Gloss-Hen Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 This is probably nothing to get up about but I was on another forum and I thought I'd say how well I'm getting On with my new coop well somepeople asked about it but others said how annoying it was to be advertising, how flimsy it was and how they vow never to buy one All I was doing was saying how much I like my chicken house Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Aww, how rotten! But sadly some other forums (fora??) can be a bit intimidating - even I daren't post on them for fear of being shot down! Stay on here - we try to keep Omlet a friendly place to be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Sorry to hear it. I'm afraid not all forums are as friendly as this one! We don't mind you telling us about your poultry house though Seriously, there are some people who seem to just go on forums (fora?) to be rude and judgmental about other posters. They're not worth bothering with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloss-Hen Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 Don't worry I have every intention of staying here i went on some others to see if they had the same thoughts about chickens as we do here. I personally though I'm sure lots of people would agree that this is the friendliest forum around Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Chin up, as long as you are happy with your set up that's what matters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 This is a friendly forum but that one seems to be too. Hopefully you will be made welcome there. Having seen so many spam posts on here I can see how people regard newbies praising new products with suspicion You have nothing to feel humiliated about, you've been a good member here and can hold your head up high Don't feel put off by this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Take no notice. If you keep posting in a friendly manner, over there, and offer helpful comments in reply to other people's queries, they will soon see that you aren't a spammer, and that you are a genuine member. Unfortunately there will always be people who need to criticise, put down others, post contentiously and stand in judgement of others on some forums (fora!). They are best ignored. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloss-Hen Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 Thank you for your lovely comments I'm feeling better now. It's good to get things off your chest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bottledcherryangel Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Unfortunately there will always be people who need to criticise, put down others, post contentiously and stand in judgement of others on some forums (fora!). They are best ignored. Ain't that the truth. It is horrible when people are nasty online, for no good reason. I'm glad you are feeling happier. Stick here, kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superkitty Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 You have my sympathy Gloss-Hen. I am a member of a few other forums, but having seen the tussles and slanging matches that seem to happen regularly on them, I've never dared to post anything and I actually don't even look at them much any more. After lurking nervously on this forum for a bit, I noticed that it had a totally different 'feel' to the other forums - friendlier and more welcoming..and maybe not quite so cliquey as some of the others. I feel perfectly comfortable posting without fear of being shot down in flames...and have had some GREAT advice and support from other members. Long live the Omlet forum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sage Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Hi Gloss-hen Would love to see some piccys of your set up. As long as you and your girl are happy stuff everyone else sounds like they are to me. Sage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeky Chooky Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Glad you're feeling better *hug* As has already been said, take no notice Unfortunately there are some sad people 'out there' who take great delight in giving their opinion in a spiteful and hurtful way...I tend to think that people like that are generally unhappy with themselves and their lives and so they like to take it out on others to make themselves feel a bit better. My Nan always used to say "There's nowt so queer as folk" The important thing is that you're happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Some excellent replies Gloss Hen. There are some people who seem to set out to be rude, I' not sure if this is easier on forums than it is in real life because you are less likely to get a smack in the chops if you are rude on a forum than if you said it to someone's face I go on very few forums, Omlet is the only chicken I go on and seems by far the friendliest. I also go on a dog forum, which by and large is very friendly, with very helpful members but there are always a few that like to spoil things. Maybe they have very empty lives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Unfortunately there will always be people who need to criticise, put down others, post contentiously and stand in judgement of others on some forums (fora!). They are best ignored. Ain't that the truth. It is horrible when people are nasty online, for no good reason. I'm glad you are feeling happier. Stick here, kid. So true. I browse other forums too, but only stick with the welcoming and polite ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinsk Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I think forums have grown so fast in the last few years