littleleicesterfox Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 DH's parents came over on Tuesday night to help us out with the kids while DH was having his gall bladder removed yesterday. This morning, when I went and got dressed upstairs they left without saying goodbye to me. I found that a little rude and I wouldn't do that kind of thing but I don't know if I'm just being too sensitive DH says they just didn't know when I was coming back down but I don't think it would have hurt them to stay another five minutes, or whatever it would have been. Am I justified in feeling a little bit snubbed? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 I think I would be feeling the same as you My mum lives three doors away and we always say hello/goodbye, even though we are in and out of each other's houses all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy-Mama Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 It's difficult to say as I don't know them, they were maybe just in a rush to get going and if they didn't know how long you were going to be thought it best to just go, I am sure they didn't mean to offend you. though I have to admit I would feel the same as you do but then I am always being told i am too sensitive Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 I'd have been miffed too - they could have called up the stairs to you if they weren't sure when you'd be back down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 I agree, i'd be miffed to. Like Claret says if they couldn't wait they called of called up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluffyknickers Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 Was there anyone else in that they asked to say good bye to you? Did they shout up and you didnt hear them? I dont know if you had already been down and then gone back up and they had seen you but if they hadnt seen you in the morning did they think you were asleep and not want to wake you (mind you they could have left a note). If answer is "no" to all that then I too think its odd and rude of them. Dont know how close you are but maybe you could ring and say thanks for helping out and you wondered if they were ok as when you came down they were gone - see what they have to say. In-laws are odd creatures Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 if you had still been in bed i would say that they were being considerate & didn't want to wake you, but as they knew you were up & about it does seem a little odd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 It's rude! But I was used to that - I got invited to dinner once and ended up with nothing to eat because they "didn't know what vegetarians ate". lOUISE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 (mind you they could have left a note). I'd have left a note, thats just plain rude! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 Maybe they just didn't think. You could try the 'sorry we didn't get to say goodbye' tack next time you see them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 It does seem a bit rude . Do you see them a lot? If they're always at your house maybe they just thought that they'd see you again soon anyway? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy-Mama Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 It's rude! But I was used to that - I got invited to dinner once and ended up with nothing to eat because they "didn't know what vegetarians ate". lOUISE lol, why invite you if they weren't going to feed you... I once got told I couldn't have any gravy because vegetarian gravy doesn't exist Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littleleicesterfox Posted June 11, 2009 Author Share Posted June 11, 2009 Thanks guys. I'm not doing a big offended thing about it but it has been nagging at me today because I am a little bit miffed If I stay at someone's house, whether I have been there to help them out or not, I always say thank-you and goodbye to the people who own the house. However, they tend to be very practically minded but it sometimes passes the point of tactlessness or rudeness to me. They do things like bring their own food to the house (although they have stopped bringing butter, milk, sugar and tea-bags now and I've managed to wean them down to bread and tins of tuna only. When my hubby was married to his ex-wife they used to bring their own sandwiches and sit out in the car and eat them at mealtimes so I count myself lucky) so they are a bit odd sometimes, so it fits the pattern to be fair. I guess I just needed someone to understand as DH is as unemotional as them and so didn't see my point at all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mags56 Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Outlaws! WHo'd have 'em! They ought to come with a manual...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlo Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I think that Egluntine's approach is probably a good one. A few years ago OH and I used to go and visit my brother who lived with his girlfriend and her children who were in their teens at the time. (Now in their thirties so definitely some time ago!) As we were leaving brother's girlfriend used to say, "Oh, don't forget to go and say goodbye to the children." They were in their rooms at the time or doing something that they wanted. At the time, I couldn't put my finger at what I thought was strange about this. Now I have my own children I realise that there is no way that I would send guests or family members back into the house to search for children to say goodbye to. I would call my children down from whatever they were doing to say goodbye to the guests! I know it is kind of the other way round but your thread brought that memory back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hens@HalfMoonLane Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 They sound really odd bringing their own food so no I wouldn't be miffed I would just think it was normal for them (not other people though!) Outlaws - who would have them. I'm convinced OH was swapped at birth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nutmeg Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 I don't think you are being over-sensitive at all. They sound incredibly rude; bringing their own food, etc. Practical people or not, manners cost nothing. Don't waste your energy on them, hope your OH is OK after his op. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WarrensWorld Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 I think they were ill mannered. Civility costs nothing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 Outlaws! WHo'd have 'em! They ought to come with a manual...... .......................and a health warning! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littleleicesterfox Posted June 14, 2009 Author Share Posted June 14, 2009 DH spoke to his dad who apparently sounded very sheepish at the whole incident. His mum was anxious to get off apparently - I must admit his dad is lovely but his mum does grate on my nerves a little at times, even though I'm pretty used to her now. I know that's OK though because DH feels exactly the same!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
