Seagazer Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Oh I am sorry the news isn't better Liz, sending (((hugs))). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 I am so sorry to hear that. It does sound as if he is gradually slipping away, and I hope that the days ahead are peaceful and that you all have a chance to say goodbye, even if you aren't sure if he can hear you or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 Thank you for your thoughts, it has been put into perspective because a friend of ours is about to lose his brother after a sudden devastating stroke and he is only in his early 60's, life is very cruel at times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 I'm sorry to hear this latest news Liz, but it's good the the hospital seem to be caring for him and getting him to eat. I hope that when the time comes, his passing is peaceful and he is surrounded by the love of his family. Love to you all xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kazmac Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 I'm sorry to hear this too. It's sad when people seem to be starting to slip away. I'm glad the staff seem to be looking after him well, on the whole. He deserves nothing less. Thinking of you xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I am so sorry, I hope his final days pass peacefully. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I'm sorry it is hard seeing a loved one in this state. Good to hear you are happier with his care, I hope he stays calm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 23, 2012 Author Share Posted July 23, 2012 Well it is his 93rd birthday today, we are going over to visit him this evening, but it is unlikely that he will know that we are there. We will feed him his supper and try to get him a nice little tub of good vanilla ice cream for his pudding, it is the only thing that seems to give him pleasure now. They are talking about moving him to a nursing home, there is a family meeting with his doctors and social services tomorrow afternoon. It is going to need to be a specialist home for dementia care we think, my aunt thinks that we are going to struggle to find anywhere to take him because he needs so much supervision, even when sedated he can climb to his feet and and stand in the middle of his bed and he keeps hurting himself as a result. They have tried him with and without night time sedation but he gets very distressed without it. It is breaking my heart seeing him like this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted July 23, 2012 Share Posted July 23, 2012 So sorry for you, it must be very hard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 So sorry Liz, it must be so hard to see him like this. I hope you manage to find somewhere for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 So sorry, I can only imagine how hard it is for you x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 24, 2012 Author Share Posted July 24, 2012 We went to see him and he was quite awake talking and mumbling quite a bit, he ate some of his supper and then we fed him the ice cream from a strawberry Cornetto, he even licked his own lips for this which he doesn't for any other food now, so hopefully he enjoyed it. We will see what today's meeting brings, thank you for your kind words everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 Glad he had quite a good day. I remember my Dad being in a similar position, planning his future care, he loved the outdoor life and for us there was nothing worse than the thought of a home, thankfully for him he did not make it to the home that was found for him. It is so hard when parents or relatives are no longer capable of the life that they would like, thinking of you, I hope you find somewhere good and caring for him. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted July 25, 2012 Share Posted July 25, 2012 I'm so sorry that things aren't better for him . He's lucky to have such a loving family around him though. I'm sure it makes a difference. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Best wishes. X Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuckmum6 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 This all sounds too familiar, my mum had a stroke when she was 69, we had the similar issues. I just feel that as a country we should be dealing with people so much better. Good luck and best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 26, 2012 Author Share Posted July 26, 2012 We are not really any further forward, they are continually assessing him for transfer to a local community hospital when a place becomes available, with a view to then finding a nursing home for him. It is a shame that we can't care for him ourselves, but he needs 24 hour supervision and can become aggressive. He has lost so much weight despite us making sure that he eats his evening meal. He hasn't really eaten much for the best part of a week now, I think he is slipping away, and to be honest I hope he is because he has no quality of life and is effectively helpless Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I'm so sorry Liz, sending (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Big Hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 29, 2012 Author Share Posted July 29, 2012 The good news is that he has been moved to Witney community hospital, he was moved on Thursday afternoon and he is in a single room right opposite the nurses station,the staff seem plentiful and lovely. We went over to see him today and he was much more alert and much calmer, he even knew who we were for a while. He is in a bed with low sides so they have moved it vitually to floor level with a couple of mattresses next to him in case he escapes, this was nice for us too because we could sit really close to him and give him a proper hug. Hopefully he can stay there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 It must be a great comfort to you that he is in more pleasant surroundings. I hope he'll be able to settle there for as long as he needs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 That is good news. So glad they have found him somewhere that can meet his needs better. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted July 29, 2012 Share Posted July 29, 2012 That sounds much better . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 I'm glad you got somewhere else for him Liz, sounds much better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 3, 2012 Author Share Posted October 3, 2012 Sadly my lovely Grandad died last night at 11pm aged 93 . R.I.P. He spent his last 5 weeks in a lovely care home just around the corner from the community hospital that he was in. His dementia was so bad that he barely knew what he was let alone who or where he was in the the last few weeks I have just had to break the news to ED who has only been away at uni for 5 days, thank goodness for Skype, it felt much more natural telling her face to face and having a good long chat afterwards. I can see that OH and I are going to fall out over whether or not she should come back for his funeral, he thinks not because she has only just started there and in his words, 'he wasn't even her grandad only her great grandad'. She was very close to him and is determined to come so I think we may well have words over this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
