tara Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Why are men so childish at times I dont know what started it l just asked him to put our little boy in his pjs it dont take 5 min and l needed just 2 min to clear the kitchen When l came upstairs hes shouting at me and ended up hitting my hand with a coat hanger which hurt now hes not talking to me.I had said earlier that l was feeling tied due to time of the month then he blames every thing on that.But what he ant see is that he was the one shouting at me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluffyfeet Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 I know exactly where you're coming from - someone once said to me 'little boys never grow up - their toys just get more expensive' and boy were they right. During half term last week my other half who is out of work at present, was looking after our boisterous 7 year old son, and usually took him out of the house for a couple of hours each day. I work from 10.30 til 4 and was really disappointed when I walked in the front door to be told "oh i've not been able to do anything in the house today I've been busy with Norton" I can just imagine what would have happened had it been the other way round! Thank God for Omlet and Prozac! Men - can't live with 'em, can't live with 'em - LOL Dawn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Mmmm, not good, especially in front of lttleun. Would he have preferred to tidy the kitchen? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ardene5 Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Hi So sorry to here about your problems but please remember it takes two to make a gggggggggggrrrrrrrrr problem and sometimes a male will see the problem for a different direction or get side tracked when helping doing an other job. We can all make errors it is just one of those things that has to be lived with. If we upset our lady, we do not mean to ..... it just something else has upset us and you are in the firing line at the wrong time or place when we blow. Hope you understand that we are human too and need a bit of free time to chill out. Some go to the pub, others mess about with a bike or car, go to the football match, fish etc, etc,etc.... I chill out after everyone is in bed by chatting to friends on here, looking after the hens with my better half and the family, walking our boxer girls, taking our 2 sons to the football match . The best chill for me is enjoying a day out with my better half, this for me is the best way to chill as we can share our life together. Best regards Ian Ian & Valerie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Hi Ian I hope Valerie gets her 'chill out' time too and I'd take a bet you are never 'in the firing line' when something upsets her Men never are.....they have a knack of disappearing at PMT time Jx Edit to say I got all my 'quoty' bits wrong, but I'm sure you know what I mean ..... it just something else has upset us and you are in the firing line at the wrong time or place when we blow. Hope you understand that we are human too and need a bit of free time to chill out. Some go to the pub, others mess about with a bike or car, go to the football match, fish etc, etc,etc.... I chill out after everyone is in bed by chatting to friends on here, looking after the hens with my better half and the family, walking our boxer girls, taking our 2 sons to the football match . The best chill for me is enjoying a day out with my better half, this for me is the best way to chill as we can share our life together. Best regards Ian Ian & Valerie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ardene5 Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Hi Ian I hope Valerie gets her 'chill out' time too and I'd take a bet you are never 'in the firing line' when something upsets her Men never are.....they have a knack of disappearing at PMT time Jx Edit to say I got all my 'quote' bits wrong, but I'm sure you know what I mean ..... it just something else has upset us and you are in the firing line at the wrong time or place when we blow. Hope you understand that we are human too and need a bit of free time to chill out. Some go to the pub, others mess about with a bike or car, go to the football match, fish etc, etc,etc.... I chill out after everyone is in bed by chatting to friends on here, looking after the hens with my better half and the family, walking our boxer girls, taking our 2 sons to the football match . The best chill for me is enjoying a day out with my better half, this for me is the best way to chill as we can share our life together. Best regards Ian Ian and Valerie Hi Jackie. I answer this because there are not many men on here and think that it is a bit one sided if I did not reply. Yes Valerie does have her chill out time I never stand in her way as it is very important for her to relax from everything. I believe that it takes two to make an argument and it is bet to not start it. So I prefer to say sorry I did not mean it like that than to have a row. This is because it does not do any one any good, as the blood pressure goes up and puts a strain on the heart. "Me time" is very important to anyone in any relationship as it allows time to think or chill out and relax or recompose them selves and should be taken by both parties . Best regards Ian Ian and Valerie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMWARDFARM Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 I'm with Ian it takes 2 to tango! In any relationship an argument is always good occasionally, clears the air. What you need to remember is kids have a great knack of antagonising situations and winding their parents up unfortunately for the parents they have to take it out on each other as they cant take it out on the kids! We cant miss the plain fact that NO ONE (men and women) should hit each other whatsoever that is the bigger issue here. jackiepoppies I don't think she said that he did it in front of her son, even still its not right! There is bound to be extra pressure in relationships due to the current economic decline but that is why it is all the more important to stick together! Christian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..lay a little egg for me Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Well, whatever started the argument, tara, he should not be shouting at you or hitting you, especially in front of your little one. That is totally out of order, even if he felt grieved about being asked to put the pjs on or whatever. I hope he is suitably upset and shocked that he hit you...and that it is never repeated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Ditto the above. Yes it takes two to tango but he shouldnt have hit you with the coat hanger. Hope you are ok this morning. Big hugx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 It may well take two to Tango - but then it follows that it may be beneficial if two also helped keep the house tidy......and two helped to get a meal ready....... I'm going now........... - or I may be off up the M6 with Claret's chainsaw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christian Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 I answer this because there are not many men on here and think that it is a bit one sided if I did not reply. Best not to answer Ian, stay quiet. You should know that Women are always right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 It may well take two to Tango - but then it follows that it may be beneficial if two also helped keep the house tidy......and two helped to get a meal ready....... I'm going now........... - or I may be off up the M6 with Claret's chainsaw As Phil says; he never argues with me because he can't stand the sight of his own blood! Not true.. I'm a total pussy cat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMWARDFARM Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 It's all very well saying 2 should do the cooking, cleaning and fair share I totally agree but I certainly don't know their personal circumstances. I am currently working 12 days of 12 hour shifts + travel time from personal perception I am already doing 144 hours str8 I would not expect to go home and do the cleaning, cooking and anything else that goes with it. Come on team! Every1 has said it is wrong to hit someone, and he was out of order, and offered own experiences. What beneficial advice can we offer. Christian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tara Posted February 25, 2009 Author Share Posted February 25, 2009 Thankyou every one l was so upset l was feeling quite emotional last night.He has rung this morning to see if l am ok I will be asking him not to hit me with anything latter .It was not done infront of our children.It dose take 2 to tango but 1 has to still start it and 2 carry it on last night it was him.He knows l wont argue around our children because of my upbringing.But fingers crossed when he comes home latter l will get my point across then it should be finished.Thankyou again l just needed to talk and dont want to talk to friends incase they labell him or somthing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TOMWARDFARM Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Good to hear it is all sorted (or likely to be) just try to get to the root of it, if there is any underlying issues or if he is frustrated about something else and venting his anger in the worng way rather than taking to you Christian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 I hope everything is much calmer this evening. There is such a fuss made if a man gets frustrated and throws something or hits out in a one off gesture of frustration but women do this too and children. We all need to try to control out tempers but sometimes we can't and shouldn't judge people on single incidents. I am glad that you feel able to let off steam here, it is so much easier than talking to friends or family and can help diffuse a situation. Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Finally, a man who is worldly wise: Best not to answer Ian, stay quiet. You should know that Women are always right. Christian - you can come here and tell my OH that anytime you like. Shall I put the kettle on now? Tara, I think you did well to not retaliate with anything - the hanger would have been a red rag to a bull with me - then that makes things ten times worse! Or I would have told him how childish he was and laughed at him. Again ten times worse. Actually I am my own worst enemy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
