CatsCube Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Well today is the day. We have a speach therapist coming round to access Noah at 11:00. I dont really know what to expect, Im worried they will tell me Im a bad mum and not teaching him enough. He was 2 in Oct and still has a vocab of under 10 words. Im hoping their isnt anything wrong with him and he is just being a bit lazy. Wish us luck. Edited January 31, 2008 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 We had speech and language delay with both Tom and Ollie and it's not down to being a bad Mum so don't worry. The speech therapist will be able to work out if there's an underlying problem which has caused the speech delay. In Ollie's case, he had severe glue ear which has since been cured. They will probably give you exercises to help bring Noah's speech forward and some of them are fun. Good luck from someone who's been through it all twice and come out the other end smiling because she's got two very good talkers . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Louise Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 My mums speech therapist is lovely and she has all sorts of wee tricks that she uses She was with mum for five minutes and had her speaking better than she had in 2 months I was in tears she was so effective and there was no suggestion we weren't doing what was needed she gently is unlocking mums mind again It will be fine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) Well today is the day. We have a speach therapist coming round to access Noah at 11:00. I dont really know what to expect, Im worried they will tell me Im a bad mum and not teaching him enough. He was 2 in Oct and still has a vocab of under 10 words. Im hoping their isnt anything wrong with him and he is just being a bit lazy. Wish us luck. Oooooo this sounds like my son. He has never had his two year check (slaps wrists). Having said that he always seems to do things a little later then he is meant to Good luck, hope it goes well Edited January 31, 2008 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 That is boys for you. My middle child didn't utter a word until he was three and then the floodgates opened and he hasn't drawn breath since. He is left handed, and I think the 2 go together occasionally somehow. Both my friends daughter and my sisters son were very slow to speak and are both left handed. However I am left handed and spoke early. I am sure you have nothing serious to worry about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I'm sure it will be fine. Ethan doesn't speak clearly & so last week I phoned the health visitor to ask her to refer him for some speech therapy. I was prompted to action when we couldn't understand a word he was saying & he had to repeat it over & over until we got it- the word was cot but it came out as tot. He has trouble pronouncing his "c's Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Good luck Noah! Layla had speech problems - she was diagnosed at just under three but did not get the help she needed until she started school because of a shortage of speech therapists. Amongst other things, the poor girl could not say 'L' so everyone thought she was called Yay-ya If Noah does need help (and it may just be delayed development) I hope he gets it at the right time. It does NOT make you a bad mummy - but I understand how you feel, it makes you wonder what you have been doing wrong. The answer is - you are doing just fine and every child is different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 My son had speech therapy from the age of 3 until he was 6. He chattered but was very hard to understand, I could just about work out what he wanted but his older sister could understand him really well, and hubby really struggled. When he started school he could say very little that others could understand, and this was difficult for him in terms of making friends. His speech therapist said that he had a fantastic vocabulary for his age which they can test by showing them pictures etc and they are used to listening but because he hasa large tongue it took him a while to learn how to use it and he still has problems saying anything that starts with a 'th'comes out as 'v' Boys often develop late and the fact that this has been recognized at such a young age can only be a good thing. My son is now doing well at one of the best grammar schools in the area and had one of the lead roles in his year 6 play at school last year in which he spoke loud and clear and brought a tear to my eye Good luck today with Noah, they make the therapy great fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Man Banned Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I'm sure Noah will be fine and think of it this way. You are in no way a bad mum, far from it - you are doing what you can to make sure that he is learning everything that he should be, and this speech therapist is only going to help make Noah a very good talker In a few years time you'll look back and wonder what the worry was about A xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatsCube Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 Thank you all you have been very reasuring. Its just hard with family, as some of them keep going on about it and suggesting all sorts of things that might be wrong with him like autism etc. The words he has lernt are really weird and include Salsa Teeth Under He 'talks' non stop its just it all comes out as da da da da da. Complete with facial expressions and changes in tone, like he is having some facinating in depth discussion. Then looks at you like your the fool who doesnt understand. I think sometimes thats what it is, he is thinking why should I learn your language when you cant be bothered to speak mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Its just hard with family, as some of them keep going on about it and suggesting all sorts of things that might be wrong with him like autism etc. Not helpful. I am sure they are well meaning...but I should find a way of asking them to back off. Noah will pick up on the negative comments, which you don't want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Sounds just like James when he was little My father in law was always running him down he didn't measure up to his golden