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[Guest]

A few weeks ago Mum said there was a beaver colony starting locally soon, James was keen so we said he could join. I thought she was getting the information off of another parent, I actually mentioned it to her once. Lately I@ve been picking James up from school so she's not seen anyone.

 

Yesterday James came home all excited because Beavers was starting tomorrow. I phoned another parent and got the details of the woman. I tried phoning last night and got voicemail so I texted today and she texted back that ALL THE PLACES ARE TAKEN. Of course he's gone to school today and told all of his friends he is going, loads of them are already going, he's now double upset that he isn't going and he says he's told his freinds a "big fat lie" that he would be going.

 

I know tomorrow will be tough for him too as they'll all be talking about it - there are at least 3 of his class that were going.

 

I've been online and put his name down for whichever local group has a space first as I suspect, being a new group, this one won't have any spaces for a while.

 

This is my fault - I bet he ends up in trouble tomorrow.

[keyhole kate]

Aww your not a bad mum just a human very busy one

when he realises he is on the list for the next available space

he will be fine console him and yourself as older beaver

reach 8 they move up to cubs as my GS is about to do so

James's wait might not be that long

 

XxHugsxX

[Snowy]

Ooh, bless him, but not your fault Pengy, these things happen, and another place will soon come up. Dan has just started going and he loves it, so it will be worth waiting for a place My oldest missed out when he was little because I couldn't catch up with the organisers to get his name down - so I know how you feel, but at least his name is now on the list

[Guest]

Trouble is "Ooops, word censored!"ody is going to be moving up as this is a new group!

 

Also one of his "friends" is the kind of boy who will try and wind James up about this tomorrow. I told James to say he was too busy as we had his teachers round for a hen party.

 

Oh and to then tell the other boys that he is having this done tomorrow http://www.mural-design.com/star-ceilings.html. The 2 other kids who have them are not going to wind James up as it's his g/f and her brother - their dad is the artist! Also James could mention that when I go pole dancing Sunday he is going to the swimming pool to work with the lifeguards (they are babysitting for me!).

 

He does have a lot going on - he should make more of what he does do rather than worry about what he doesn't

[Egluntyne]

Maybe there will be someone who drops out of the group of choice and James will get to go with his friends after all. Keep him on the waiting list.

 

I used to help out at Beavers years ago, and often new boys would come for 2-3 weeks and then give up.

[Guest]

Yeah I was hoping someone would give up. One of James' friends is a bit of a clingy boy who cries easily and doesn't like it if anyone says anything "nasty" to him. He of course is the one who will be winding James up tomorrow, he likes to give but can't take! (you should see his face when someone points out that he's little, or than he hasn't lost any teeth yet!) He might only do a few sessions.

[BeckyBoo]

It's a shame he can't go, but he will get over it and the others will find someone else or something else to latch on to. My middle daughter missed ou on a year of Rainbows because they kept "losing" her name off the list She was SO disappointed every week when we took her older sister and she STILL couldn't go. But her turn came in the end. If he's missed out it's because, like you said, he's got something better to be doing. Things happen for a reason, when it's his turn it'll be much better than if he went now

 

Mrs B

[redhotchick]

Cosmic Ceilings WOW! That's fab!

[Chook n Boo Mum]

Wow I love those ceilings - am I a bit old for one?! Wonder what DH would say....

 

Egluntine is right, very often the boys only stay for a week or two then "quit" - usually without telling the leader too in our experience . I help at my DD's Cub Pack. Yes I did say DD not DS, she's a Cub and a Brownie at the moment. We have a fair number of girls in our pack & they love the fact it's more active & less arty/crafty than Brownies.

 

Hold out, & in a few weeks he could well have a place, and also as has been mentioned further up, Cubs starts at 8 - maybe get his name on the list now in case the Beavers doesn't come good.

 

Hope all your meetings & hen parties went well this week - do you get a bit of a rest now (except work & James of course!)? I felt quite exhausted just reading about your week!!

 

Sha x

[Angels4]

You are the BEST mom ever.

