j00lz_12366 Posted April 11, 2011 Share Posted April 11, 2011 I posted a little while ago that I was feeling a bit low...then i started to pick up a little... Then, mothers day-its my first since my mum died, and also happened to be her birthday-so thats two 'firsts' over with on one day... Due to issues that I wont go into I didnt hear from my son on mothers day...but I did spend the day with my daughter and we had a lovely time.. Issues still going on surrounding my mums will...no nearer to being sorted..and have been told I wont be getting what was left to me cos the solicitors bill comes first and then mine will be diminished-this is money I am waiting for to be able to pay for the headstone... I am building myself up to go to a solicitor to begin divorce proceedings which will also mean I have to push for the sale of the family home...not nice Yesterday, was my sons birthday-sent card, text etc..still no contact....and later on I find out he has been also ignoring my daughter-they both still live in the 'family home'..( i think because he doesnt keep in contact with me and she does he is starting to punish her now) And, to finish it all off, this morning I was getting ready to spend a morning in my new class, got dressed, took my time...then grabbed my boots, put 1st foot in, something in the bottom, i thought it's probably a sock..put my hand in 'no..its a screwed up tissue or something'...pulled it out-it was a mouse...a live mouse...! I dropped it on the floor because I was so shocked..we have wooden floors...and the poor thing just lay there..I shouted my partner to come quickly...he picked it up..it was bleeding from mouth and nose...and started fitting in his hand...we put it outside, behind the bin..'incase it got better and can just run away'...obviously there was no chance of that..and when I got back from school..it was still there..passed away-but now with blood coming from its ear as well.. I just feel so terrible, what sort of a person am i to do that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlo Posted April 11, 2011 Share Posted April 11, 2011 Please don't beat yourself up about that - it was a pure accident and couldn't be helped. I hope that things start getting better for you soon - it really sounds as though you have been through a rough time. Sending a for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted April 11, 2011 Author Share Posted April 11, 2011 thanks... i'm guessing you just have to go with the flow..at times its a rough ride! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omletina Kyckling Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 You really mustn't blame yourself for the mouse incident, I think it's probably down to somebody with 4 paws The trouble is, when things are going wrong elsewhere in your life, even the tiniest little thing seems much worse and you immediately think it's your fault. I speak from experience here as you know! Things which you would normally just shrug your shoulders at and ignore suddenly seem like the end of the world and you think you are to blame for anything which goes wrong within a 50 mile radius! You know what I think of the son situation from my texts, but all I'll say is that you just have to give it time and it's up to him. If he decides he doesn't want contact with you (or your daughter for that matter) then it's his loss. I hope that time is going to be a good healer in this case and he'll come to his senses, but if he doesn't, you have done all you can and can do no more. Hugs xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 There's a piece of advice I was given last year and I carry it with me each day; You can't change what someone else says, or their behaviour, but you are in control of how you react to it. It's so true, I wanted to pass it on. Wishing you all the best in a beastly and complex situation, and have made you a cup of tea. I do hope things improve for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbaraJ Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Oh dear , re the mouse, years ago there was one in my living room and we were trying to corner it. I thought my sewing machine had a hollow bottom so plonked it on top to capture the mouse but it didn't i was gutted and heard the crunch of its back was so sorry i'd done it,. things happen !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 I'm so sorry you are having a really rubbish time of things. I agree with the comments already said above. We had a mouse in our kitchen. Hubby tried to catch it as it was hiding under the microwave. He poked it out and slammed down a glass over it, only the tip of its tail was poking out and got broken off! The tiny tip was on the worktop and the mouse ran away. The mouse in your boot was probably dying anyway from the shock of being caught by your cat, I'm guessing. It is horrible, but it wasn't you fault, so don't beat yourself up about it. I hope things start to improve for you (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 This may sound heartless and cruel to mice but they are a menace in a house and thats the reason we got 2 cats to help keep them out. well done to your mog for catching it and kitty for leaving it in your mums boot. Sounds like it was near to death anyway. Now just remember if you feel you are at rock bottom the only way is up now and you will get there - been there and its tough but you will beleive me. When do your chickens arrive? i hope I dont sound harsh - i love animals but bad experiences sharing my last home with meeces meant I was reduced to a gibbering mess. Now I share with 2 lovely mogs Hugs Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 .... and I write a lot of rubbish having not read it thro properly - but sure you all know what I mean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tutti Frutti Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Big HUGS for you, you're going through a tough time at the moment so no wonder the mouse thing affected you so much - it would me too! Just a thought about your Mum's headstone. When my Mum died 3 years ago, her memorial was taken from the estate before the will was finalised - so effectively, she paid for it then what was left was distributed as per her will. Perhaps things have changed since then but anyway, thought the info might help you. I hope things are a bit better for you today... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted April 12, 2011 Author Share Posted April 12, 2011 Yes i'm not too sure what the legal situation is on the headstone thing-but if the money was taken from her estate it would mean that the small amount I am getting would be into negative numbers so I may as well pay for it..makes no odds really, its just that I cant do it til the money comes through... Thanks for all the really nice comments, it's really helped and I now have 3 days in work-less time to brood and then I finish on friday and never have to go back again!! That wil help too...then the next day is 'C Day!!!!!'...so actually now its only 4 days until I get my chickens! we're nearly ready-stuff like the guttering still to go on..a bit of fixing at the bottom, but the kickboards are on, the roof has been lifted, the table has been made..and even one of my raised beds has been done-I've taken some pics but dont want to put up til it shows the full journey because until today its just looked terrible...thank god for friends..! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
