BeckyBoo Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Feeling very sorry for myself right now and am wallowing in self pity. We're broke (again) and although we won't lose the house we're going to really struggle to pay the rest of the bills so it's causing no end of stress and arguments between me and OH. It's middle daughters birthday tomorrow wih a party for all her friends on Saturday and i'm really struggling to find the money for it, but I can't do anything other than give her a good party because she's my daughter and I won't let my children down. Then, having posted how healthy small boy is on another post, he threw up in the car on the way home from shopping today and is now fast asleep on the sofa (ill sleeping as opposed to having a nap) so that means another awful night with no sleep for me (how awful am I feeling sorry for myself when he's ill ) I get hardly any sleep anyway as none of my children slept very well until they went to school and he's obviously only 3 so he comes in EVERY night, OH NEVER wakes up, I'm not even back to work until Thursday when my whole sleep deprived 54 hour week will start all over again with only 4 hours sleep a night to keep me going. It's raining, the hens are only laying 2-3 eggs a day between 8 OF THEM and my recurring sore throat (Dr thinks I've got nodules but I chickened out of the hospital as I didn't want the camera down the throat thing ) is now so bad that it's not recovering in between working weeks, I can hardly talk - OH's dream - so I've bitten the bullet and am going back to the Drs for another referral. And mostly that wouldn't bother me, I am normally Mrs Strong, but just today I don't want to be Mrs Strong, I want to be one of those girly girls that men feel compelled to look after only once people know you're strong they normally don't offer. It's a full moon which doesn't help as I'm always hyper emotional round then. Anyway, ramble, rant and wallow over, kids haven't even been fed yet as I've been mopping the floor where sicky clothes and car seat were so now I feel even WORSE that my girls are coming to me saying how hungry they are. Better get off here and do something about it! Mrs B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Oh Mrs B, what can I say We're here for you Hun. You wallow all you want - we can't all be strong all of the time. Sending virtual ((((hugs)))) and prayers for you xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Sometimes a bit of a rant is all you need, hope it helps to know that we're sending some virtual (((hugs))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 (edited) Sorry to hear that you are having a rough time at the mo Mrs B I know you always want to do the best for your children but I am sure that if they do not have a birthday party this year, it is not the end of the world and I am sure that you could make it a special day without having to spend a small fortune on a party. Its not easy being a Mum (((((((hug))))))) Edited October 14, 2008 by Guest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joojoo Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 "Ooops, word censored!"ody can be strong 100% of the time. I hope things get better for you very soon. In the meantime come on here as much as you want to let it out. I've read enough of your posts to know that you are there for others alot of the time - have something back for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 hugs being sent from up north as well ((((((HUGS)))))) get to the dr's and tell him you arent coping - he might sign you off work for a week (great unless you dont get paid if you dont work ), then call in the troups. does OH help? maybe he needs to help more. you sound like you work pretty crazy hours. feel free to rant all you like (and tell me to mind my own business if you think im stepping over the line ) hope the sun is shining for you tomorrow. cathy x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 It's the toughest job of all and the most under-appreciated. Don't feel you have to be everyone else's rock and never take some support back for yourself. Everyone needs it at some time. (((((hugs))))) and I hope you feel better soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Mrs B, it's okay to feel like this you know, it is allowed. You are always positive, friendly and supportive on this forum and I know when the chaps read your post they will be sending you the biggest hugs they can muster. You've had a rotten old time of it and half the problem is you deal with everyone and everything so well, no-one notices when you might need a bit of a break and I think that's precisely what you need - a bit of pampering. It's easy for me to say don't worry, because if you're anything like me, you'll worry anyway. But seriously, it achieves nothing but stress and unhappiness and you don't need that. I wish I could make you feel better - perhaps if you sit down with your OH and have a heart to heart, it might clear the air a bit. I'm sending you all best wishes and hugs - and I'm a seriously good hugger !! Lots of love xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedusA Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Just sending huge ****HUGS**** Mrs. B. I'm not surprised you're exhausted and fed up. OH sounds less than supportive IMHO. Personally I would "accidentally"prod him hard when your little boy creeps into bed with you. I hope the children are better soon an you get back on an even keel. The money issue is worrying me too. My advice would be to try to negociate with anyone you have doubts about meeting payments for. Usually better than waiting for the red bill. How does OH plan to deal with this? Not leave it all to you I hope! