chickencam Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 My ED could relate to your story Kitbag. She says that she gets fed up of walking past old people and seeing them either cross the street to avoid her or looking really suspicious if she makes eye contact and smiles of passes the time of day. The vast majority of teenagers are normal kind polite human beings and should be treated as such Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geoid Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 My ED could relate to your story Kitbag. She says that she gets fed up of walking past old people and seeing them either cross the street to avoid her or looking really suspicious if she makes eye contact and smiles of passes the time of day. The vast majority of teenagers are normal kind polite human beings and should be treated as such I know what you mean, I was visiting my Gran one day (she lives in an old peoples home) I walked past an old lady on my way, she starts yelling at me, 'young hooligan, why are you here, I will call the police, you will be photographed [by the CCTV]' I tried to explain I was visiting my gran, but this old lady was having none of it, she kept on going on that I would be photographed, so I smiled sweetly and said 'cheese' and walked away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 OMG this is a wonderfully funny thread but sad in a way that people are like this - I hate when you wait for a car to pass and they dont even look your way - the air is usually blue in my car as I always acknowledge others. In the supermarket I go in front of the trolley and pull it behind me and leave it quite a space from me and so the next person has to stay well down the belt. I cannot stand people breathing down my neck or hitting me with a trolley. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 ....In the supermarket I go in front of the trolley and pull it behind me and leave it quite a space from me and so the next person has to stay well down the belt. .... great idea! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 It is a good idea but I'd probably run my feet over - i always get the dodgey trolley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 The same tactic works well for me too, I avoid invading their personal space and they cannot get into mine! I cannot stand bad manners, there's just no excuse! I once had an elderly woman ( I won't say lady, she didn't act like one!) reverse her shopping trolley hard into my legs as I waited behind her to get on a bus. I was about 15 at the time and in my school uniform. The spikes on the bottom (used to stand it up I think) s"Ooops, word censored!"ed my leg and drew blood. I was so shocked I yelped and didn't know what to say. She turned and looked at me mopping my leg, then got on the bus without a word of apology. I also use the loud 'You're welcome' when someone doesn't say thankyou. One of my DSs friends never does, although he says 'please', one day I will have him trained! However from adults who should know better it's terrible. I also make a point of NOT crossing the road away from teenagers and showing my DSs that you treat everyone as a human being and expect the same in return. They usually remember . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 Me too YP , I say loudly "Excuse me please" and the said teenagers part like the Red sea! Moses eat yer heart out. I refuse to walk in road just to avoid noisey kids when i live with 2. If you treat with respect they tend to respond in kind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Made me giggle this thread... Years ago when I was in London as a young slip of a thing, waiting in the rain for a red bus in Leytonstone front of the queue and out of no where...suddenly I am at the back!!! Um! Free bus passers! Oh if ever in a supermarket when you are being served by one of the assistants that is doing you a big favour by taking your money when they dont say thank you...heres what you say.... You Say."Did you say something"? They Say "NO" You Say "Oh I thought you said thank you" I tell you that will cut them dead as you walk off..never fails indie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 don't get me started about assistants! I was in Aldi yesterday and the girl serving me didn't look at me once, she was too busy talking to the manager! THE MANAGER!!! and they were talking about personal stuff I despair! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 23, 2009 Author Share Posted May 23, 2009 You should have joined in, a few wise nods and a few "ooh I knooow" bit like Sybil in fawlty Towers would shut them up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mostin Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 "You can't judge a book by it's cover" . We were in ASDA the other day and paying for some T-shirts in the clothes bit, so not on one of the normal check outs. The girl serving us looked exactly like the type you would expect to be chatting to her mate and ignoring the customer, but she was serving us very well and and folding the clothes nicely, despite the annoying phone at the side of her that wouldn't stop ringing. Then out of the blue, her supervisor, she of the trainee blue rinse brigade thundered up and started berating the poor girl, in front of us, and mid transaction that she must always answer the phone, no matter what she is doing! The girl just said, "but I'm serving a customer, I'll answer it when I'm finished". Blue rinse Atilla wasn't happy with that and carried on until I cleared my throat and she then realised customers were being kept waiting. Poor girl was very flustered, but I said to her that she did the right thing. I would have been very offended if she had stopped serving me and answered the phone. She looked a bit cheered up after that. Honestly , who thought up that bright idea of a phone answering protocol that ignores customers . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 good for you for sticking up for her, why didn't the supervisor answer the phone??! I was in front of a similar situation a few years and I actually said to the woman doing the telling off "I don't think it's very professional to reprimand a member of staff in front of customers!" She went bright red and walked off. My grandmother worked in a shoe shop, this is before the war, and back then it was a very highly desired and priviledged position to work in a shop. She was helping a lady on with some shoes which were a rather tight fit. She managed to get the woman's foot in and my nana said "you're in Meredith, you're in!" (apparently an old expression, don't know its etymology). Anyway, she got the sack for being impolite to the customer. Now it seems de rigeur to be rude to the customer! My mum made me laugh once, she used to be a trainer on a YTS scheme and was being served by a really rude assistant so mum said "I'm a youth trainer, do you mind if I bring some of my trainees into this shop to show them an example of very poor customer service?