Guest Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel, I think this decision has everything to do with your care for Minky. You are not failing him by doing this. You are choosing to give him away in the hope that he will be happier with someone else. That is a very brave and difficult decision to have arrived at. It is an acknowledgement that 9 months on, the situation is still not working and you are doing something about it. I don't believe from all that you have said, that you are being selfish. You are doing this FOR Minky and he is a lucky dog to have such caring parents. Don't feel bad! Though I know this will be a very difficult time for you now, wondering if you are doing/have done the right thing. I hope you hear back from his new owner so that your minds are put at rest. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel - I think you have made the right decision and I know it must have been very difficult for you and Paul. There is no way you have failed Minky - you have done so much for him and he is now in good condition and able to be adopted by someone who has more time. You must both be proud of yourselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel, such a difficult decision and a very hard time for both you and Paul. Big hugs. But you're doing the very best thing for Minky, hard though it is, and you haven't failed him at all. You've recognised his needs, and respected them, putting the dog first, despite the fact that you & Paul have a massive emotional investment in him. That's very hard to do, and brave too. Well done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 You've not failed him, Mel. By admitting defeat, you've done the right thing. He'll find a new home where he'll get as much love as you and Paul gave him, I'm sure. Don't feel you've let him down because you've not. You didn't choose to take him in but you did, despite all his problems and you've had a damned good try! Well done for that and well done for making what I'm sure is the right decision for his future, sad as it is for you but think how happy his new owners will be to be starting a new chapter in their life and his. Big hugs to you both for being so brave and so very nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 Thanks chaps we are both sitting here in tears and gulping back the wine (to heck with the diet ) I have to say this decision has been made much easier with you lot being so supportive and it is at times like these that I realise what a wonderful bunch of people you are and Paul and I are truly blessed by knowing you all. Mel x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel, I can only echo what everyone else has said - it is the right decision to make, despite it being a hard decision, for both Minky and you. We had to make a similar decision at the beginning of the year when it became apparant that our mutt Buster simply wasn't happy unless he was at chookiehubbies feet constantly. Have a good glug of wine tonight, and know that you are doing the right thing. *big hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel we all know you have thought long and hard about Minky and his future and you have in no way failed him by deciding to have him rehomed. You have his best interests at heart and this is what matters above all else. I cannot begin to imagine how you are feeling but im thinking of you. Big hugs coming your way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Big hugs to you both, but there is no way that you have failed Minky, Am sending lots of positive vibes to you and Paul, and for Minky who will soon have his new owner wrapped around his little paws karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel, I can only echo all that I said in my email. Take some time now to be with Charlie and Blue, and each other - get some real quality time (and sleep) in. Lots of love and hugs from us - you can smear bogies on my shoulder any time Hon XXXXXXXOOOOOOOOOO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Everything will be ok, you made the right decision for you and minky. He will have a lovely life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 You're doing your very best Mel and Paul and no one could say you haven't tried everything. Thinking of you and knowing you have done the best for Minky. It's tough I'm sure Love and hugs Buff, Mikey and the gang xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted September 17, 2006 Share Posted September 17, 2006 Mel, it has been a really difficult decision, but definitely the right one. Minky can receive 24 hour one to one attention, which he obviously still misses, even though you and Paul have done everything possible to help him settle. I know you'll be upset, and even miss him! I'm aware that he was a last link with Paul's parents. But, actually, I think that when you two begin to have time for yourselves, you'll be able to share happy memories and enjoy other things that remind you of them, rather than Minky always being the centre of those thoughts. Meanwhile, it must be tough, but you did such a great thing taking him in, and now it's absolutely right to do this. Consider yourself hugged, both of you, and dogs & hens! xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 18, 2006 Author Share Posted September 18, 2006 Thanks everyone. Not a good nights sleep last night, but I do know that we are making the right decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 18, 2006 Author Share Posted September 18, 2006 Its done have spoken to the charity and they are ringing me tonight with details of the foster person Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Good news Mel - you'll sleep better once it's sorted. Hugs from me OOO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Hope it all goes well I am sure Minky will be fine.......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Keep your chin up Mel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hellcat Posted September 18, 2006 Share Posted September 18, 2006 Thinking of you all, Mel. You ARE doing the right thing, its your choice so it MUST be right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 19, 2006 Author Share Posted September 19, 2006 doesnt feel like it Part of me wants friday never to come, the other part wishes it was all over. thanks again guys for all your support. We REALLY appreciate it all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 19, 2006 Share Posted September 19, 2006 Best wishes for Friday Mel. You will feel better about this once its done,I promise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 19, 2006 Author Share Posted September 19, 2006 hope so glass of wine anyone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martin B Posted September 19, 2006 Share Posted September 19, 2006 Good Luck, I'm sure Minky will have a great new home. x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 19, 2006 Author Share Posted September 19, 2006 Martin, I've said it before and I'll say it again (heaven help me!) you REALLY are a lovely boy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hellcat Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 Just a quick note to wish you well for tomorrow, Mel. I'll be thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 22, 2006 Author Share Posted September 22, 2006 Thanks Helen I think I might be joining you in that glass of wine later. Just got back from our last early morning walk Very surreal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
