Guest Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 I've thought a long time before posting this, and I'm still not sure if I should, but sadly, on Wednesday at my first scan, we discovered that the baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks, and so am no longer pregnant. Despite the fact that I have spent the last couple of months with my head down the loo, things had probably stopped developing before I had even found out I was pregnant, but due to very high levels of the pregnancy hormones, my body maintained the pregnancy for quite a long time before we discovered anything was wrong. Sorry for the depressing news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard and Jo Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Very sorry to hear your sad news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali-s Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Oh Shona, what terrible news. Thinking of you at this unhappy time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard and Jo Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Above reply from Richard - he's not very good at things like this. Just want to say myself that your news is very sad to hear; of course everyone knows things like this can happen, but if it does, it can't make it any easier. Just remember people are thinking of you and you've got plenty of shoulders on the forum. Jox Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Oh Shona, I'm SO sorry. That is terrible news and all I can do is send great big hugs to you all. We're all here for you. Love Kate xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Blue Sky Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 I'm sad for you Shona. Thinking of you... Heather x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Hi Shona, Desperately sorry to hear your sad news. A similar thing happened to my wife a couple of years ago, so I can imagine what you're going through. Really sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura007 Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 sorry to hear the news xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Oh Shona i am so sorry to hear the news i can really sympathise with you i have had the same thing happen to me 5 times it isn't nice and I really do feel for you...........If the baby wasn't developing properly it wasn't meant to be, this was the only way i could cope with the disappointment.....Massive cyber hugs coming to you and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Oh god so very sorry Shona, our thoughts are with you. I echo what Nicola has said. Very large hug to you all BBxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aylana Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 I am so sorry Shona, I wish I could reach into the computer and give you a huge hug. I think it is safe to say that everyone is here for you, even those of us that don't know you very well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Shona, I am so sorry. The same thing happened to me about 4 years ago, & although the baby was not planned, it was still a horrible shock & I was devestated. 2 thing helped - My friedns who were a huge suppert & the fact that I believe in fate. That baby was just not meant to be, & thinking that made it easier for me to cope with. You may not feel the same, but I hope that you find a way of dealing with your loss. Are you going in for an ERPC or something similar soon. I hope that they don't keep you waiting for it too long. Sarah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Ever so sorry to hear that, Shona. Very big hugs to you at this distressing time. Will be thinking of you and your family, look after yourself. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carolinep Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 I am desperately sorry Shona, a similar thing happened to me about 11 years ago. We are all thinking of you at this very sad time. Big, massive, super size cyber hugs from me. Hope you will get plenty of support from your family & friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley-Jean Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 SO SORRY Be brave Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Shona, such terrible news, I am so sorry . It's hard to think of anything meaningful to say at the moment, except that we're all here for you. Great big cyber hugs to you and Chookiehubbie, and all the little chookies too of course. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bracken Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 So sorry for you and yours. The same thing happened to my sister a couple of years ago. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 14, 2006 Share Posted January 14, 2006 Shona, I'm so sorry. It seems to have happened to so many of us, but I don't know if that helps much! I do understand the emptiness you're left with - getting over the shock of expecting a 4th child, then getting excited and planning the future only to find it's not going to happen after all. There's such a lot for you to deal with. I can only say again how sorry I am and please take care of yourself - don't push yourself too hard or expect too much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahJo Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 Shona ... really sad for you and Chookiehubby. Take care of yourself ..... very best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 Sending you lots of love through the telephone wires Shona. If you feel anything like I did, you just want everything to be right again, and have some answers. Thinking of you and wishing I could help. Big Love to you and your family xxx xxx xxx xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 Oh Shona, I'm really sorry for you and your family. Big hugs and just to say that there are lots of us who know how you are feeling Karenx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 Shona, I am so sorry to hear your news. It is difficult to know exactly what to say, but you know that you have loads of friends here on the forum and we are all thinking of you Take care of you Mel x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 Many thanks for all your support - it's been a rough couple of months up here, and you have all provided a great deal of support which is much appreciated. I feel a bit better today - I think I am coming to terms with everything, and I am in the lucky position of already having 3 beautiful children and a supportive husband and family. Although it hadn't been planned, we had really started to look forward to another baby, so have been discussing whether we should try for another one, or just leave our family as is. Hopefully life is on the up now, and surely a large win on the lottery is on the cards after all our bad luck?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 Definitely a million or three, Shona - but don't forget all your friends on the forum if you do ! Take care - the hugs are still coming your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubereglu Posted January 15, 2006 Share Posted January 15, 2006 I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news. All you have to do is think positive thoughts and your children and chickens are sure to cheer you up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...