Chickvic Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Definitely complain! I breastfed both of my children until they were 2. As babies I fed them anywhere and everywhere. I fed in front of anybody. As they got older they would wait until we were home as they tended to climb and lift my top Again I am well endowed (HH) and yes it was fiddly but like others have pointed out it can still be discreet once the baby has latched on. I breastfed my DD at the side of a rugby pitch (I was standing up and supporting the team) and I've also walked into my DH's grandad's birthday party feeding DD. He was 80 and it was a big family do the only comment I got was "Someone couldn't wait for the buffet!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I would complain . That's no way to be spoken to . I fed in public when I absolutely had to (as discretely as I could) and have no problem with women feeding. Like others have said, it's a totally natural thing to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Its not difficult to feed without showing the world your boobs. I know I've done it plenty of times. Errrrrrrrrr - I was a J cup when I was feeding, & I would beg to differ Blimey Cinnamon, how long before you saw your feet again? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KAZAROO Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 There doesn't have to be a great unbuttonning and lowering of hideous bra flaps as in our mothers day. It can be done discretely with a hoiking up of top etc. The baby's needs far outway the swooning of a middle aged virgin in my book. What would they have actually done, I wonder...get security to manhandle you out of the store? Yeah the way my boobs are behaving it would of been with a JCB... Thank you for making me feel better- I thought I was being HORMONAL! As always the Omlet-Rays-O'-sunshine have come to my aid again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 A bit late but just adding my support, it doesn't matter what you were asking she had no right to be so outrageously rude, I'm very surprised to hear it to be honest. What an awful woman. Plus it IS the most natural thing, as someone else said, no one bats an eye at page 3 these days but start to feed a tiny infant in the way nature intended and everyone gets all huffy and embarrassed. Surely better to feed than to leave your poor babe wailing and hungry? And, well-endowed or not - it's not as though you're stripping your top off, then taking off your bra and parading through the deli section, think in the summer all those men who think that, just because the sun is out they can get their kit off, show off their gorgeous beer bellies and builders bums, and no one says a word. Breast feeding is fab, only got the hang of it with number two and then properly with number 3 but very luckily was never challenged, mostly people didn't even know I was doing it. I hope you do complain (if you've got time, not like you're not going to be busy with a month old little one!) and I hope you get a proper apology Mrs B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Its not as easy for us bigger boobed girls Bronze For a start I had to press my boob away from the babes nose with a finger,or it would almost suffocate her. So that takes an extra hand................. Then I had to have these special bras that zipped open under my boob rather than popped down from the top,so it was an 'all out' situation I am all for it - just making a point that public feeding isn't always so simple when you have bigger boobs Wish it had been A forum member who is having computer problems at the moment so isn't able to contribute but is breastfeeding at the moment would probably love to comment on this......she has a cover which has a snappy name but I can't remember it now. It copes with the problems of larger bosoms in a neat and discreet way -a muslin just wouldn't cope! Being average, I always coped using just muslins.....so, I would say yes, but don't like the wording of the poll Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Its not difficult to feed without showing the world your boobs. I know I've done it plenty of times. Errrrrrrrrr - I was a J cup when I was feeding, & I would beg to differ Blimey Cinnamon, how long before you saw your feet again? What with those & the belly,not for several months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I thought a kahuna was a type of chicken.......I presume the phrase is from some comedy show i don't watch? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I thought kahunas were erm.......male attributes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susanbb Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I've always used the word kahunas. anyway I'd complain to M&S about what you were put through today. I'm sure they'll act upon it and hopefully something positive will come out of this experience for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Only just seen this and I'm at the attitude of M&S. I breastfed my Bogwoppit in public, though tended to use a shawl to cover up a bit as he is a proper wriggler and it is impossible to feed without exposing a good eyefull to all and sundry I am still breastfeeding him but only morning and evening as I'm getting him used to the bottle (he starts nursery in two weeks) so don't tend to be out and about when breastfeeding him nowadays. I struggled to establish feeding (it was a really tough time actually) so was determined not to be put off by narrow minded people that think breastfeeding mothers should stay at home. Did you decide to complain to M&S in the end? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KAZAROO Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 Its not as easy for us bigger boobed girls Bronze For a start I had to press my boob away from the babes nose with a finger,or it would almost suffocate her. So that takes an extra hand................. Then I had to have these special bras that zipped open under my boob rather than popped down from the top,so it was an 'all out' situation I am all for it - just making a point that public feeding isn't always so simple when you have bigger boobs Wish it had been A forum member who is having computer problems at the moment so isn't able to contribute but is breastfeeding at the moment would probably love to comment on this......she has a cover which has a snappy name but I can't remember it now. It copes with the problems of larger bosoms in a neat and discreet way -a muslin just wouldn't cope! Being average, I always coped using just muslins.....so, I would say yes, but don't like the wording of the poll I was just trying to make light of it as otherwise I might'ave blown a gasket... I'm slightly calmer now; Thanks Guys.... I am most definately going to complain about Catlady and co... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KAZAROO Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 I thought kahunas were erm.......male attributes Apparently as I have just been corrected by my hubby.... I always thought it was a word for "susan's"/boobies....(no offense meant to anybody called Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I think it's a corruption of 'cojones' (sp?) - and Gordon Ramsey uses the word quite often Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madchickenlady Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 OMG! Sorry, that cat comment has made me laugh so much! I would have cracked up if she'd said that to me! It's such a random thing to say, lol! I bet everyone else who heard her thought 'what a nutter!'