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[jenuk99]

Ok I want to ask one of those kind of awkward questions, but have decided that between you there is someone on here who can answer every question imaginable.

Having just been reading about the bonuses and minuses of your fellers, I want to ask where you find a nice one???

I came out of a bad relationship twp years ago and am thirty so don't really do the pub/club thing anymore.

So where do you meet nice fellers? Not met anyone remotely dishy down the aisles of Morison’s and work in primary schools so a distinct lack of men there. Have also tried internet dating but it didn’t really work for me.

What are your suggestions?

Not desperately seeking just mildly looking

Jen

[Guest]

I met OH when I was 20 so hadn't really had many boyfriends before that and those I did meet were via college do's.

 

My group of friends was friendly with his group of friends and, to cut a very long story short, that's how we met, found out we had a lot in common and 17 years later, we got married!

 

I think shared interests is a really good start TBH. What do you enjoy or maybe there is something new you've been meaning to test out; music lessons, foreign language course, creative writing, painting, photography, the list is endless!

 

You could go to a local poetry evening, they're more enjoyable than you might think and you don't have to stand up and perform, you could just sit and listen. People at these type of things tend to be very friendly and chatty and you just strike up a conversation and see where it leads....

 

Or an am dram/theatre group, either on stage or behind the scenes? Do you have a local film club maybe?

 

If you're more outdoorsy, maybe some sort of sports club; horse riding, sailing, golf etc etc

 

Anyway, hope some of this helps, you might even meet some new friends this way, friends who might have nice single male friends?

[Guest]

I see you're in stockport, if you're interested in going to a local poetry thing, I can point you in the right direction, just PM me.

[jenuk99]

Hi thanks for the suggestions, forgot to mention that all my friends are attached and its the hardest time trying to get them out for a night out.

Have had the blinkers on a bit since I got my bunnies and not met any men when buying bits at the pet store. lol

Have been in am operatics but all th men are usually over 50.

Did try a salsa class last September but managed to damage my big toe nails ( they are still black and blue )

I am a bit hopeless at this.

Jen

[Cinnamon]

My sister has had the same problems, & is nearly 40 now & just met a super chap.

He is perfect for her - he gives as good as he gets,loves his cats,is financially stable & just a nice bloke.

 

So don't give up hope, the right one is out there for you.My sister had almost given up on men altogether!

[Ain't Nobody Here]

My brother (married till a few years ago) goes to Ceroc dance classes (having said that he did say there are more women than men but you might find some new female friends who have single male friends!) He says it's a great way to socialise.

 

Two friends of mine found a partner on DatingDirect.com. One has been very successful and they've been together 2 years, the other actually took her husband back (after his mid life crisis ) so she had to finish with the "dating" bloke (who was a bit of a clingon so no bad thing!)

 

It must be really hard - I wish you the best of luck .

[Alis girls]

A friend of mine scoured The Times and met a few nice guys for dates, nothing serious as shes going thro messy divorce but wanted to feel Human again. Have your friends fellas any spare mates just for a friendship thing. I met my OH yrs ago thro a social club in London. It was hate at first sight but love blossomed and 28 yrs later (15yrs married) 2 kids 2 cats 2 buns and numerous dead fish here we are Good luck

[craftyhunnypie]

When you're not looking - that's when you meet them! Well that's when I met hubby, before him I'd had some right bum relationships. (shudders).

I bought a car off my hubby & then we went out for a drink, another drink, a meal & it went from there.

 

Emma.x

[..lay a little egg for me]

I agree with Poet...take up some kind of hobby that requires you to go out and be with other people. Not just with the aim of meeting someone but to get you out of the house and back into the social scene. Then if you see anyone you like the look of at the meeting/class or whatever, at least you will have an interest in common and a topic of conversation to break the ice. Plus you can check them out over a few visits before giving them the 'eye'

 

That's how I found my hubby anyway (and several boyfriends before him )

[A chickychickychick-ENN!!]

On the internet! That's where I found mine.

 

It's perfectly safe, just make sure you meet people quickly so you don't build them up into a cybergod in your head. The reality of people is very different from what they're like online a lot of the time. And make sure you have their name, address, photo and phone number, make sure you can give all those details to a couple of friends, and meet somewhere public and ensure you phone someone after the date to tell them you got back safely. Keep the dates light and quite short - you may pick up some lovely friends along the way as well by taking it slowly and lightly.

