hils78 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Some of you might remember a while ago me agonising about my wedding...well I pulled it last minute I just couldn't do it. Wouldn't have been 'our' wedding in the end. I am not regretting the decision either. An upshot of it is that my OH & I are stronger than ever (never been anything but really) and others are taking us more seriously because of this...we're 30 & 43 so you would have thought that they would have anyway! We've just spent the bank holiday weekend round campfires with our kids and friends who each of us have never met (like my old friends who have moved away & friends of his came over from Germany). We've had a spectacular time with a great group of people. This would have been our reception w/e anyway, spent in a very similar way - we just did it without the certificate! We spent Sunday flying kites and just lazing about in the sun = bliss! One of my OH's friends from Germany earns his living as a Viking (does re-enactments) and is a silversmith & leather worker too & had made my OH & I beautiful matching rings which was a total surprise. Just what the soul needed. My faith has been restored! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutrix Farmers Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 wishing you continued happiness! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angels4 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Sounds like you had a beautiful time. Congratulations on choosing to cancel the wedding and taking back control. "May your love live in your hearts and be forever." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Well I never. I remember your post. Sounds like you did the right thing for you in the end then. Congatulations on your non-wedding The rings sound fabulous can you post a pic? I have a friend who is a silversmith and if I ever need a special ring he will be the one to make it. But not planning on getting married so need another excuse for him to make me something..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Good for you. The bits of paper are often just to satisfy other people anyway. Long may your relationship remain strong and happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 That sounds so romantic, it's a shame the wedding was taken away from you by getting out of hand, what you did sounds SO much better. It will be something you can look back on years later and REALLY smile about Congratulations on your non-wedding!! Mrs Bertie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Good for you! Congratulations on the non-wedding! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hils78 Posted August 26, 2008 Author Share Posted August 26, 2008 I like that the 'Non-Wedding'! lol Thank you everyone. I didn't consider it would have been such a good w/e because it was just a spare bit of time we had to fill. Our actual wedding (the paper bit) was meant to be the 1st August & we were going to have our celebration/reception this bank holiday w/e. It only dawned on us that we were having our aptly named 'non-wedding' celebration half way through which was made even more real by being given these rings which were meant only as a gift - they mean a whole lot more than he could have imagined. I've taken a pic of my ring & just need to get the brain power to get it uploaded....watch this space! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisa33 Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Congratulations on your non-wedding. Pieces of paper don't necessarily = happiness. Stay happy in your own way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Well done on doing what you want. Sometimes it is hard to do, especially with family pressure so congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MadMitch Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 (edited) Congratulations on the non wedding. Me and OH have been happily unmarried for 18 years now. Edited August 26, 2008 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 I'm happy that you were able to do it the way you both wanted Congratulations. It sounds like you had a wonderful weekend Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rona Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Good for you!! many congrats on the non-wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 It sounds like you both did what was right for you, well done for having the vision to recognise that and the strength and courage to see that the wedding wouldn't be "you" and pulling it. Sounds like you had a fabulous weekend and have a very strong and happy relationship Congratulations Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Good for you, turning it into a positive experience. It's a lifelong commitment and not to be taken lightly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted August 26, 2008 Share Posted August 26, 2008 Congratulations . Not many people would have had the strength of character to pull out and do what felt right for them! Well done - it sounds like you had a magical weekend which you won't forget in a hurry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 Congratulations, you obviously made the right decision! - wishing you both every happiness! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsallen08 Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 Hello I am quite new to omlet so never read your first posts about wedding. I actually only got married in April and know too well the stresses of the plannning etc. Especially if family troubles are in the mix as well! Although we had a lovely day there was a sense of 'was that it'!?! For 12 months of agonising and saving I did kinda feel as though, it wasn't really worth all the hassle! It is only just 1 day of you whole lives together. If you love someone and are strong together then it really doesn't matter if you have a ring or a change in surname! I'm glad that you did what YOU wanted! Good luck and happiness! Heather Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hils78 Posted August 28, 2008 Author Share Posted August 28, 2008 Thank you for all your nice comments. It did take a whole heap of guts to pull it - really scary! I can't get the blimmin ring/weekend pictures uploaded the software is new & I can't work it! Here's our friends website anyway...he won't mind the link being put up... www.northan.net Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ana's flock Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Well done you for having the strength and courage to go against the current of events and do what works best. I have been in the past both unhappily married and happily unmarried - I'd choose the happy option any time - as long as the love is there who cares about a bit of paper! And you had the party, which is what people like. By the way, your friend's jewellery designs are gorgeous! Best wishes for the future. Ana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susanbb Posted August 28, 2008 Share Posted August 28, 2008 Best wishes for the future Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted August 29, 2008 Share Posted August 29, 2008 Thank you for all your nice comments. It did take a whole heap of guts to pull it - really scary!I can't get the blimmin ring/weekend pictures uploaded the software is new & I can't work it! Here's our friends website anyway...he won't mind the link being put up... http://www.northan.net Lovely rings! - I managed to have a look at those but I'm afraid I can't read the green text on black background Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
