AJuff Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 I have been feeling unsettled since I returned from a Youth group camp in the local countryside this weekend. We live in town and I would like to move back out into the country. When we were first married we lived in a croft in Aberdeenshire and along came DD1. We then moved to a small village in Renfrewshire and along came DS. We then moved to a town in Northumberland and along came DD2. I miss our croft and we have become reliant on town, however my heart is in the country. We put our house on the market three years ago with a view to moving out of town but we couldn't find anything suitable . After a few buyers wasting our time and loosing the only house we liked on relocation, relocation we got fed up and took the house off the market. I have spoken to OH and he seems interested to hear my plight however he has reservations that I would always be in the car ferrying kids to and fro. He has agreed though to look at this house as it seems to fit our needs very well. He would like pigs and I'd like a cockeral!! http://www.redhotproperty.co.uk/Property_details.aspx http://www.primelocation.com/uk-property-for-sale/details/id/XXPR6161505 Should we move now whilst the kids are 12, 10 and 7 or wait until they have left home and buy a smaller cottage? Any advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 How far away from your work, schools etc is it......I'd move there tomorrow if it wasn't so blooming far from our life at the other end of the country Even f it was a fair distance... but possibly accessible by public transport for when the children get to the independent stage?..... you'd make allowances & the children would also have to adapt eg. "I'm going to town in one hour & can drop you all off & daddy will be coming home at $o'clock, be ready"" rather than dropping them all at different places at slightly different times as I'm sure happens now.......... Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 Goodness I would move there tomorrow think of the life you would give them I know teens like towns but I honestly think that there would be so many more advantages to living somewhere like that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 Do it now - life is short, and if that's where your heart is, don't wait - do it while the children are young enough to enjoy it too. Yes, there will be issues with transport etc but they're not insurmountable, and in a few years your eldest will probably be driving himself! There are buses, bicycles, taxis and other people's parents who will take turns. If you don't do it, you're always going to be hankering after that sort of life - and if you had a croft before, there won't be any huge surprises in the lifestyle for you. That house is the sort of thing I'd dream of. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 It looks fab. Go for it. Will you be doing bed and breakfast? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Do it now, we've put off moving because each time we've thought about it one child has been at the exam stage and didn't want to move. Your kids are younger and it would be the ideal time to do it. The house looks lovely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C&T Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 "Life is what happens while you make other plans" If you want to do it and the money and distances stack up - do it! Chances are you will regret it otherwise... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 As the others have said, do it now! Children are adaptable at those ages andif you don't do it now then you will be waiting at least 10 years until the youngest is off to uni. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 It looks absolutely gorgeous.... go for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jools Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Have you gone for it yet? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poachedegg Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Gorgeous house and 25+ Acres.....wow! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJuff Posted July 15, 2010 Author Share Posted July 15, 2010 Work is 10 miles away for me and 25miles for OH. He doesn't mind commuting as he works shifts. The road would be closed during the winter snows. I think the children could pare down their many activities too. I think there's a bus from the village a mile or so away . . We hope to view it at the weekend. . . .very excited. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenanne Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 It's a beautiful house (from the piccies anyway!). A 10 mile, or 25 mile commute to work is nothing really. Bus stop a mile or two away sounds ideal, as does village being a couple of miles away - far enough, but not too far. OK you would spend longer as the taxi-serivce, but equally it should be manageable if everything else is what you want. So long as you're sure it's not jsut post-holiday blues (but how can it be when you worked a croft in Aberdeenshire - after all am sure you know exactly what cold hands on cold mornings with driving rain feel like!). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
docsquid Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 It's no contest - you have the ideal place there! Close enough to a village for a bus service, not too far from work, and out in the countryside where the children can really learn about the country way of life. I'd say go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 well? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 Looks great! 25 acres + 3 stables - more room for more than a few pigs and cockerels! I think we've made your mind up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJuff Posted July 19, 2010 Author Share Posted July 19, 2010 Well I am totally convinced in my heart though not in my head! However older two kids are fighting hard to stay in town citing all their activities and friends, school for DD1. OH and I have had a very long chat about it and although he wants to live in the country he feels now is not the right time. In my head I agree as I currently walk to work, it would add an extra 15minutes on DS's commute (although I would have to drive him into town 15 miles away at 6.50am to continue with our current school commuting arrangements), we often have just enough time to get home from work eat and get older kids out to choir etc. I see how a move would really complicate our lives further, all last week I thought about our normal week and what we would do if we lived out. There were two days this week where we wouldn't have been able to get home and back out so we'd be milling in town. OH says we will move back out into the country one day. I have resigned myself to town although I cannot grumble. We are surrounded by trees and have a most amazing view from our orangery window across to an Abbey which is flood lit at night and a beatiful valley beyond. We have a garden and hens and vegetables. OH suggested a summer house would give me a garden hideaway which would help (See country living August). Also I went to a friends house on Sunday and I didn't realise she feels the same. We sat out on her garden bench and looked across the same beautiful Tyne Valley and decided we didn't have things so bad after all!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 Well it sounds as if you've rationalised things a bit, so perhaps you're not feeling quite so unsettled. At least you've thought about it and made a reasoned decision. One day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Well it sounds as if you've rationalised things a bit, so perhaps you're not feeling quite so unsettled. At least you've thought about it and made a reasoned decision. One day! Ditto - your time will come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 It will We have been through the same but my daughter actualy said we would 'ruin her life' if we moved Kids!! We decided to stay put for now until they leave school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 It will We have been through the same but my daughter actualy said we would 'ruin her life' if we moved Kids!! We decided to stay put for now until they leave school. Both my boys have said that but my DD is not at all bothered. I think realistically we'll stay where we are until they leave home Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jools Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Prudence and Patience are alive and kicking in this thread lol! Seriously, sometimes it's good to take your time, decide what you want and where, then formulate a plan of when and how you get there. The anticipation (and a little dreaming) can be good too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodcat Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 If i'm honest i think you've made the right choice. When i was younger my best friend lived along way out of town and it was almost impossible to get to her without driving or walking miles and nearly everything was i can't go out after school because mother won't pick me up. Or i can go to the cinema but only at such and such time because mother has to drop me off on the way to work. It totally destroyed our friendship because she was never around and i could never get out to see her. It was a complete nightmare, the girl had no independence at all and her mother spent her whole life running round after kids. Realistically you only have to wait till they can drive which isn't that far away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
