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[Tulip]

Hey everyone, just need a bit of a moan really.

 

Been trying for a baby since Xmas and I know it's not long but I've now had three pregnancy announcements from friends this week and my cousin last week. I'm really happy for them, but so envious at the same time. I've always wanted to be a mum and now that I'm married and settled I'm getting impatient for a hatch of my own .

 

I'm even avoiding Facebook, as two announcements in one day set me off

 

So I'm getting scientific this time round, in an effort to feel like I have some control over what's happening. Can anyone off the pregnancy roll-call offer any reassurance that 6 months is **perfectly normal**. I just have the grumps - hence taking 2 days off to give my poor workmates a rest from the stroppiness, poor souls!

 

Sorry for the rant.

T x

[clootie]

Many moons ago I was there too but it took me a lot longer than 6 months. DH and I were perfectly healthy so really there was no rhyme or reason as to why it didn't happen quicker than it did. I think that maybe you're trying too hard and thinking about it only serves to make things worse. What's the betting that as soon as you find something else to distract you, it will happen and you won't even notice! In fact, you probably won't believe it either!

 

I know all of this is easy for me to say, I'm not in your position, but I have been and I know how you're feeling. I've got two of the creatures now, both teenagers, but they were certainly worth the wait. Good luck.

[PurpleTree]

it took me 6 or 7 months to fall pregnant with my second. I was starting to get a bit panicky as I fell pregnant straight away with my first. I'm sure I remember reading that an average of a year is quite normal. Try not to worry and just relax (easier said than done I know). I was in the process of moving house when we were trying for our second and I didn't fall pregnant until we had moved in, I'm sure subconciously I was stressed and worried and that stopped me getting pregnant.

[Couperwife]

never been pregnant, never had a baby, so cant really help sorry, just came on to say

 

 

(((((hugs)))))

 

cathy

x

[BERTIE MCSQUIRTY]

i tried for a baby for 7 years - it really used to get me down too, then friends would announce their pregnancy, and usually without sensitivity (as pregnant women go into this self obsessed mode), i can remember howling like a baby when one of my "friends" came round to say "bet your glad you aren't like this in this heat with these swollen ankles" i cried for about a week and it still affects me now.

 

your time will come, good things always come to those who wait

[Tulip]

Thanks guys... felt pretty selfish soon after posting as many have been trying for so much longer. I appreciate your time. Just not helped by work being *horrible* at the mo, the need to escape is probably piling on the pressure.

 

Now must stop being so impatient/paranoid/grumpy and enjoy married life. Thanks again! x

[Looney]

Sending you big ((((hugs)))) Tulip. I've had friends in similar situations, especially with horrible working environments making them more impatient. Like you say, enjoy married life

[Snowy]

Oh poor you, that first wait is horrible isn't it? (((hugs)))

I'm afraid I can only say 6 months is no time at all - first time around it took me a year, second time it took me eleven years! Must have cleared the old tubes out then as the next time it was almost instantaneous!

Those eleven years were the worst, especially when people assumed we only had one child through choice - it gets very disheartening Chin up hon, your baby will come along when he/she is good and ready

[Faye&Ant]

Hi T,

 

I know exactly how you feel, we have been trying for over a year with no luck so your not on your own. Some months im ok and just deal with it, other times I get so down thinking there is something wrong with me. A couple of my friends have actually stopped asking me now as I think they are embarrassed or feel bad when I have to tell them each time no luck. It is hard seeing everyone around you getting pregnant as it does feel like EVERYONE but you have to stay positive. Another friend of mine had a long wait for her second and thought it wasnt going to happen so gave up trying, concentrated on everything else around and booked a holiday, she got back and found out a little while after she was expecting.

 

Im sending you a big hug and positive thoughts your way and hope that both you and me get lucky soon

[Hens@HalfMoonLane]

I know this probably won't make you feel any better but my firend tried for 7 years and then went down the IVF route and had her baby last Friday and another friend tried for 6 years and was on the list for IVF and fell pregnant naturally and then fell pregnant again naturally 2 years later.

 

I don't think 6 months is long at all but it will feel a long time. Hope it happens soon.

[Happy-Mama]

Hi, I don't think 6 months is that long, I was told it could take up to two years. If you wanted to you could try using an ovulating kit which lets you know when you are most likely to conceive you can buy them in boots, or online I guess most pharmacies will sell them...

sending good thoughts and big hugs your way

[majorbloodnock]

Took us 3 years to get our first, and I know several with similar stories. Six months is in no way unusual.

[Space Chick]

6 months isn't long, however, it may be worth talking to your doctor to be on the safe side. They might be prepared to check you and OH out to make sure that all is OK, or to suggest some things to help.

 

I don't know how old you are, but within my groups of friends over half have needed some kind of fertility treatment, and me and OH are unable to have children. (I'm 35, and most of my friends started trying in their late 20's and early 30's)

 

I don't want to worry you, as I am sure that all is OK, just wanted to share a cautionary tale so you think of all options.

 

Sending hugs

[Tulip]

Thanks all for advice and hugs.

 

I'm already going all technical this month with ovulations kits and temperature charting - ever the geek! I'm 29 but DH is 41 (and a former racing cyclist :roll:in tight lycra ) so we won't hang around too long before getting checked over.

