Looney Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I met up with a couple of other new mums today in a cafe in town and we were all chatting away as you do (nappies, poo, crying, my baby this, my baby that etc etc ) and I was telling them of what an awful few days I've had. I came down with either a stomach bug or food poisoning on Saturday night and spent 24 hours being sick and 48 hours not being able to keep much down. In response to this my baby decided that he didn't want to breastfeed anymore (ok, I was pretty minging at times but not that bad!) and I have been struggling with this, getting quite upset about it ever since. A lovely lady came over to me on her way out of the cafe and after apologising for earwigging asked if I would like to speak to her as she is a breastfeeding counsellor and wondered if she could help! Such a a lovely thing to do especially as she didn't have to offer. Anyway, I'm following her advice and hopefully success will follow! These sorts of things restore my faith in human kindness Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Lou Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 What a lovely stor, its nice when people go out of theiy way without having to! I hope you manage to get back on track with the feeding and that you feel much better soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 How kind of her. I hope you are feeling better and that her advice helps you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lapinou Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Wow! I've wondered in the past if that would be an appropriate thing to do (offer to help, I mean) but will def do so in the future if you found it so helpful. Was already planning to say 'happy for you to PM me if you like (also a BFC)' before I read about the BFC in the cafe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Lorna that was such a nice thing for her to do. Sorry you have had a few pants days, i hope things look up for you now and the BFC helps. I hope folks give me good advice when Bean arrives - as a first time mum i will be willing to give anything a go! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I was quite put off by the term and thought of a "breast feeding counsellor" specially as a first time mum. Subsequently I was RUBBISH at feeding and gave it up after only a couple of weeks. Had DD2 in Australia and had to have a c-section under general then she lost lots of weight bla bla blah, so was in hospital for 11 days after. AND as they are VERY big on breastfeeding there (tiny sugar cane town in the middle of the rain forest) I had a LOT of input from the midwives and BFC's. Subsequently I fed her exclusively for the first 6 months AND was able to feed my son 2 years later straight away with no help as I was so confident because of what the nurses had done for me in Oz. SO, to cut this ramble short, I was never a stand on me soap box breast is best person as DD1 is fine and she wasn't bf, but hats off to BFC's they are FAB!!! Really good luck to you getting back on track with the feeding as it is great when it goes well. Hope you are feeling better too, sounds like a HORRID bug (can't blame babe for not wanting to latch on, hopefully he / she'll soon cotton back on again) MRs B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lapinou Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I hope folks give me good advice when Bean arrives - as a first time mum i will be willing to give anything a go! When's Bean due, Emma? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 How helpful - I hope it all settles soon Lorna. She took a risk - you might have all lynched her! We had a case of helpful earwigging yesterday as well - I'll have to pinch your heading! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I hope folks give me good advice when Bean arrives - as a first time mum i will be willing to give anything a go! When's Bean due, Emma? 23rd September but im sure it has it's own agenda! I must say ive got some very supportive friends - you know who you are - who have been great and already given me loads of advice but more will be needed when Bean decides to show up. Here's hoping the home birth goes according to plan! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted August 7, 2008 Author Share Posted August 7, 2008 Well, we appear to be getting back on track - hurrah! I had a bit of trouble establishing breast feeding when my little bogwoppit first arrived. He was doing the right thing, I was doing the right thing....we just couldn't quite co-ordinate it! The midwife arranged for the breast feeding counsellor to come and see me and she was wonderful. No pressure, no heavy lectures on 'you must persist' and she came every couple of days until I felt confident that all was going well. Emma, my advice is don't be afraid / embarrased to ask for help and support. I am famously bad at asking for help . I usually plough on stubbornly because I don't want to be a pain or a burden, which is ridiculous when there are people out there who can genuinely make a big difference. Hope your pregnancy is going well by the way, does your body still feel like your own?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 bogwoppit I loved that story! (Sorry, off topic) I had really good support from a BFC with La Leche League when YS was first born. My dreadful Health Visitor was trying to get me to bottle feed and warned me that my son would end up with brain damage if I didn't. Not what I needed to hear as a new mum with a 6 day old sproglet. Even my doctor agreed the Health Visitor was giving me the wrong information and that YS was ok (just small and a slow feeder) and we just needed help together. I eventually fed him until he was 9 months old. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Lorna that was such a nice thing for her to do. Sorry you have had a few pants days, i hope things look up for you now and the BFC helps. I hope folks give me good advice when Bean arrives - as a first time mum i will be willing to give anything a go! Here's my advise Emma - Savoy Cabbage Usually handy about 3 days after the birth. It worked for me (thank goodness we lived over the road from Waitrose). By the way, if Bean is a girl I think she has to be called Bea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Sorry Lorna forgot to say your story made me happy - and I will remember to at least try and help rather than hold back, if I feel I can, in future (in any circumstances, not just feeding). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ajm200 Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 It's great to hear positive feedback for breast feeding counsellors. I'm considering training to become one as I'd love to be able to help some of the mums that I've met at playgroups, etc who have had such trouble feeding their little ones. It'll be a bit of a change for a techie geek though! I've started to look into it and it looks like it will take a year or two or part-time study (depending on the course) so I guess I'll have to wait until bump is about a year or so and DS is at nursery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lapinou Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 ajm - the NCT course is very flexible with your family. I started mine when my first was 7m old, had my second part way through, and got my license to practice just a couple of weeks before my third was born. If you have a local tutor, and a supportive family, it's easy to fit it all in NCT takes 2-5y and you get a diploma at the end - I took 3 years. PM me if you'd like to ask anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted August 7, 2008 Author Share Posted August 7, 2008 Wow! I've wondered in the past if that would be an appropriate thing to do (offer to help, I mean) but will def do so in the future if you found it so helpful. Was already planning to say 'happy for you to PM me if you like (also a BFC)' before I read about the BFC in the cafe Thanks Clare, it's good to know that I can ask you for help! Really kind of you I didn't mind being approached at all. She was very non-pushy and didn't make me feel like I was being put on the spot in public. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 That's brilliant. I have two friends who are BFCs and I used to volunteer at our local BF help centre in the hospital when Rosie was a baby. Stick with it girl! Emma, shall I move in now? I'll be there for baby-adoration! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