 

That sounds terrifying reading it back but it's just common sense.

 

Sites like mysinglefriend.com and match and friendsreuniteddating.co.uk seem quite sane. Steer clear of loopylove and plentyoffish. Full of nutters and swinger-types who want affairs (voice of experience here! As in I found some of the OTHER - male - people on there to be like that. )

[Tina C]

I would go for just doing something you are interested in and look at meeting new people generally, not just potential dates. Evening classes, walking groups, exercise classes etc. New friends could bring a new social circle. What about looking up old friends on Facebook (not necessarily boyfriends) and meet up with them.

 

Am going to read this thread with interest as I am running out of suggestions for someone I know....

 

Oh and there is always Emma (The Herd) 's brother...anyone know if he is still available?

[A chickychickychick-ENN!!]

Oh and there is always Emma (The Herd) 's brother...anyone know if he is still available?

 

Yeah - an Omlet 'would like to meet' sub-forum. What a thought!

 

'It was love at first sight over the Eglu'

 

'How do you like your eggs?' 'Straight out of the nest box!'

[Olly]

I like it, chickychickENN!

 

I can't offer much advice, I have been single for about fifteen years after a distressing divorce, had a couple of relationships since then but have not been out with anyone for ELEVEN years now.

 

I am always out doing things, I am involved in various charities, do evening classes, etc. but just never seem to meet anyone nice who isn't already linked up with someone! Perhaps I just give out the wrong signals, if I am honest I am a bit scared of getting involved with someone and it going wrong again.

 

I've tried the Guardian at the beginning (met a lovely guy, we are still friends but it didn't work out) and tried the Internet a few years ago, but that didn't lead to anything. Guys who advertise always seem to want slim women who are younger than me!

 

I do sometimes think it would be nice to have a partner, but I've spent so long on my own that I am used to it now. Being single has its benefits as well as its disadvantages. And I must say I look at some of my friends' relationships and think 'well I'd rather be on my own than put up with that'.

 

Sorry jenuk, not much help to you there! I applaud those of you who are brave enough to keep trying.

[dancing cloud]

At the ancient age of 43 (44 on Saturday), I'm reading all your suggestions

 

Not had a date in about 4 years, know absolutely no one I would consider dating, and all my friends have been with their OH's for so long they've forgotten all about the dating game . Anyone tried speed dating? There seems to be a regular event not too far from here and it might be a laugh - not sure how well I'd cope with rejection though

 

Happy to join the forum dating club at any time At least we'd know we had plenty to talk about on a first date - "how are your chickens?" and the conversation would just flow from there

[Ygerna]

I met my hubby via work, he was the System Analyst, I was the numpty who managed to break my computer daily and had to rind said SA. He was based in Enfield (London) Me in Yeovil (Somerset). He had to come down to the site to do some onsite work one day and as we had been chatting so often on the phone we went our for a drink and it progressed from there. It was a long distance thing for about 6 months and then we decided to move in together, I sold my flat and moved up here and we now have three children.

 

He is the absolutely most perfect man for me, he is very understanding.

 

 

... he has a single younger brother who is just as kind and lovely, who is also wondering when/how he will meet his 'Miss Right'

[Guest]

I don't have any suggestions, I'm in the same boat and reading all the suggestions here.

 

I work too hard to have a social life - too tired in the week and not a lot differetn at the weekend - I'm in bed by 9 most nights and if I did classes I'd go to the first 2 before I got to tired of the late nights.

 

The internet dating is too expensive at the moment - can't afford to splash out on membership.

 

Just have to make do with my little guy - funny hearing everyone go on about having to buy valentines though.

[PapaJuliet]

I was going to try speed dating but I never got around to it.

 

I did go on a dinner date once... organised by the same type of people and a bit more like slow speed dating. They generally advertised age bands so you won't get 20-somethings and 50-somethings on the same date. There were probably a dozen or so of us and we met at a restaurant for dinner. The seating plan was "boy, girl, boy, girl" so you had somebody of the opposite persuasion to talk to. Half way through the men all moved round.

 

It was quite good fun but nothing came of it.