 

[Cate in NZ]

Good luck, I hope a place comes up for James very soon

[little chickadee]

Aw I really feel for you both Pengy. I always feel terrible if I end up letting down one of my two. I'm sure there will be a space soon though. People are always deciding they don't want to go any more. Even if it's somewhere a bit further out, it's good for him to make friends away from school - he would then have more friends than his class mates

[MedusA]

It's a shame, but not the end of the world, Pengy. You are definitely not a bad mother! I'm sure he will appreciate it all the more when he does join a Beaver group. I agree, it is quite likely that someone will drop out and he can join this group after all. *fingers crossed* (why is there no smiley for this?)

 

Anyway, he is a very lucky boy to be having such a wonderful ceiling mural. I am so jealous. The artist is brilliant! I have those stick-on-glow-in-the-dark stars on my bedroom ceiling (yes I am 53 ), and would love to have something similar done.

[chickencam]

Don't beat yourself up about it, things happen in life for a reason. He may find something he likes even more that would have clashed with beavers.

 

There is enough stuff to make you feel guilty about being a parent without adding to it

[Guest]

Thanks all. He was OK today when I took him to speech therapy, nothing had been mentioned and as he missed lunch then hopefully nothing further will be said.

 

The speech therapist didn't help my "bad mother" cause though. I explained that I was bringing him today and that in future Gran will bring him and got a whole lecture about how important it is and isn't their any way I can get time off. YEAH - 2 hours a week, on the same day missing the same classes is just NOT happening. Gran probably spends more time with James than me anyway! The compromise is that when he gets his next "batch" of sessions after christmas she's going to try and give us one of the coveted later slots.

 

If I taught primary it would be easier as the class see you all the time - to attend these sessions means that one year 9 class wouldn't see me AT ALL for the rest of the term. I bet their parents would have something to say about that!

[Mutrix Farmers]

Didn't you know that mothers aren't supposed to work!! Well that's what some well meaning soul told me once! And in the same sentence was "no wonder your son is bullied at school, you're a working mum!!"

 

Pengy you do as good a job as you can (I know some full time mums that are rubbish at it!) and if you're anything like me you give your son as many opportunities as you can afford. Please don't give yourself the bad mother label, from what you say about James it's evident to anyone with half a brain cell that you are an excellent mother who loves her son very much!!

 

Love and hugs from one busy working mum to another

[jlo]

I think that all mums go through times when they are racked with guilty about one thing or another. Pengy - you are definitely NOT a bad mother - just a human one - like the rest of us!

[Guest]

And I keep making it worse!

 

This morning as we were dashing out of the door he said "Mummy can I have snack today". OMG it's THURSDAY and I've not given him any snack all week! Poor little muppet has been sharing his girlfriends snack ALL WEEK!

 

Then tonight I came home from school, drove past his school at around home time and came home to change, tidy and make his packed tea as he had hairdressers before swimming. Then the phone rings and it's the school secretary saying "we still have James" His club was CANCELLED and they sent a note home yesterday in his book bag. Well I looked in his book bag and there was just some junk in it - not even a book yesterday so I thought he hadn't brought the letter home. He was duly reminded by the secretary that he must remember to give letters to Mummy and was adamant he brought it home - then he produced a crumpled "slip" of red paper saying the club was cancelled

 

Heaven help if anyone finds out I am dumping him at a swimming pool on Sunday to be babysat by the lifeguard whilst I go pole dancing.....

[Snowy]

Oh dear Pengy But it happens! I forgot to pick Dan up from school one day because I was cleaning the chickens out! When I got there his teacher said "don't worry, we understand people get held up at work" I didn't have the guts to tell her I'd been home all day!

[nicki9]

You are a great mum, your posts here show that.

It is a nightmare being a full time working mum, just tonight, I got a message via the childminder that the school hasn't seen my daughters homework book "for weeks". A mad search found it shoved down the back of the sofa none of us had realised it was missing!

 

Last year I had to stop my 8 year old going to football club and send him to the childminder instead as I forgot to pick him up twice in a month . I was really worried school would call social services and I'd lose my job - teaching!!!

 

At the time I was mortified like you, but things need to be taken with a pinch of salt, when I was 11 I can remember coming home from school and putting dinner on for the family - and that wasn't unusual. We all do the best we can in the circumstances we have, and as long as our kids are happy, healthy, polite and gaining knowledge we are all doing fine.