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[Alis girls]

Its an old saying but I found out yesterday that the lovely theatre nurse who prepped me for my op in 2009 died of breast cancer this week. She was in her 40's. My kids went to school with her nephews and we found that we knew a lot of the same people. She was one of the beacons in a struggling NHS, someone who went the extra mile and the few times I have seen her since we have had a quick chat. I can recall the conversation as if it were yesterday. She had been responding well to treatment and then it stopped working.

I know several of you have lost relatives and friends much younger and that many old people lived good lives too, but we hear so often of young people whose eulogies are glowing. I am probably rambling but I hope shes at peace and looking after others in the next world RIP lovely lady

[Daphne]

I'm sorry to hear this Ali's Girls it's always so sad when somebody close to you dies, and worse when they die young. I don't necessarily think the good die young, but when It happens it really makes me think; and usually I vow to live my life better, more fully. I know somebody who is one of life's goodies, she really goes above and beyond for everyone, and she had the greatest tragedy of her daughter dying very young. I do think that if her daughter had lived she would have been a good person too, her mother is such a role model. At the same time, another good woman I know is literally sadly on her death bed. Her daughter is a good friend of mine and she has inherited her mother's gentleness. There is a lot of sadness in the world.

[soapdragon]

That is so unfair...life can be a right b****r at times and the randomness is staggering - thinking too of the lady who was killed by debris from hurricane Doris whilst just going about her day to day life.

 

However, the theatre nurse that you knew clearly touched many other lives and a small act of kindness can have a lasting effect. When I had an ERPC following my third failed pregnancy the aneasthetic (however you spell it!) was very 'heavy' and my only recollection of the whole procedure was very hazy but what stuck with me was me coming round sobbing but the lovely Irish nurse in recovery saying 'Luck to you next time' as I was wheeled out to go to the ward. I don't know who she was but her kind words have stayed with me. I thank her every day when I look at my lovely YS.

 

It sounds as though your lovely friend had a very similar effect and was very much appreciated. When we are at our lowest ebb a few kind words make SUCH a difference. What a special person and a sad loss.

Edited March 4, 2017 by Guest

[Alis girls]

Thats lovely Soapdragon - when we are at our most vunerable just a kind word can make all the difference. I do hope I go the extra mile for my patients - I try too. I have to say as a first time mum I remember 2 lovely West Indian midwives on nights took ES to nursery so the poor, knackered tearful mum could sleep. I remember that when I look ar my strapping 21 year old.

[soapdragon]

When you are at a very low ebb and have nothing left in terms of resources, kind and empathetic words can make SUCH a difference but its often hard to recognise that from the depths that you are in; I SO wish now that I knew that lovely nurses name and could thank her personally for her kindness to a stranger .

 

Her thoughtfulness has made me stronger in my belief that no kindness, however small, is ever wasted and I do my best to repay that at every opportunity. That is a legacy worth it and will be so for your lovely nurse and also for you too.

[Groovychook]

Oh that's so sad

I think when someone dies at such a young age who has made such a contribution to society that it seems particularly shocking. Such a sad loss.

[Valkyrie]

How sad. So young. But I guess it's all part of the when your time's up that's it. Some people live very healthy lives but die young. Other people do the complete opposite - alcohol, cigarettes etc and have extremely long lives. Hard one to reason why life can be so mean.

[Alis girls]

Been to the funeral today. Really lovely and gave her sister a big hug. I think she was chuffed we had attended.

[soapdragon]

Good for you! I am sure that you have happy memories of a special person.