 

As it happens, I had also taken up marshalling... I'd been interested in motorsports for a while but didn't get round to trying out the marshalling until I was on my own. I've met some good people... not dates, just friends and have got some very good friends out of it.

 

I didn't go into marshalling with the intention of finding a partner... I was just finding it a bit "flat" spectating on my own. However, I did find my partner when I least expected it.

 

So I would echo the people who say find things to do, go out, expand or develop your interests. Don't go in thinking "is this the one" because when you find "the one" he will make himself known to you somehow.

 

PJ

[jenuk99]

Wow! Did not expect so many replies, thank you.

 

Ygerna am interested to hear more about this brother in law...

I agree with your comments about finding interests and socialising, but what can I join that wont break the (very small) bank and will have a few genuinely nice blokes at, most things seem to be packed with women.

Tried datingdirect.com and met a few very interesting men, but only a couple that I wanted to see again, sadly the most promising one still lived with his ex and they couldnt sell the house.

 

I agree with the not looking and then you find him but life recently has gone that I havent met any men except the odd caretaker at school and they are always older.

Am also not sure about the speed dating thing, and have lots of friends who offered to introduce me to single men friends but they never get mentioned again.

So its just me and the bunnies swapping valentines

Jen

[Guest]

are you near The Lowry? Why not wander round the gallery/museum bit and strike up a conversation about a piece of art or an exhibit with someone you like the look of or ask someone a question about something on display and see where that goes?

 

Or, I believe you can volunteer in the theatre bit http://www.thelowry.com/recruitment/default.html

 

or maybe there's something going on at your local library that you might fancy? These things are usually free or of minimal charge...

 

http://www.stockport.gov.uk/content/leisureculture/libraries/libraryeventscalendar/?a=5441

 

 

or have a look at this...

 

http://www.stockport.gov.uk/content/communitypeopleliving/eventsinstockport/events-calendar?a=5441

 

the community gardening thing on the 25th feb sounds interesting....

or the walkaday thing on the 5th march?

 

or you could see what events are on at your local NT and/or English Heritage properties, maybe look into volunteering at those? That would be a great way to meet people

[dancing cloud]

If Ygerna would like to send the single younger brother this way ...

[jenuk99]

Now then ladies lets form an orderly que..... behind me

[bluekarin]

I met my hubby via work, he was the System Analyst, I was the numpty who managed to break my computer daily and had to rind said SA. He was based in Enfield (London) Me in Yeovil (Somerset). He had to come down to the site to do some onsite work one day and as we had been chatting so often on the phone we went our for a drink and it progressed from there. It was a long distance thing for about 6 months and then we decided to move in together, I sold my flat and moved up here and we now have three children.

 

He is the absolutely most perfect man for me, he is very understanding.

 

 

... he has a single younger brother who is just as kind and lovely, who is also wondering when/how he will meet his 'Miss Right'

 

Wow, that reminds me of Gavin and Stacey!

 

I think there have been some very good suggestions here. I have no idea what I would do if I was, heaven forbid, back on the dating scene. I've been with my hubby for almost 20 years (met him when I was 17 at a toga party at his house ) and we've been married for nearly 14. I think it's one of those things that the minute you stop worry about meeting someone, you then meet them.

My best friend has a friend who was single for ages. She had a 'list' of her perfect man, and all the men she dated never ticked all the boxes. She is now with someone, for over a year now I think, and he is her Mr Right. And, he doesn't tick all the boxes

Hope it goes well for you. I think if you are happy in yourself, then other people will be drawn to you.

[Ardene5]

Hi

A friend of ours met her better half through a magazine which had people looking for others in she found that they were only living 5 miles away from each other.

They got married 18 months later.

So the way to look at it is there is someone, somewhere for you do not give up hope.

 

Love will alway find away.

 

Best regards

 

Ian & Valerie

[Chook n Boo Mum]

..... and they are always older......

 

Don't dismiss older men out of hand...mine is 19 years older than me and his eldest daughter is only 7 years younger than me (he was also my boss at the time )

 

Ok he came with a lot of baggage (twice my age, an ex-wife from hell, 3 pre- and adolescent children) and I was only 19, but we've been together now 19 years and married 15 in April, but he's worth it!

 

Sha x