 

xx

[Guest]

Sounds like you need a nice relaxing holiday or some good evenings in or out...its amazing when you start talking to women how many of them have had "problems" ?

 

I am sure if you are having regular cycles you are fine...speak to your GP who can reassure you that all is fine(you can ask for a blood test to see if you are ovulating but if you are having reg cycles you probably are).

 

So many women have fertility treatments and then amazingly they get pregant immediately with their second one(so there probably wasnt much wrong in the first place)

 

Definitely chillo out...unfortunately we spend so much time trying not to get pregnant and then when we need to it seems so slow...our lives are so to order these days.

 

When you look at how many hours a month its possible to get pregnant its amazing that anyone does.

 

Just remember its not a competition(re your work colleagues) & when you do get pregnant you will really appreciate the end result. Be happy for them they are not having your baby.

 

Good luck get checked over, ovulation kits dont always work as if you are stressed nature wont let it happen...

 

Eat healthily and enjoy making babies...let us know how you get on 6 months is really not very long at all.

 

indie

[theherd123]

Tulip have you tried acupuncture?

 

When i was pregnant i saw a wonderful acupuncturist and she also takes on clients who have failed on fertility treatment provided by the NHS.

 

If you want her number or email let me know - even though she might not be near you she will be able to put you in touch with a good acupuncturist where you live.

[Guest]

I can't have children because of a medical condition I have. We could adopt but again, I'm not really strong enough to look after children without a LOT of help which just wouldn't be available and would possibly prevent us from adopting anyway.

 

I know how you feel as I would love to have children.

 

I'll bet you'll get there in the end, just keep practising!

[sparkysmum]

Hello Tulip, I'm sorry your feeling a bit low I'm quite sure 6mths is nothing to worry about. You know what everyone says relax, be happy, what about a holiday, I'm sure it will all happen Looking forward to tales of morning sickness soon. Best wishes, hon, Allisonxxx

[Aunty e]

I got very very technical when we were trying (because I am a control freak). I charted my temperatures, and did ovulation tests and used a fertility-friendly lube (oh the glamour) called pre-seed. I also took prenatal vitamins for three months before trying, made OH take a multivitamin and practised A LOT. I have no idea if any of this helped (although knowing that you're only fertile for about four/five days a month meant that I wanted to know when it was), but at least it feels like you're doing something, I couldn't stand the helpless feeling.

[C&T]

Can't believe I am replying to this, as we are also in the same boat, and finding it all very hard! Everywhere you go you seem to be reminded! It's "nice" to hear there are others out there too - while at the same time hope it all works out for you very soon.

 

We are 2.5yrs down the line. We went to see our doctor 1 yr ago (after trying for 18 months) and she said we should have come to her a lot sooner. We have since been going through some tests at the local hospital, to ensure nothing is wrong with either of us. I would recomend that you talk to your doctor about this. Rules any issues out, or if there is something not quite right you can get it sorted. Saves time in the long run!

 

Fertility treatment in our area will be considered after you have been trying for 3 years, or there is a proven problem. So 6 months on that basis isn't long!

 

In the meantime, try not to let it rule your life. I know how hard that is. Chickens are a great distraction!

[chelsea]

Everywhere you go you seem to be reminded! It's "nice" to hear there are others out there too

 

 

 

I agree. We have been trying for several years, 2 miscarriages and still no baby. Some people are very insensitive and why is it they always ask "why don't you have kids then?" when we are out socially (which I think it is very rude to ask ) I try not to let it get me down and I think we will foster eventually. I so understand where you are coming from, when I hear that a friend or colleague is expecting I am happy for them on the outside but have the dreaded resentment/sad feeling inside.

 

Sending you a big hug and hope your time will come soon.

[clootie]

I was 4 years and had 2 miscarriages. During my first miscarriage they put me in a 4 bed ward, the other three beds had happy pregnant women in them all chatting about what they had bought, names they had chosen etc. I pretended to be asleep for hours while they talked about me too wondering what was wrong with me!

[*mummy_hen*]

Although i agree 6 months is not a particularly long time i would suggest going to see your GP.

My best friend is desperately trying for a baby and has been for 18 months, about 9 months ago she went to her GP and was tested for all sorts of things and it turns out she has polycystic ovaries. She is only 23 and was heartbroken as is desperate for children with her husband and everyone is desperate for her as they know how overjoyed her and her husband would be.

However, now she knows she has that condition, she is trying a few 'natural' things for 6 months as recommended by her specialist but should that not work they will prescribe her medication to help her conceive. It is always best to check these things incase you need a helping hand.

 

Fingers crossed your time will come soon

[kitchens]

Took me 3 years to get my first and he will be 6 in September. Still no sign of baby number 2. All my friends have sailed through their pregnancies but not me!! Miscarriage before conceiving my son and have had 2 more since both in 2007!! We've already had one child and are obviously conceiving but keeping the litte blighters seems to be our problem. One of my good friends has just had a baby and while I am pleased for her all she does is moan about it. Some people are just never happy ....... When we get back from our holiday in September we will have a bash at IUI and all of the injections that go along with that.

 

Stay positive. 6 months is no time at all. Have you tried using fertility sticks? I highly recommend them. At least it will feel like you are doing something to monitor your cycle.

 

Best of luck.