Joojoo Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 I'm keeping everything crossed that it's not as bad as you fear and that you get some good news. Big Hugs to you all xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Sending you hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 He is not a well man at all. He was so yellow today & struggling to breathe even with an oxygen mask on. He's had blood transfusion & will have some more I think tomorrow. His urine is soooo dark & his blood almost black. Ugh. The registrar took us in the relatives room & said that he has a severe infection. There is a slim chance that he will pull through it - but if he does he will be very weak. If he goes into cardiac arrest, they will not resusitate him - as they said it would be cruel. If he doesn't respond to these new antibiotics, then it will be a matter of days before he slips away. So sad. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Thinking of you all Emma - having been through something similar just a few weeks ago, I know the decisions are so difficult Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 What was odd was when we were in the relatives room - a white dove landed on the window sill & wanted to come in through the slightly open window. Both me & hubby saw it - my sister in law didn't. We just looked at each other - as hubby knows I am susceptible to odd happenings. Another strange thing was when I kissed my father in law goodbye - he said under his breath ' bless you'. Only to me, not to the others. He never says that normally. I just found both things a bit odd. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 I find that rather comforting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Don't know what to add except more {{{hugs}}} and as Lesley says, take comfort in these "odd happenings", Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 we lost our MIL a few weeks ago and little things make all the diference, even though she was virtually unconscious in the end she still smiled when whe kissed her, pooly people find their peace- its good to take comfort in it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PurpleTree Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Thinking of you and your family. Reading your last post made me cry. My grampy died in January after being in hospital for a few weeks with a serious chest infection, the last time I saw him he just looked straight at me and said he loved me. Big hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted August 13, 2009 Author Share Posted August 13, 2009 People do sometimes let you know that 'their time has come' don't they? It is beautiful but so sad. My hubby & sister in law are at the hospital at the moment - Ive had to stay & run the business today. I hope he is still with us. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 {{hugs}} Emma. I'm so sorry to hear he is so poorly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahJo Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 Emma - take comfort from the smallest of things - the dove - I personally (as an orphan at 30) think these are sent for a reason. Talk to you FIL he will know you are there - even if the drs say not. I send hugs and understanding - pm if you want to chat. I hope your next visit may be more positive - the human body can surprise us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 Talk to you FIL he will know you are there - even if the drs say not. I had a hard job trying to get my father and uncle to believe that my stepmother could stll hear us - I had to take them to one side and ask them not to speak over her bed as if she'd already died or was about to Right until the very end, there was a slight movement in just one finger - a deliberate movement - and I knew she could hear as she responded when I asked her questions. It will be very comforting for your FIL to hear voices he knows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted August 14, 2009 Author Share Posted August 14, 2009 Good news is - his kidneys were working a bit better yesterday & he was able to have his scan. We are just hoping & praying that the new antibiotics are working & that the scan doesn't show anything nasty. He had been moved onto the respiratory ward - it's a lot nicer & the staff are wonderful at looking after him & keeping him comfortable. They have even given us special visiting rights - so we can visit whenever - not just at set visiting time. We can't really get there though today. Sister in law is going & a good friend of his. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I'm glad he waqs able to have the scan and hope it doesn't show anything nasty. Great that you've been given special visiting rights to and have verything crossed that these antibiotics are working. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helly Welly Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I'm glad he's comfortable at least and fingers crossed the antibiotics have an effect. Thnking of you all x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 ***hugs*** cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 Fingers crossed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted August 14, 2009 Author Share Posted August 14, 2009 It's not good - the scan has showed up all sorts of lesions etc all over his body. He was also very confused today, as he doesn't even remember having the scan yesterday & was mixed up with what day it was. This is the man that is soooo clever & normally has all his marbles. They are wanting to now do biopsies - but my SIL was so dazed & upset that she forgot to ask a lot of important questions like biopsies from where etc. We are all going tomorrow. I think he may be moving to a hospice sort of place next week. His breathing is still dependant on the oxygen mask. I also don't know how his body is responding to the antibiotics. We were sort of expecting the worst I suppose & we all feel absolutely drained with it all. I think I will notice a big difference in him when I visit tomorrow. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 Oh Emma, i'm so sorry it wasn't better news . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I'm so sorry to hear that . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 Sorry Emma to hear how poorly he is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helly Welly Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I'm sorry Emma, it's never easy. I hope he is at least comfortable when you go and see him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear your news. It must be very hard for all of you so just want to send some hugs from here (((((hugs))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redhotchick Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 Emma, I'm sorry to hear your FIL is in poor health. I hope he is comfortable and that you are taking care of yourself and your loved ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
