clootie Posted August 30, 2009 Author Share Posted August 30, 2009 Sorry everyone, haven't had a chance to post. Well, I'm pleased to say that the Headmaster was very helpful. He is such a nice man and he couldn't have been more supportive. Although this latest incident has happened outside of school, I have provided a list of what has happened up until now in school and he will be calling the oik in to his office on Thursday. He wants DS to promise that if anything else is said, he must go directly to him and it will be dealt with straight away but hopefully it won't come to that. It is an important year for the boys concerned and as entry to the school of choice for 6th form for my son depends on grades, I WILL NOT have this prat make it more difficult for him. I was also pleased to hear we share the same opinion with regard to Facebook. Apparently it's not the first time the Head has had to deal with issues regarding the site. (and probably won't be the last) I hope I haven't made things worse for my son now. Time will tell I suppose. Thaks for all your support and kind words, it's very much appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 I'm really glad to hear the Headmaster was so supportive . Fingers crossed his talk with the oik works . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A chickychickychick-ENN!! Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 Sounds good. Here's hoping the new academic year is better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 That's good news, you must be relieved; here's hoping it all improves from hereon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 oh that sounds more reassuring to think you are both on the same page with all of this. good on you cloots! x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rona Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 Hope it all works out well now. Good for you for getting involved. It's so much more difficult to do as they get older. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 i have just pushed my soap box out of site so i cant climb on it. Well done and I hope you get it sorted. My son after last post has got into facebook but I trust him to tell me re any bullying as he is quite an open lad. I am shocked about some of the stuff that goes on this, one of his ex classmates (a floozie in the making) was nasty about someones mum on it (not me or she;d not be standing. ) Shes the sort whose been in full make up from the ageof nine. Her mum is very quiet slightly snooty and dad is lovely, so where she gets it from who knows. Well done and keep us informed. If you want to send the girls round to sort out the oik - let us know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 Good news then Clootie, I didn't see a thunderstorm over Norfolk so hoped it was OK with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Well done C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Great news Cloots - sounds very positive Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted September 8, 2009 Author Share Posted September 8, 2009 So far, nothing has been said directly to DS but the glares and the swearing from oikface at him under his breath when passing each other in school is as bad as it gets. I wish I knew what had been said to him and what his defence had been when the Headmaster "had a word" recently. DS is shrugging it all off and seems to getting on with things. I'll be keeping my beady on him though A mahoosive thank you to everyone who has offered advice and support and I see from other threads I am certainly not alone in having a child who has a tormentor at school. Big love to all x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy chickens! Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Glad to hear the other lad seems to have got the message! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 It's good to hear Clootie - I would keep an eye on him too. Isn't it an awful pity that these little darlings do so much nastiness before anyone does anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted September 8, 2009 Author Share Posted September 8, 2009 Hmm, DS just home from school and tells me that this oik was asked to hand out papers in Business Studies. Got to DS and threw his in his face. Nice huh? I want my son out of that school NOW. What can I do? He taking GCSE's next year. Headache starting ........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Sorry to hear that Clootie, didn't the teacher notice? He needs to be brought to task for every incident like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted September 8, 2009 Author Share Posted September 8, 2009 No Clare, teachers back was turned....... of course. I really have had it now and want him out. Need to calm down a bit, I'm furious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Oh Clootie, sending you hugs. Hope DS is OK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 does DS have a friend in the class that can go and speak to the teacher and express his concerns? or if the bully goes near your son, he could cal out "sir, could you help me with this big problem I have please" oh, I hate bullies, they are usually weak minded little cowards I spoke to a girl in my class for bullying another child, and it turns out that she is seriously bullied by her dad and brother and this was a form of release, she stopped doing it when she realised what she was doing though (((((hugs))))) cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted September 8, 2009 Author Share Posted September 8, 2009 Thanks Cathy. I have tried to understand this lad and I've also tried to bring my kids up to be understanding and compassionate. So much so, my son is seen as weak because of it. Re the bully, as far as I know, it's just him and his mum. Rumour has it his father died when he was young - drugs involved but I don't know for sure. If this is the case then I'm sorry this has happened to him but I'm fed up making excuses for people and their behaviours. It's always the victim who has to be the understanding one - not anymore. I haven't felt this anger before. Not nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A chickychickychick-ENN!! Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Totally seconding Claret. Call the headmaster and tell him, and get this kid watched like a hawk, and maybe whatever extra support they can give him, so he knows he's being watched for bad behaviour, but that he's got some sort of social worker outlet as well, so the behaviour can be addressed at root? Sounds like he's had a "Ooops, word censored!" background. Some people should be sewn up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Some people should be sewn up. Don't forget to make a diary of events Clootie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 So sorry to hear you're still getting grief from this toerag . I'd make sure the teachers are aware of every single little incident. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Clootie, a huge hug from me. I can imagine how furious, upset, frustrated and emotional you must be feeling. We would all do anything for our children things like this are just awful. I am so sorry. I have had a taste of something similar with my son which was quickly resolved. In your position I too would be wishing I could pull my son out of school but as you rightly say it is an important year. How does your son feel? Is he as upset as you are? Is he supported by a decent network of friends? Is he happy there apart from this vile child? Is he working at a level that you are happy with? If it were my child and I can only say what I would do as it would be wrong of me to suggest what you should do, I think that I would demand a meeting with the Head, the Head Of Year and the Chair of Governors armed with a copy of the school's Anti Bullying Policy. In defence of the school they can only act when they are made aware of a problem and I think that they need to be kept aware of every incident. I know that we should all feel some sympathy for children like this bully with his background but sympathy is going to get the situation no further on, he need to learn what is and is not acceptable behaviour in normal society. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 So Clootie but its oik who should be outed not your son. i bet your son isnt the only one who hes being horrid too. I would post myself outside headmasters door and refuse to move till oik and mum are there and would demand a meeting threatening the police and anything else I could lay my mits on. YOur son isnt in the wrong. LET OIK GO. Good luck love and lots of hugs - outraged mum NCY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 PS bolshie britches here again - kidscape have some good advice too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
