The Dogmother Posted December 5, 2011 Share Posted December 5, 2011 Good for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chortle Chook Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 I've decided that my efforts will not be spent worrying about OH, hopefully he'll realise what he's missing out on soon enough. Going to channel my energy elsewhere, more productively! Good on you. Exactly the right thing to do, I feel sure. FIL has clearly been pushed out long ago and so really all you can do is get on with your life and enjoy your lovely children Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 At least I know FIL is aware and is equally unhappy, he says he says nothing for a quiet life but he has noticed whats going on. You must have started to think that you were imagining the whole thing so it must be a comfort to know that he is aware as well. Good luck and hang on in there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 That sounds more positive . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Just caught up with this thread and really your OH needs to be sat down and given a stern talking to. My MIL is a pain - but of a different nature - she's just downright rude and selfish. My OH can be very helpful to everyone in the family and even friends/work colleagues and even acquaintances, but I am the bottom of the pecking order which is quite irritating (to put it mildly). I'll spare everyone those stories though. When we first married we lived just round the corner from the in-laws. She used to let herself in with a key early on Sunday mornings before we got up. Next house she wasn't given a key as I felt she abused the use of it - it was only in emergencies and possibly to check the house when we were on holiday. She wasn't very happy about that. Then she was even more miffed when we moved right away. To be fair my own mother has recently been a pain in the bottom and my OH was very patient to a point - but both our mothers are manipulative in different ways. But at least your FIL sounds a nice fellow and a helpful ally. I'm sure he'd put your OH straight. Wishing you lots of luck with the new home and hopefully MIL will soon take a hint and leave you to get on with your own little family unit. I do think it may come to a point when OH will need to sit down and you tell him everything, your worries, your distress, anxieties and if he doesn't understand well you may need to start thinking of your own future because you can't go on like this. And think hard about it now because I'm 25 years down the line - I'm too old to start anew (well I feel I am anyway). You'll be surprised how quickly time flies when you keep letting him have second chances to redeem himself. You need lots of hugs so I'm sending virtual ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
