Janepie33 Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 I used to think that my daughter and I were close, but having just found out that she has had a boyfriend for over a month and decided not to tell me, makes me feel quite sad. What makes it worse, is that everyone else seemed to know! My sister phoned and said "So, G's got a boyfriend?" How did she know? Well DD changed her status on Facebook and my sister e-mailed her. A friend asked "So, G's got a boyfriend?". How did SHE know. Well, her son's girlfriend told her! My son knew - he asked her and she told him. When I asked her she denied it! Is this normal teenage behaviour, or should I go and sit in the Eglu and sob? When I asked her why she didn't tell me, she said that I was too embarassing. Embarasing? Huh! What's embarassing about keeping chickens, wearing Crocs, showing an interest in spirit guides and answering the door to people in my nightie?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 Yes, its very normal teen girl behaviour My eldest had been seeing her boyfriend for about a month before she told me (actually it was before I had wheedled it out of her!) Normally we are very close,but I guess the first boyfriend thing is such a rite of passage that she wanted to keep it to herself for a while.Some of her friends did know before me, but I am happy that she told them first anyway Where we live is pretty remote so she needs me transport wise to see him, so she had to tell me eventually Oh, & ALL teenagers are embarrassed by their parents - its the Law! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 Not just girls - boys can be secretive too. My 13 (yes 13) ES my baby is carrying a torch for a girl who happens to be a patient at my surgery. He admitted to liking her when I wheedled it out of him the other night I dont want this to develope into anything as if it goes pear shaped things could be difficult for me at work. he understands but I think she likes him too. Oh help - I dont have an Eglu can I join you in yours - and are they big enuff for humans Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 I dont have children, but I teach a lot of 11 to 16 year old darlings and yes, this does sound about right. I think its the basic "you're an adult - you dont know anything" and the "urgh - doing what? but you're old!!!" I know that we have some fab teenagers on here, but I do wonder what they tell "us" that the parents dont know im sure that I kept tons from my parents cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mags Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 I have got 3 boys an a girl only ds2 is a teenager now , i more to go DS 2 never says if he has girlfriend unless a/ he needs money to buy her a present b/ he has love bites he can hide ! mags Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodcat Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 hey i've decided to speak out as i am technically still a teenager. It took me ages to tell my mother about my boyfriends. I really wouldn't worry about it and i certainly wouldn't sit and sob. It's one thing to talk about it with your aunt when your asked it's quite another when it's your MUM if it's any consolation i outgrew that quite quickly (about 5 years .) Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ness3103 Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 I used to think that my daughter and I were close, but having just found out that she has had a boyfriend for over a month and decided not to tell me, makes me feel quite sad. What makes it worse, is that everyone else seemed to know! My sister phoned and said "So, G's got a boyfriend?" How did she know? Well DD changed her status on Facebook and my sister e-mailed her. A friend asked "So, G's got a boyfriend?". How did SHE know. Well, her son's girlfriend told her! My son knew - he asked her and she told him. When I asked her she denied it! Is this normal teenage behaviour, or should I go and sit in the Eglu and sob? When I asked her why she didn't tell me, she said that I was too embarassing. Embarasing? Huh! What's embarassing about keeping chickens, wearing Crocs, showing an interest in spirit guides and answering the door to people in my nightie?! my daughter is 20 and still doesn't tell me anything, i find out most things when i go on facebook. i've found it quite because i used to tell my mum everything, we were good friends. i definitely embarrass my kids although their friends think i'm because i went to see fall out boy in concert and like dressing like a goth (occasionally). i'm also into spirit guides, tarot etc so she gets embarrassed because her friends call me mystic meg i think as they get older the relationship will change (once they have kids of their own ) and they realise we do sometimes know what we're talking about Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 I remember being secretive about my dates - that happened when I was in my late teens though and that was down to shyness on my part. I couldn't hide my OH, he kept chatting her up first and he was only just a friend originally and certainly not my boyfriend - yuk! With DS he was the same until I took a few of his friends home from a party and he asked what I thought of this rainbow headed girl. I thought she was rather nice and chatty - bit like DD, and funny - jokey. So I asked him outright and yes, she was his girlfriend. I think half the time is that they feel parents are going to embarrass them and ask lots of awkward questions of the new friend. Would I, as if. Don't worry too much - I think she is testing him around everyone first to see if he's good enough to meet your standards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scramble Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 Yes it's normal I've done the same thing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitbag Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 I wouldn't worry! I have done this too! My dad questioned my first boyfriend as soon as he found out I had one, and my mum just embarassed me! No wonder I didn't tell them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janepie33 Posted July 18, 2009 Author Share Posted July 18, 2009 Thanks for all your posts everyone. I feel much better. I did have to go and sit in the cube though, as I had to retreive a rouge egg, right in the corner. I had to slide in on my tummy and then crawl along using my husbands strap on kneeling pads. I did think about taking my trousers off, but thought better of it, just in case DD decided that that was the moment to bring new boyfriend into the garden. That would not have been good. Thinking about it, when I was 17, I didn't tell my parents anything either!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 All perfectly normal I'm afraid Been there with all 3 DS and DS too You know those phases they went through as littlies Stamping feet, tantrums, picking N**** just another one of those Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 I probably know more about my nieces, including the body piercings that one of them has , than my sister does - partly through Facebook, partly because they don't care as much about my reaction/response. If it's any consolation, I would NEVER have confided in my mum about things like that - however that doesn't mean that I didn't love her dearly, and we had a very good relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 My cousin might be moving out to live with her friend but my auntie doesn't know yet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scramble Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 But you know But not your Auntie, this is how the whole thing starts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 But you know But not your Auntie, this is how the whole thing starts The whole family knows, just not her The joy of facebook Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