that it's hard to keep up with the do's and don'ts. I think if you look at them as walking into a pub then you wont go too far wrong. Some are more friendly than others, some are more welcoming than others, some are more suspicious or newcomers. In all well established forums there will be the 'big fishes' who could fall out with themselves looking in a mirror. But also you wouldn't waltz into a pub and plonk yourself down at a table full of people you didn't know. You'd test the water first, see if you liked the feel of a place, start off the small talk and then get onto the bigger things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I think forums have grown so fast in the last few years that it's hard to keep up with the do's and don'ts. I think if you look at them as walking into a pub then you wont go too far wrong. Some are more friendly than others, some are more welcoming than others, some are more suspicious or newcomers. In all well established forums there will be the 'big fishes' who could fall out with themselves looking in a mirror. But also you wouldn't waltz into a pub and plonk yourself down at a table full of people you didn't know. You'd test the water first, see if you liked the feel of a place, start off the small talk and then get onto the bigger things. Brilliantly put. Similarly, if you walked up to a stranger in this pub, and started abusing them for holding differing points of view to yourself, or dissecting and criticising their opinion and insisting on having the last word, you could reasonably expect to have your face rearranged. Dipping a cautious toe into the water is excellent advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 At the end of the day - if you love your coop & your chickens love it - then feel proud about it & to hell with what others think! I have a mixture of eglus, a cube & some wooden coops. Some people hate eglus, some hate wooden coops. I like both & the chooks are all happy - so I'm happy! Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mum Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 This is probably nothing to get up about but I was on another forum and I thought I'd say how well I'm getting On with my new coop well somepeople asked about it but others said how annoying it was to be advertising, how flimsy it was and how they vow never to buy oneAll I was doing was saying how much I like my chicken house You have nothing to feel humiliated about. I think those jumping on the "advertising" bandwagon should be pigeon-holed into the "seen too much spam posts to be impartial anymore" category. For those who had an alternative point of view "flimsy/never buy one", well you need to read that and put it in perspective. So, are they saying it because they have experience of it? For example, I bought a wooden coop as an overspill coop and I may well be tempted to advise others *not* to purchase it, simply because a fox found its weakest spot and took all my chooks Or, maybe they are saying it, not from experience, but simply because they "can"? For that, you have to read between the lines; or, if you are that concerned at their attitude and want to investigate further, check their posting history! Do they tend to be generally disagreeable? Or, do they have experience? Or, are they longer term posters who have found a following and feel empowered to put across their opinions and still pass them off as fact? There is another aspect: a "forum" derives from the Roman culture of a place where views and opinions can be debated. Now, if you feel confident in your experience which gives credance to your point of view, that is good!! If someone is objectionable simply because they can be - ignore! What do they really matter in the grand scheme of things? They are not someone you know, they are not someone whose opinion "actually" makes a difference in your world. But, by that same token, perhaps they have an experience to share behind that opinion? They are virtual strangers and you cannot distinguish which is which purely on one posting on one thread. If they make a personal attack on you, as a person, then do assert yourself (if you feel strongly enough) or, put your faith in the moderation team. Either way, it is still a choice. I haven't read all the replies and I have no idea which style of chicken housing you are referring to - but, if it works for you, and you are happy with it ... what does it matter if you get a mixed response? Sift the chaff from the corn, make an educated guess on those posting (from their history) and if they disagree, is it from knowledge/personal experience (in which case, they may have a valid point - no reason to feel humilated over that ) or are they simply provoking things because the internet process, by definition, makes it possible to be obnoxious for the sake of being obnoxious? In which case, you still have nowt to feel humilated about; they should Healthy debate/discussion is a good thing - that is what free speech is ultimately about. It is how you "evaluate" the speaker which can make the difference between taking someone seriously and feeling genuine upset or, looking over their history and making a valued judgement Make a valued judgement: shift the wheat from the corn and then, put it all in perspective ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I think it might be appropriate to point out that Gloss-hen is one of our junior members not that it makes any difference to the way that they are treated, but not every forum is as understanding and supportive of its junior members as we are, and with their mature posting style, it would be easy to mistake them for an adult Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