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Moocher Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 It's really difficult being the strong, cheerful, helpful, kind, loving, thoughtful, resourceful, creative, problem-solving, sleep-deprived, most-complained-at, reliable one in the family. You deserve a day off once in a while. I hope you get some TLC later, in the meantime here's a big <<<>>> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisa33 Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Hope things get better for you soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Oh Goodness Mrs B, I am sorry. We all have days where we just can't cope, & being broke & having to spend money doesn't help.does it? And I know how awful sleep deprivation, is too. I have been there,& its hellish. Hugs,happy thoughts & love to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 You poor thing . Even one of those things on their own would be hard enough to deal with . I really hope you manage to get at least one thing sorted so at least the others maybe won't seem so hard to bear . Can you say to OH what you've said to all of us here? Not as easy at all that, I know, but perhaps he just doesn't realise? In the meantime, have a hug . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathybc Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 what a horrid time you are having. Bigs from me and the gang. Fingers crossed that this time tomorrow things will seem a little better.x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Sending you a big fat hug and a virtual bar of chocolate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Sorry to hear you are having such a rotten time. I know how you are feeling to some extent (ex-hubby left leaving loads of debts and ADHD son who never slept ) but life does get better...much better. As someone else said, tackle one thing at a time. Ask favours from friends and family. Is there anybody who can look after the children whilst you and hubby go out? It doesn't have to cost anything. Go out for a walk, play tennis or something. Do you have a shared interest that you could do together? Try to keep yourself positive. Best wishes, Jan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Not much to say but big HUGGS from me and a virtual slice of the lemon drizzle cake I've cooked! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 what an awful lot to cope with, try not to think of everything at once and tackle one thing at a time, get OH to give you a cuddle once the kids are in bed and ask the bank for an emergency overdraft if you can? Maybe you can cut back next month instead to compensate? I'd also take some sick time if you can, you can't carry on as you are can you? Hope it all seems better in the morning. lots of love xxxxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGirlsMum Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Rant away, thinking of you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 So sorry to hear that you're having a pants time at the moment Mrs B . Sending you loads of good wishes and hugs and I hope that things start to improve for you very soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maccbean Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Oooh you poor thing. Big hug from me too. Debbiex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Milly Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Have a good wallow - it sounds like an early night might be even better. And one of ANH's big hugs - I don't know where she found it but it gives a warm feeling just looking at it. Milly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Rant all you like - most of us have been there before too and we got through it as you will. When the littlies are small its the worst time of all but its the time you want them to remember with fun etc so enjoy them while you can and rest while you can - I would try and let the house go a little and so you can find more You time. Hugs from here too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 So sorry things are pants at the moment for you Lots of hugs. Karen x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted October 14, 2008 Author Share Posted October 14, 2008 Wow. Can I just say how completely overwhelmed I am by all your lovely responses. Thank-you so much. Small boy is in the middle of his tummy bug, he's at the dry retching stage now which is really horrid and because he's only three he still doesn't really get it. So he wants to guzzle back a drink of squash which, of course, will probably come straight back up. At least the girls are older and understand when I tell them to sip it. Still, hopefully it will be a 24 hour thing, even more hopefully middle daughter won't get it tomorrow or Saturday and as for her party, it's all arranged, there was never any question of me having to cancel, it's just yet more money I guess we'll get by because we always do because we have children and you have to don't you? Thank you again so much, I knew this forum was good and I knew the people were nice, I didn't realise quite how lovely you all are. If only everyone in life was so supportive and kind thanks Mrs B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