. I didn't breast feed my sons, but have no idea why anyone would complain about a baby having it's lunch Women don't generally strip to the waist while bellowing 'Behold! These are my ginormous milk filled fun bags!' I have sat in restaurants and cafes with breast feeding mothers and no one else has even known about it. What a very strange woman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KAZAROO Posted January 2, 2009 Author Share Posted January 2, 2009 OMG! Sorry, that cat comment has made me laugh so much! I would have cracked up if she'd said that to me! It's such a random thing to say, lol! I bet everyone else who heard her thought 'what a nutter!'. I didn't breast feed my sons, but have no idea why anyone would complain about a baby having it's lunch Women don't generally strip to the waist while bellowing 'Behold! These are my ginormous milk filled fun bags!' I have sat in restaurants and cafes with breast feeding mothers and no one else has even known about it. What a very strange woman She's probably gone on her MADCATLADY forum to complain about me???? I think what she meant to say was " I wouldn't know as I do not have any small people"! Little did she know that the wailing baby she turned away; had triggered an immanent flow of milk; resulting in me running through the town..Kiddi-winkles in toe and hurling myself through the doors of mother-care... flayling boobs; squirting milk on all and sundry lol Nah just kidding.... Karma will catch up with her I am sure... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angels4 Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Bebe au Lait Nursing Covers from www.embellishedmom.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 What a rude woman. Moan loudly. I fed both of mine and would do it wherever, whenever like many other posters. BIL was the only relative who ever reacted with anything like embarrassment. Shortly after DS2 was born I took him into school to show him off and was confronted with 20 teenage girls wanting to see the baby - who was firmly latched to my breast at the time. It was several minutes before any of them realised he wasn't just having a cuddle! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Its not difficult to feed without showing the world your boobs. I know I've done it plenty of times. Errrrrrrrrr - I was a J cup when I was feeding, & I would beg to differ I went from a DD to a J when I was breastfeeding too. The midwife was trying to console me one day and told me a story about her friend who worked in Westgate department store in the bra dept. She said that only last week a girl went in and had to order 38J nursing bras. I burst into tears and said,'That was me!' I fed my son until he was thirteen months old much to the disgust of my in-laws at the time and my ex. In the end he only wanted an evening feed but I still fed him when he wanted to. In the end it came to a natural finish when he was admitted to hospital at thirteen months with his first serious asthma attack. Mind you, the down side to breast feeding for so long (for me) was that I was still producing milk when my son was nearly four. It was very embarrassing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A chickychickychick-ENN!! Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I thought kahunas were erm.......male attributes Isn't that cojones? Pronounced 'Coh- hone-es' (pronouncing the second 'e')? The shop woman was bang out of order. I am sick of boobs only being seen as a sexualised object and in need of censorship. Their primary use is for feeding offspring. You breed, you need to feed and out they should come if needs must. There is a big facebook group about this which has been in the news this week. Honestly, we're encouraged to get them out on page three then chastised for getting them out for their proper innocent purpose. Crazy world. Crazy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 Kazaroo, would that be a store near where you live? I am totally disgusted and if I were still breastfeeding, I would be down there tomorrow at feeding time! How very unpleasant for you. Definitely complain! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I'm not sure if I want to laugh or bellow at the stupid comments made by Catwoman - apparently my face made DH stop & think before making a glib comment as I was reading the other posts ! How can people be so rude for heaven's sake; had it been an old dear feeling faint, a chair would have been whisked from nowhere & a glass of water found too - why is a new mum made to feel so uncomfortable in this day and age ? I'm sorry, but it really makes my blood boil. I fed my sproglets for 18 months (DS) and 19 months (DD), both their choice to stop (I was commended on bring up such confident children, not much consolation to the hard, sore boobed, hormonal, sobbing heap of a mother ), I would have carried on for a bit longer had they wanted to (although I do find still BFing a child of 3+ is a little odd, but that's just my opinion ). I remember one day, walking round Sainsbury's with the babe resting on the trolley handle latched on for a snack - "Ooops, word censored!"ody noticed! I spent two years over each pregnancy/early months dressed in a tshirt & a shirt/blouse loose over the top. As both of mine are winter babies, it helped with cold drafts too..... I never felt conspicuous or exposed - except the first time I fed DS in Burger King & looked like I was some kind of nutter, with my coat, DH's coat, a shawl & any other item of drape-able (is that a word ?) clothing/fabric to exclude any prying eyes. Talk about drawing attention to yourself !! I was very glad to move back into smaller blouses that fitted me, not me and the baby, when they moved on!! I'd had to replace some of DH's as I'd worn his to bits!! I would get writing to M&S & demand an apology at very least, good luck and I hope this is the last such experience you have. Which store was it, might be worth a day out with my step-daughter & niece who are both feeding small babes....! Sha x p.s. I remember well the milk fountain!!! I got DH soaked one day when I got out of the shower to the unmistakeable strains of half-starved child being played out in the bedroom - poor man, I'm not sure he's ever recovered ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 p.s. I remember well the milk fountain!!! I got DH soaked one day when I got out of the shower to the unmistakeable strains of half-starved child being played out in the bedroom - poor man, I'm not sure he's ever recovered ! Ooh, that brings back memories! Have sprayed halfway across my mom's living room! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I've contributed to this thread already but must say I thought it was a thread about watches . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clur Posted January 2, 2009 Share Posted January 2, 2009 I actually cringe when I see people shoving a bottle of artificial milk into a baby I can't imagine why anyone who can ( and not many people can't) breast feed choose not to do so I could breast feed but chose not to after a short period. A decision not made lightly and for reasons I won't go into here. Both times I was made to feel a raging failure by midwives and other mums with similar thoughts to you Jules, contributing to severe PND that took several years to get back on track. Things aren't always simple or black and white and it should be a personal (and educated) choice Back on topic, I do think the woman at M&S was rude and obnoxious and you should complain. Mums should be perfectly able to breast-feed in public. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
