Rhapsody Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I rashly promised my Elder son he could have a late birthday/end of exams party, and I feel as if I have survived a Rite of Passage.. About 100 kids turned up and within 30 mins all the Magners was gone, 30 mins later all the Cava was gone so they were left with the 3% Carlsberg. What a good decision that was Problem was most of them were staying/camping and wouldnt shut up at bedtime - the main issues were with the 6th Formers who turned up uninvited and tried to take over. When I found 2 of them ripping down fencing to make a bonfire I lost it rather and unleashed a volley of Righteous Indignation. But the 5th formers were lovely, the rugby players escorted some gate crashers off the premises! I went to bed at 3, OH stayed awake and is now sleeping it off. I'm knackered. Body count- 12 broken solar lights, one missing chair, 3 piles of sick, 5 yards of fencing gone and a firepit that looks like its been to Hell and back. I think I got off lightly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 the damage count doesn't sound too bad considering, although I would have gone totally ballistic at gatacrashers.. I cant stand uninvited guests my head hurts thinking about having to do that in the furture for my 12 and 10 year old boys.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Oh my word! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xScrunchee Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Oh my word! Ditto Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 What is it with kids these days and their "new" words ...... "rinsed" , what's that about? . Mine are always saying "I've owned you" , like that makes sense . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 yes and another popular word at the moment is 'Random!' They say oh that's random!' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahJo Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I hope the next response is not "remember I told you" aka BBrother irritant. Good for you being so brave - at least you checked on them too - I would feel quite releived to have 3 piles of sick, but no admissions to A&E through poisoning or choking on vomit . I have all this to come - glad the 5th formers sorted the gatecrashers - I am sure the breakages might be replaced with a bit of , in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I hope the next response is not "remember I told you" aka BBrother irritant. if my son starts saying this he'll be on a hammock in the garage I cant bear it, she's THE most annoying person ever Did you son help clear up the mess?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 In my neck of the woods its 'You got served' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Well if you do give underagers alcohol..... Rather you than me. I think that level of damage is disgusting actually and I can't imagine any of my friends causing damage liek that when we were that age. We did drink but we were obviously able to cope with it. Hope the fencing goes back ok otherwise that could be pricey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I think the level of damage considering how many were there was limited. I agree that in an ideal world there would be none, but that's not likely to happen with youths and alcohol. My husband would have freaked though they would be there repairing the damage until it was good as new if he was there and that's not just our kids! (although he would have made sure their parents were in agreement ofcourse) if you damage it you replace/repair it. I am a little more lenient.. I can jsut picture him leading a team of hungover youths with tools in their hands repairing fence panels with me saying "it was the high winds"... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 You are braver than me - never done it and never will Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 We've never done it either. Not after hearing what a friend came home to. Can't go into detail on a family forum, but let's just say that finding vomit in the spare bedroom wardrobe a week or so later was the least of her worries. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I think you are very brave letting him have the party. I hope he helped you clean up too. He's one lucky lad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I have decided there is no way on this earth I am doing that for my kids.. I would rather spend some money and take them all on an assault course or something they want to do at that age.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Body count- 12 broken solar lights, one missing chair, 3 piles of sick, 5 yards of fencing gone and a firepit that looks like its been to Hell and back. I think I got off lightly. I think you got of lightly too. I remember going to a post exam party that ended worse than that you will forever be remembered as the mum who lets him have great partys cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 I'm pleased with how it went and proud that I felt confident enough of my son's friends and myself to hold the party. As for 'giving underagers alcohol' bronze, I am a realist. Kids at that age are going to drink whatever. I would much rather I knew and could control what is was than them sneaking in bottles of spirits to add to the soft drinks, now that is a recipe for disaster! We only had 1 boy who had to go for a lie down and he was fine this morning. All the misbehavors shuffled off today, apologised if they were out of order and all thanked me. I seem to have aquired 6 tents 5 sleeping bags and a pair of jeans. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I seem to have aquired 6 tents 5 sleeping bags and a pair of jeans. I take my hat off to you Rhapsody Just the thought would bring OH out in a rash and breathing into a paper bag Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 It looks like the OH and I have all this to come! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted June 15, 2008 Author Share Posted June 15, 2008 Oh dear my intention was to reassure you all OH didnt exactly enjoy the experience and I wouldnt want to do it again next week but nothing awful happened- a bit of minor damage but last time Elder Son had 3 friends over they managed to do £200 of damage to quadbike so hey ho. The gatecrashers from town were ejected, the sixth-formers from Elder Son's House were no worse than they should be, the party wasnt posted up in the internet as the Daily Mail would have you believe is inevitable and my son hasnt stopped thanking us. I think we need to start having better expectations of our young people, most of the kids here last night were charming. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basset Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Wow! You are so brave! You're son is very lucky to have you as a Mum, I bet he will remember the party for ever more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Good for you Rhapsody, you're braver than me... but then I don't have boys. Not too long ago, I went over to a friend's house to help her when her lad had his party - joined in for a while, then sat in the granny annexe listening to the noise and partying. There were the inevitable gatecrashers too and I evicted them with my best hard stare.... all 5'1" of me. There were a lot of sore heads the next day. I'm inclined to agree with you about the booze, but then from an Italian family, I was brought up drinking watered down wine and think that it helps engender a sense of responsibility. I don't drink at all now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Well done you. I too agree about the booze. I spend most of my working day with year 10 and 11 and I hear all the horror stories - believe me booze is the least of the worries and keeping it under control with the weaker stuff really CAN stop them getting stupid on forbidden fruits. I know they would have behaved at your house, with you there being cool and letting them have some Gnats wee lager - its when they go to the party down the road, that's being had behind the parents backs as they've gone on holiday that the kids will go ballistic and stupid with booze and goodness knows what. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xScrunchee Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I can see it from both sides. I can see that if certain things are forbidden it only makes them even more tempting and mysterious and often leads to over indulgence behind the parents backs which can be dangerous. At the same time I would be fuming if my child went to a birthday/end of exams party and was allowed to get drunk. When I was a child I was allowed wine mixed with lemonade or sometimes watered down sherry at christmas. It was very weak but I felt like I wasn't missing out on anything. I now never drink alcohol at all. It really has no appeal to me. Maybe because it was never forbidden or mysterious. I think that I feel it is up to the parents to decide what they think is best for their children and providing that they were all aware before hand that there would alcohol at the party then fine. I would rather my child tasted alcohol at home than at a teenagers party where they could get drunk but I have no strong view either way to be honest. Different strokes for different folks I say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 We allow our girls to have a very small amount of alcohol at home,at the weekends,with the view that they will know the effects it has,so will then act in moderation when they are offered it socially. I would rather they did this in a controlled environment than got lashed at a party as they didn't know how powerful some alcohol can be. Know your enemy,& all that........................ That said I was shocked that my 13 year old was offered a Bacardi & Coke by the parent of a friend at a party recently. I would have had no real objection had they consulted me first, it was the assumption that I found really shocking. That & the fact that it could have been very strong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
