BarbaraJ Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 Aww cute photos!! lol my son when quiet used to concoct potions in the bathroom out of bubble bath and shampoo Also when my eldest (21)was about 3 she and her friend emptied a whole bean bag all over her bedroom, i can now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted April 21, 2008 Author Share Posted April 21, 2008 snowey children have to work it out for themselves its part of their developmental process. failing that i have a behaviour management course at wigston starting the 6th may for 7 weeks in the morning. i'm running it for a charity in leicester if you're interested!!!! free inc. free childcare (granted) Thanks Bertie! Although I don't really mind the working it out for themselves bit - I'm all for giving them a free rein and letting them learn from their mistakes (within reason) It's just those times when all you hear is "mum he hit me" "mum he won't let me play with" "mum I want to watch but he wants to watch" Funnily enough they do love each other dearly - Dan, 5 always wants to come with me to collect his brother from nursery and they run into each others arms as if they'd been apart for a week! On second thoughts Bertie, I might come anyway, just for the free childcare Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 I am sooooo glad I am not alone I have found that sending the children back to school toady really worked a treat for me However not sure what I am going to do for the six weeks holiday Rhapsody, your fab I was crying with laughter at your technique Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 I don't think the language improves as they get older, Take it from one who knows....it doesn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 I recommend having just one Oh its too late now isn't it? Cover your ears and comfort yourself by remembering that they are learning negotiating skills, which will come in handy later in life. My poor only child has it too easy - she doesn't have to fight for her 'rights' so she does not have a clue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feemcg Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 What's with the 'measuring' thing with boys?? (apart from the obvious!)-my 3 girls have never done this, yet I've been with a few friends who have boys and the 1st thing they do is measure who's got the biggest drink, the most chips etc. - that really irritates me , and gets me wound up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BERTIE MCSQUIRTY Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 [quote name=" I might come anyway, just for the free childcare and you get free aldi biscuits and a cuppa!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Doesn't the measuring thing extend into adulthood too (if you get my drift ) . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 I have to admit, I wondered what Fee was going to say on that score too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 What's with the 'measuring' thing with boys?? (apart from the obvious!)-my 3 girls have never done this, yet I've been with a few friends who have boys and the 1st thing they do is measure who's got the biggest drink, the most chips etc. - that really irritates me , and gets me wound up. It's just them practicing being competitive for when they 'grow up' (in the loosest sense of the term) and become alpha males I used to nanny for young boys - it was great training for working with all men, which is what I do now.... the same techniques apply and work well. Rosie had some fierce tantrums when she was little, and ended up on the naughty stair each time, followed by a discussion about her behaviour when she'd calmed down. One time, seh was screaming so loudly that I screamed back even louder (the neighbours must've loved this) and she stopped in mid-flow. I just said.. 'see, I can do it even louder than you', worked a treat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snoxy Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Very interesting thread...bit rushed for time now so I'm going to print off and read later This morning my 7 and 10 year old boys were barely out of their beds when DH appeared at the bottom of the stairs in his boxer shorts to announce they were arguing about who owns the World..I said in a rather loud voice...well that's obvious...it's me of course...tee hee, hee Best of luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 My 3 spent the two week Easter break bickering constantly it nearly drove me crazy My problem is that the older 2 girl 14 & boy 12 get on really well, but my youngest 9 has always been quite a 'character' and over the years has alienated herself quite a bit. She now gets upset because the other 2 won't spend time with her, but she isn't prepared to do the necessary bridge building which might make them more welcoming towards her, she still winds them up The older 2 also have more in common, especially now that they are both at secondary school. They are also both far more self contained, than YD. YD is a great kid, who loves to help and is a real busy bee but unfortunately she is also a busybody which doesn't make her popular, she doesn't know when to leave well alone where her siblings are concerned. I find that they all get on much better during the summer because it takes a couple of weeks for them to get used to spending more time together, then things tend to become more friendly. Using a naughty step with a 14 year old and a 9 year old doesn't really work Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Oh my word... I've got all this to come. Think I might step out of this thread now and live in ignorance while I still have some time left! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 In reply to the title two chairs bungee cords gaffa tape Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 In reply to the titletwo chairs bungee cords gaffa tape I find that a long piece of rope around their neck, tied to a stake in the ground works well too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Oh my word... I've got all this to come. Think I might step out of this thread now and live in ignorance while I still have some time left! Prob best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Ivebeen reading this and howling!!!! I wonder what Mrs. B would say about this, shes a right one to make me giggle. Although this thread HAS put me off anymore. LOL Although, argueing with sibblings is character building Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Not when you're the Mum refereeing it ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Mine are 14 & 16 and highly competitive. If one gets something, the other wants bigger and better. They'd argue that black was white just to provoke a response and when it comes to who has had 5 minutes over their allotted time on the PC But when I finally crack and play the heavy handed mother they're suddenly best friends protecting each other from the mother from hell There are times when I despair, but I do love them dearly really Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ana's flock Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 In reply to the titletwo chairs bungee cords gaffa tape I find that a long piece of rope around their neck, tied to a stake in the ground works well too Thank you for the advice - I haven't tried that one yet... Two boys, aged 6 and 10 - half term. Husband at home most of the time (50 going on 5 and spoiling them rotten) - New addition: Au-pair, male, in his 20s... enough said! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Too many men around if you ask me Ana!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ana's flock Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 ...and so little time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Mine are 14 & 16 and highly competitive. If one gets something, the other wants bigger and better. They'd argue that black was white just to provoke a response and when it comes to who has had 5 minutes over their allotted time on the PC But when I finally crack and play the heavy handed mother they're suddenly best friends protecting each other from the mother from hell There are times when I despair, but I do love them dearly really I think you'd better send me a photo of your two - I suspect mine must be living with you when I've got my back turned . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Oh, if I had a pound for every time someone shouts 'muuuuum, so and such is hitting me' I would be one rich Lady. My kids have always fought. I try to ignore it mostly and let them sort it, but its not easy being the ref. They are learning debating and problem solving skills for later life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicken Licken Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Thankyou for putting kids back into perspective. Had a really c**p afternoon yesterday with some 15 yr olds in my class. One of them knows all the buttons to press and pressed them for the whole afternoon. Anyway I was not as calm as I aspire to be and ranted at him. I made him cry and felt like crying myself!! I know I reacted to him and I shouldn't have done, but I'm only human too. Anyway I expect I will get hold of him tomorrow and apologise - I am the adult after all. Tempted by the chairs, rope and black tape - but I'd get sacked. Did once have a TA who sellotaped a boys hand up to stop him sucking his thumb....not allowed at all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