big sister . His first primary school teacher told us he was dispraxic because he was quite clumsy but he was so good at jigsaws and other puzzles that there was no way he could be. Another teacher when he was in year 3 told us he had autistic tendencies, he is just himself, he is an individual who is actually pretty bright and it gave him and us great joy on his last day at primary school to go to those teachers to get his shirt signed and tell them which school he was going to. He also had 3 great teachers in yrs 4,5&6 who recognised his potential and helped him make the most of it. My FIL has also given him a lot more attention since he has realised that he is actually very intelligent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 My ys is being assessed this week too. His problem isnt vocab though but more he can't say certain letters. Theres definitely a lisp and other sounds are a problem too such as ls. Your health visiotr must be really on top of it if he has been referred at too. Jamie is three and I had to ask for himt o be referred via playgroup. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I hope that the asessment went well . I'm sure that you have nothing to worry about, Noah will simply be asssessed with no judgement or criticism at all, and then help will be put in place if necessary to make sure that his speech and language skills develop appropriately. He sounds like a bright boy if his vocabulary is anything to go by. Quite the contrary to being a "bad" mum, you're actually being a fabulous one if you're getting him the correct assessments, and help to make sure that he doesn't have any long term problems, and being able to get that in place at such a young age . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Another teacher when he was in year 3 told us he had autistic tendencies, To be honest I think the majoity of males are already higher up the spectrum than females. How did it go Cat? I bet they didn't tell you you're a bad mum! A bad mum would be one who didn't want to help their child. Any tips you can pass on? I know what you mean about them talking. I speak Jamie and so does Azzu (Matthew) but quite often have to interpret for other people including my husband and sometimes its even too garbled for me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatsCube Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 Well it all went really well. The Therapist commented on what a lovely and plesent boy he was. His comprehension is great and he is very vocal and good at expression his needs, which is why his inability to speak isnt fraustrating him. The rest of his deveopment is all on track which is the most important thing. She has given me some leaflets of tips on how to encourage more words from him and what words are good ones to aim for, and is going to pop over some teaching cards, so I need to try to get him to learn a couple before she comes back in a couple of months. If we have no progress then she will refer him to the advanced team to try some other methods. She was very impressed with his chicken impressions and he lead her by the hand to show her the chickens through the patio doors and show her the eggs he had just collected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnieP Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Glad it went well. I am sure that he will be ok. There is so much good advice above, and you are doing the right thing to try to get to the bottom of it whilst he is so young. I have taught a few children, much older, whose parents haven't picked up on their inability to say certain letter sounds, or certain words correctly and whilst its cute when they are little, it can be highly embarrassing as they get older, so well done! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 She was very impressed with his chicken impressions and he lead her by the hand to show her the chickens through the patio doors and show her the eggs he had just collected. I just knew chickens would get included in this somewhere My younger son had virtually no language at all at two and didn't walk properly until he was 28months.We called in the experts and they gave us some fun excercises to do with him and in time it all came right, you can't shut him up now Weirdly some of the words he used instead of real words still remain today within the family, we all call a splinter in a finger a 'blenty' and biscuits are referred to as 'bibbits' Tessa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 We often make booberly muffins. 'Blueberry' is quite hard to pronounce! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Glad it was all positive for you and him . I would echo everyone else, you're not a bad mum - it's just one of those things. We often shout "there's a daddix!" (taxi ). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little chickadee Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Glad it went well Cat. My son is on the waiting list at the moment for Speach therepy too. I dont' think there is much of a problem, but the school want him to see someone so we're going along with it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Sausages in our house are dodgees, that was actually from ED whose diction is perfect. DS called Father Christmas Father kiss kiss and his sister Rebecca Dekdi. Glad it all went well Cat, he sounds like he's doing fine to me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Sausages in our house are dodgees, that was actually from ED whose diction is perfect. DS called Father Christmas Father kiss kiss and his sister Rebecca Dekdi. My best friend's son called helicopters 'up the doctors' when he was little Tessa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 (edited) DS called Father Christmas Father kiss kiss We had "Farmer" Christmas visit us for years. My daughter wore a "cardington" and read "mazagines". Oh....and they all ate "blarners" (bananas) :lol: Am glad it went well. Edited January 31, 2008 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Glad it went well Cat! I think sometimes they are just thinking too fast for their little mouths to keep up! My 3 year old speaks quite well now, but he still loves to eat 'lemons' (melons) and now the whole house says it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...