Olly Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 So sorry to hear that, but glad to know that his last weeks were spent in a place where he was well cared for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 So sorry for your loss. re your ED, she is now an adult and it's her call whether to attend his funeral not your OHs (and not yours sorry ) all you can do is support her decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daphne Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 I am very sorry too If your daughter wants to go to the funeral I can't think your OH would object really, its probably the shock. My great grandmother died aged 95, when I was at Uni, it was natural that I would go to her funeral, having known her all my life. I realised even then how lucky I was to have known her, not many of my friends had great grandparents still alive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 I'm so sorry Liz to hear about your Grandad, sending big (((hugs))). I also think that it should be your DD's choice as to whether she attends the funeral or not and I'm sure your hubby will come to that realisation too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 3, 2012 Author Share Posted October 3, 2012 She was the only one of her friends to have a great grandparent and most of them didn't have a full set of grandparents either, so she is very fortunate to have known him. It is entirely her choice as to whether or not she goes to his funeral and I will support her either way. I have just told my parents the news, they hadn't spoken to him in over 25 years, he was my Dad's father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daphne Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 I expect there will be lots of mullings' over in your parents' and daughter's houses tonight, not an easy time for any of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superkitty Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Really sorry for your loss. My grandma died last Sunday after making it to her 90th birthday the week before. A blessed release for her really, but still so sad, we really miss her Thinking of you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 So sorry to hear about your Grandad xx Sending my sympathies to you too superkitty xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 So sorry to hear of your losses x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyripkim Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Just been reading your posts, I am so sorry for your loss, you just have to believe he is in a better place now and had lots of family who really cared about him. Sending hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted October 3, 2012 Share Posted October 3, 2012 Sorry to hear of the loss of your Grandad. As others have said your ED will have to make her own decision about the funeral, you or your OH can not make that decision for her. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Sorry to hear about your Grandad. Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Sorry to hear the news. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 I'm sorry to hear that . My YS didn't go to his grandad's funeral in June as it was the week he was away doing his D of E Gold expedition. He could have cancelled it but we decided against it. I have no regrets about that but, having said that, he wasn't close to his grandad. I think it has to be your daughter's decision, not your OH's - she's the one that will have to live with the regret if she doesn't go. I still regret not going to a funeral years ago because I had 2 very young kids at the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 Thankyou everybody Thankfully OH has had a change of heart which is just as well because ED is determined to go to the funeral. She called us last night very upset and asked us if we thought she should go on an organised pub crawl with her halls, she had bought the t shirt but just didn't feel up to it, feeling that she might just bring everyone else's mood down. She had told a few of the people that she felt closer to what had happened, but didn't want a fuss made. We had a chat to her and then someone came round to see if she was going and she decided against it and spent the evening chatting to us on Skype. By the end of the evening she seemed ok again, it is hard for her being away from home. Sorry for your loss too Super kitty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...