Chicken boarders

[Sil-El]

Go and have a lovely holiday and try and relax.

 

You've had a tough few months and deserve a break.

 

Just ignore the moaners - how much help have they given you recently anyway? It's easy to talk when you haven't been in the front line doing all the hard work

[chickencam]

Thoughts are with you. My dad is currently in hospital 150 miles away and I have been doing the visiting and guilt thing. I feel for you. Enjoy your holiday you dad would want you to enjoy your life whilst you can ((hugs))

[Olly]

Ali, I have only just caught up with this thread and I'm so sorry to hear about your dad although it sounds as if it is a release for a very proud and independent man.

 

You were there for your dad when you needed him; the only thing you can do for him now is give him a fitting goodbye and you'll do that much better if you're feeling restored by the holiday you so badly need. Ignore the other people - it's nothing to do with them. You'll be mourning your dad for a long time - it makes no difference when the funeral service takes place, it's just a punctuation point in the grieving process. I hope you have a great holiday.

[Alis girls]

Thanks everyone - I have come to conclusion that some people like to hit you when you are down. I am at a very low ebb and aware the impact on the rest of family esp YS who has anxiety issues and OCD. I dont feel I have done anything to warrant the back stabbing and if I find out who it is I wont mince my words.

Chickencam - I wish you and dad well. I hope the outcome is more positive for you. Hugs coming your way.

 

Have packed and now just have to go to Heathrow tomorrow and get on the plane - will update from California. xx

[Daphne]

Try not to dwell on it, Ali's Girls, you are obviously under a huge amount of pressure. The others are right, this is "Ooops, word censored!"ody's business but your own, we all know how much you loved your Dad, and that is all that counts. You are not disrespecting him in any way. Some older people in particular have their own ideas about what is appropriate around death and funerals, but much of it is old fashioned convention, nothing more. Funerals are deeply personal, and whatever you choose to do is the right thing.

 

Conserve your energies for yourself, your holiday and your family. I hope you have a really nice time, you thoroughly deserve it

[chickencam]

Have a great time AG this is a time for you and your immediate family to cherish each other.