Maybe I'm in a minority in that I think it is very rude to share another private person's (as in someone who is not famous or a business) profile photo! Like I said, I did my research on Facebook before I joined, hence I have kept my posts low, friend list small, and settings tight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I agree, it was rude of them not to ask you first. Perhaps they assumed that it was a public photo and then thought it Ok to share...? Still should have asked you though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted November 8, 2015 Author Share Posted November 8, 2015 You live and learn, and as they say there's nowt so queer as folk! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I wonder does she know what Sharing means? My Nan has Facebook to keep in contact with us as we're all over the world in Slovakia, America, Australia, NZ etc. She is forever commenting on our photos and tags herself in them if she likes them - the ones she really likes she prints off to show family when we visit I wouldn't take it personally but maybe an innocent mistake? I'm a big fan of social media but am aware of how public it is and how the written word can be misunderstood but generally find it great for keeping in touch with old friends and networking to find placements etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted November 9, 2015 Author Share Posted November 9, 2015 That was also my thought, Lewis. She is a more mature person and probably isn't aware. I'm sure it wasn't done with malice, but as she's a bit of a facebook loose cannon, so to speak, I'm pleased to unfriend (silly word!). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