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 (edited) YS has a litltle friend of 8 who says "thank you so much" its so cute I nearly dropped his dinner My cousins baby is about 2, and has been told he can't day no. So, when the chickens were out in the garden and we were putting then back in the run, he was shouting "No Thank You! No Thank You!" I just shout You're Welcome to people who don't say thankyou Edited May 23, 2009 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 .....he can't day no.....who don't day thankyou sorry to see you have a cold! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Lewis Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 .....he can't day no.....who don't day thankyou sorry to see you have a cold! Typing in a rush! I normally do have a cold from being outside in the rain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saronne Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 It's the queue in the post office that does it for me every time with the blue rinses pushing to the front. It's always women too I've found I went into a small post office not far from where I live. There was only one person in the queue, and an elderly lady sitting on a chair having an animated conversation with another elderly lady. I stood behind the only person in the queue when the little old lady who had been sitting on a chair got up and pushed in front, stating that she had been there first! THe thing is, I would have probably invited her to go first if she had been in the queue behind me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mostin Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 good for you for sticking up for her, why didn't the supervisor answer the phone??! I was in front of a similar situation a few years and I actually said to the woman doing the telling off "I don't think it's very professional to reprimand a member of staff in front of customers!" She went bright red and walked off. My thought exactly! If the supervisor had time to tell off the staff member then she had time to answer the phone. And that would have been far more professional behaviour than berating a member of staff in front of a customer . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scramble Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 I remember things like that happening to me Little old lady, dressed in a cosy nanny-ish way looked ever so sweet, dropped her purse at the till... can you guess what happened next? I picked it up for her was about to give it to her when she starts screaming 'Thief! Thief!' She thought I was a teenage hoodlum... me? At least my parents were there to say I was trying to HELP not STEAL but that didn't stop the hostile glances even though I apologised profusely. The lady at the till looked amused Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitbag Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 Made me laugh on wednesday, I was at placement and got "Get out of my house - we don't want people like you here. Go on, get out! Shooo!!" shouted at me . Thats nice of them!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scramble Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 Made me laugh on wednesday, I was at placement and got "Get out of my house - we don't want people like you here. Go on, get out! Shooo!!" shouted at me . Thats nice of them!! Lol - charming ay? It was on the dementia unit though, and I know that they are very confused etc. It can be quite scary though - there is this lady who used to be a teacher on there. She shouted at me that she would never teach me, and that I was a disgrace. Then I smiled nervously and she told me I had a horrible smile and if I dared grin again she'd throw her breakfast at me. I didn't smile again - but shortly found myself dodging bacon and egg which was flying in the air towards me. Oh dear You've been through it all haven't you? Sorry ythat you've had some bad experiences, not all old people are bad but some... well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruth1 Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 I was in Asda in Edinburgh last month, had half a trolley still to put up on the belt when this older lady proceeded to start putting her shopping up not leaving me any room to continue putting mine on( perhaps I should have stuck my trolley at the end of the belt, but i like to have it in front of me, and people can clearly see your putting shopping up) I gave an ' excuse me but i've still got shopping here would you mind moving yours out the way' comment, and got a sarky oh right back, she stops putting her shopping up and then two minutes later sticks it all back on again and I'm still not finished, she shoves mine up out of her way as Im putting it on the belt and sticks her stuff on. This prompted a hormonal pregnant comment( patience has went right out the window, over the last few weeks) of ' oh for heavens ( not quite the word) sake , do you have any manners?' which got no reply, meanwhile the cashier was blindly ignoring all this going on. So she got a ' this would never happen in the borders, because people have manners there' comment apologies to all those in edinburgh who's manners are intact. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 apologies to all those in edinburgh who's manners are intact. I should think so too . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Funny how so many of these stories revolve around supermarkets. Anyone would think that they were stressful places to be,rather than the little oasis of calm & joy that we all know they are Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littleleicesterfox Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 I know manners are not what they used to be but this beggars belief.I was in Lidl today unpacking my shopping onto the belt as one does, when I was nearly knocked flying by someone behind me reaching over for the divider thing that goes between your shopping and next persons. i turned round expecting Atilla the Hun to find a 5 ft granny standing there. I was about to take her to task but merely TUTTED very loudly. I am 5ft9 and size 14 so not petite Then - as I was about to put my card in the machine shes standing there. At this point I said "Could you move please" - i didntwant her seeing my PIN and mugging me outside Honestly I know old people get a rough time in the UK but I pity any mugger who takes her on. She nearly floored me I understand totally, when I was on crutches for six months last year the old ladies were always still shoving past me and once one actually took a crutch from under me to get to the checkout first! I hasten to add that old gentlemne were lovely and always helped me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
