Alis girls Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I know manners are not what they used to be but this beggars belief. I was in Lidl today unpacking my shopping onto the belt as one does, when I was nearly knocked flying by someone behind me reaching over for the divider thing that goes between your shopping and next persons. i turned round expecting Atilla the Hun to find a 5 ft granny standing there. I was about to take her to task but merely TUTTED very loudly. I am 5ft9 and size 14 so not petite Then - as I was about to put my card in the machine shes standing there. At this point I said "Could you move please" - i didntwant her seeing my PIN and mugging me outside Honestly I know old people get a rough time in the UK but I pity any mugger who takes her on. She nearly floored me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ygerna Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Honestly I know old people get a rough time in the UK but I pity any mugger who takes her on. She nearly floored me I've been pushed and shoved by old people at the reduced price section in Tesco. I am 5ft 8in and I am NOT petite in build either but they still push and jostle their way past me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Well, while we are on the subject of old people...I am so sick of old people trying to knock you down with their scooters!! What is that all about? They are a liablilty some of them. I took my life in my hand trying to negotiate the non existent 'Penny Bazzar' in M & S at lunchtime. I nearly knocked one over driving down a road the other day. I missed them but then saw that they hit the curb later and tipped it over, I went to help and they got stroppy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I once saw a dear sweet old lady parked in the mother & baby spaces in Tesco, & thought that she probably didn't realise,so told her that they were reserved for people with babies. She told me where to go in the most blunt & foul terms & said that as she was old,she could park where she liked Some old people are lovely,but some are absolute terrors & really play on their age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I had a young bloke (so not really the same thing) barge past Rosie and me at the weekend, or rather I should say that he attempted to barge past us... I saw him coming out of the corner of my eye and stepped sideways smartish - he went flying 'Ooo, excuse me' I said Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 It's the queue in the post office that does it for me every time with the blue rinses pushing to the front. It's always women too I've found Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 The problem with old people is that if they were rude and unpleasant when they were young things only get worse as they get old and they then have certain expectations. There are some lovely and some horrible old people out there just as with the rest of the population. The thing that really gets me is when my children do something polite like hold a door open for an older person and they fail to say thankyou. How can the older generation expect respect from youngsters if they don't lead by example Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunty e Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 It's not really the same thing, but I'm often too embarassed to ask to sit down on the tube, because all the other pregnant women I see asking are so bolshy about it. I mean, I wouldn't say no if somebody offered me a seat, but I don't really mind waiting for one to become available. There's no real need to be rude, half the time people feel too awkward to offer in case you've got a beer belly rather than a baby bump! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 It's not really the same thing, but I'm often too embarassed to ask to sit down on the tube, because all the other pregnant women I see asking are so bolshy about it. I mean, I wouldn't say no if somebody offered me a seat, but I don't really mind waiting for one to become available. There's no real need to be rude, half the time people feel too awkward to offer in case you've got a beer belly rather than a baby bump! What you need is my friend, when I was working in London and pregnant with my 1st baby she used to shout "pregnant lady standing"! I used to get so embarrassed but it usually worked (it was helpful because I only had a small bump even at 8 months) I must be lucky as I haven't met any rude oldies yet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Plenty of them around Stratford as well My son was brought up to hold open doors for people - it is always the old ones who don't say thank-you. He just makes loud comments now - and at 6'2" and with shaved hair I'm amazed they don't just say thank-you in the first place! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I always thank people loudly if they've 'forgotten' 'Manners maketh a man' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geoid Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Grrr, old people never saying thank you get me really angry! I was on the bus today, sitting down, old lady approaches me, so i give my seat up, no thank you, not even a glance in my direction! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 Fred next time say loudly either "thank you would be nice" which is what I shout out the car window when cross or ask " did you say something" and when they say no equally loudly say " oh I thought you said thank you" either that or let them stand. Manner cosr nothing. A thank you in my job makes a bad day bearable ( NHS worker) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geoid Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Although this can backfire, giving your seat up that is. I was on the bus with a few freinds, an old lady gets on, so I go to freind 'let the old lady sit down' then the lady shouts at me 'Im not old! How dare you' etc etc etc. But she did get the seat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 Well fred I see you live in London, so do I and it speaks volumes. I will now be berated by angry Londoners - but hey the proofs in the pudding. I do find Midlanders are politer and even OH agrees and hes from London. I dont know how old you are fred but you sound a nice friendly polite young man ( and I sound like one of those old ladies Harry Enfield and Paul Whitehouse used to play!!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 that happened to me last week in Aldi. The people behind were so close that their trolley was touching the back of my legs. I fumed silently. I passed them one of those 'next customer' dividers, not so much as a thank you! I fumed silently. Got to the til and they were blocking the card machine with their trolley, I couldn't keep silent any longer! "Could you move your trolley please!" They muttered a sorry but couldn't move back because the person behind them was too close! I said to the girl on the til, in a raised whisper "I hate it when people stand so close!" When I am behind someone in a queue, I leave a respectful distance so they don't feel intimidated or that they have to rush etc. I find it so incredibly rude to stand breathing down someone's neck at a til and it's usually older people that do it, the generation that prides itself on manners! grrrrrrrrrrrr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 .....or ask " did you say something" and when they say no equally loudly say " oh I thought you said thank you".... brilliant, I'm going to use that one!!!! I usually just say "you're welcome" very loudly but I like yours better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Grrr, old people never saying thank you get me really angry! I was on the bus today, sitting down, old lady approaches me, so i give my seat up, no thank you, not even a glance in my direction! this reminds me of when I was at college and travelling on the bus each day, I offerred an elderley lady my seat and was yelled at, stating she didn't need my pity or something like that!. I was gobmacked and sat back down... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I was rammed up the backside in Tescos by an old man with a trolley a few Christmasses ago. My hubby had left the rather long queue to get some lucozade for his Mum who had called us on the mobile. I was still in the queue with the trolley. I thought that it was an accident at first but he did it again. I asked if there was a problem and he said 'You left the queue'. I said that hubby had left the queue and pointed out that I had stayed in it. He continued moaning that we had still left the queue and rammed me again. I pointed out that if he rammed me again that he would be extracting his trolley from his posterior! I was ever so slightly cheesed at this point. When he rammed me again, his wife walked off and left him and I shouted as loud as I could for security. I also got my phone out and intimated that I was going to call the police. Tescos opened another checkout for me, I then made an official complaint to security about him showing them the marks down my legs from his trolley. Meanwhile he had all the other shoppers having a go at him and telling security that he had been attacking me. My poor hubby came back to mayhem. I couldn't resist waving goodbye to him when we were leaving and pointing out that his trolley ramming had got him nowhere as we were served and he was still at the back of a long queue. Petty I know but ultimately satisfying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 .....or ask " did you say something" and when they say no equally loudly say " oh I thought you said thank you".... brilliant, I'm going to use that one!!!! I usually just say "you're welcome" very loudly but I like yours better! Me too Poet! I always say "you're welcome" loudly and with a big, friendly smile on my face I rarely reach boiling point but the other day at the train station OH's ticket wouldn't work in the barrier so he was waiting in the queue to speak to the railway person with the magic barrier pass. A lady rammed her bicycle into the back of OH's legs and said "oh, sorry, there's not much room for bikes" . OH politely side stepped slightly to let her get her bike out of the way of other people and then she pushed in front of him in the queue! I was FUMING as the railway person didn't say anything and he knew OH was next in the queue. I actually pointed this out to him and he said "excuse me dear but I'm serving this lady" as if I was in the wrong OOOOOH I almost burst The woman would not make eye contact with me, lucky for her as I would have pointed out a few things to her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitbag Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Some Old people need to learn a few manners! I was walking to the shops yesterday, and I had to walk past this old couple. As I walked past, I smiled politly, as I would with anybody. They were walking across the road, and as they went down the kerb the old man started to fall. I reached out to grab him, and the old woman hit me with her handbag (yes really!) and told me I was the reason he fell. I got sooo cross, I told her as best I could that I had only smiled, and I was trying to help. She was having none of it, and after about 5 minutes of her pretty much telling me I am the scum of the village ( ) I just walked off. I was absolutly fuming. Luckily the old man was ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ygerna Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I moved to South West London from Somerset and it still shocks me sometimes how rude people are to each other here. Its kind of sad. I always do my best to try and be polite. I always say good morning to the lollipop lady (who very rarely even smiles a thank you ) but, on the flip side, there is a man I generally pass as we walk to school and he is on his way to work each morning, he walks. We now always say good morning to each other and have even bumped into each other in the local shop and had a little chat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 Janty I am so glad I didnt have a cuppa when i read your post. The thought of you ramming the trolley ... well u know I just carcked up. Well done you showed the silly old duffa honestly where does it get them. I get so cross when young people are bad mouthed , Fred and Scramble sound lovely and my 2 have their moments but I am told by friends that they are polite at other peoples houses. Some of them go overboard. YS has a litltle friend of 8 who says "thank you so much" its so cute I nearly dropped his dinner I always make them say Thanks to the mum hosting parties even if it means a hunt to find her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geoid Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I was on a friends boat a while back, whilst in a lock, some other boat rammed us, the owners didn't even say sorry! So I wrote a rather rude word on a (large) piece of paper and waved it in their face (Normally I wouldn't do such a thing) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redhotchick Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I can't believe some of the things in this thread! OMG! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
