Helly Welly Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 I've been teaching my daughter to knit, she also loves making pom-poms. The only tv we watch during the week is the news which i have watched with her from a young age. She sees the reports of kids with ASBO's and is as disgusted as i am! She's only 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfamily Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 My children are 13 and almost 15 and we all still love doing things together as a family and so do most of their friends At weekends we operate a Saturday for mates day, Sunday for Family day system and will continue to do so for as long as they can cope with being seen out in public with me This week it was nice to see one of Ollie's friends, who popped in for a while on the way home from school, phone home to check if it was alright for him to stay at our house until 5.30. Last week I gave a lift home to another couple of his friends and they were trying to organise an outing and all agreed they couldn't do Sundays as that was their family day at the weekend. These children are all in Year 10 We always have dinner together, around the table and chat about our day. I take an interest in their hobbies and I'm getting quite good at building and painting Warhammer and my knitting is improving and they take an interest in my life although I do note a little at some of the things I do. It really annoys me when parents don't parent. Being a parent is a tough job and you have to work at it, the hours are long, the pay is c**p but when you creep into their room late at night to check they're asleep that peaceful look on their face is worth more than anything in the world Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 In a nutshell Pam. It amazes me the number of parents who think that parenting is bunging the kids in front of the telly to 'keep them quiet'. The TV is not an electronic childminder - it is a source of information and entertainment. Childen need the stimulation provided by interaction with their parents, family and other children. Rosie and I spent the early evening after she had her supper, stuffing chicken breasts with a concoction that she'd made, and baking a cake for the birthday lunch (my mummy and Phil) on Saturday. We had great fun, and she just about knows how to cook a complete meal now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 I agree with everything said above - nothing to add! Except: Can I do a temporary swap? I really do enjoy football, wrestling, making mud pies, building train tracks etc; but I would love to do dressing dolls, sewing, knitting, cooking etc. I have tried to do these with the boys but you can see their eyes glaze over after about 10 seconds and they want to be off again. Anyone got a daughter I can borrow?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 15, 2007 Author Share Posted March 15, 2007 You could always knit one of your own Snowy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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The Dogmother Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 You could always knit one of your own Snowy! Deal! Can I send her over when she hits 13 and have her back at say 20 Snowy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Don't mind a teenage girl, but only in exchange for my own 'Kevin & Perry' impersonator!! 15 and full of attitude! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Awww bless! Rosie does that every now and then (mainly when she's tired). I was a terrible tearaway when I was that age, so I'm prepared for her to follow suit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Snowy - have mine, have mine! She is lovely but I want to do some (real) rough stuff... Now, can you cope with a girl who likes to make believe she is a boy? No fairy stuff, no nail varnish, just a nearly 6 year old's vison of what it means to be a boy? And can I have your 15 year old and Clare's Rosie please? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Lorna - I would love to know where you work. I worked at Nacro for a while but I could not cope with the heartache. I spent so much time either frustrated by the attitude (and all the factors behind it), or so helpless in the face of neglect that I had to leave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted March 15, 2007 Share Posted March 15, 2007 Now, can you cope with a girl who likes to make believe she is a boy? What the heck, I've got a boy who likes to make believe he's a dog so the more the merrier I say! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 I would swap my 14 year old daughter for anyone elses child sometimes When she is having a good day she is the sweetest,most lovely girl,but when she is having a bad day then she is pure evil It doesn't help that all the other teenage girls who are her freinds are just the same ,& "Ooops, word censored!" like crazy behind each others back. They can act like a covern of witches. I don't think a week has gone by when Devon isn't talking to someone One of her pals said that Devon was getting fat this week.Devon is a perfect size 10 & 5 foot 8...................is it any wonder these girls get complexes about their weight We keep telling her she is a perfect size & has a lovely figure,but apparantly our opinions don't count - only her freinds do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 16, 2007 Author Share Posted March 16, 2007 My daughter had several nasty friends too....one in particular who I could have cheerfully strangled. They do seem so intent on putting one another down. My daughter is very slim, but eats like a horse. Two of her friends, who are decidedly chunky, had a phase of telling everyone and anyone that she is anorexic. Jealousy I suppose. Luckily, my daughter can stand up for herself! Boys are so much easier in this respect...they just don't seem to have that sort of interaction with their friends. They don't hold grudges and aren't malicious as far as I can tell. However, they can be reckless and get into s"Ooops, word censored!"es which girls wouldn't ever countenance. The joys of motherhood, eh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 My daughter is very slim, but eats like a horse. Two of her friends, who are decidedly chunky, had a phase of telling everyone and anyone that she is anorexic. Jealousy I suppose. Luckily, my daughter can stand up for herself! That is EXACTLY the situation Devon is in & luckily she is more than capable of standing up for herself too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 This all made me laugh - for a minute........... Been there, done that...... and s"Ooops, word censored!"ed through ............................................ but then you have grandchildren ...... and it starts all over again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helly Welly Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Whenver we see a teenager swearing and spitting in the street my daughter is the first to be Teaching her what's acceptable and what isn't at an early age will hopefully stop the worst of the tantrums when she's a teenager. One of the Mum's at school yesterday was called a B*gg*r by her 3 year old son and she just ignored him, didn't even tell him off My daughter didn't even know any swear words until we told her some late last year as kids were starting to say them at school. We have NEVER sworn in front of her, yet another Mum down at school yesterday was quite happily using the "F" word in front of her 3 year old. I jsut don't get it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Rosie used to get called fat a lot - she's built more like here dad than me and is a tad on the stocky/solid side, but not fat. Luckily she had enough confidence to see her through it, although it was dodgy at times. She understands that it's more important to be/eat healthy than to look like a toothpick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 Lorna - I would love to know where you work. I worked at Nacro for a while but I could not cope with the heartache. I spent so much time either frustrated by the attitude (and all the factors behind it), or so helpless in the face of neglect that I had to leave. I deal with funding that is for different sorts of projects including those focussed on providing basic skills, careers advice, vocational courses for 14-19 year olds. One of the perks of my job is getting around the region to actually meet the people that have benefited from the funding and speak to the project managers and staff (these are the people that put the really hard work into making these things a success). I am often amazed by the sheer dedication shown, often in the face of difficult circumstances and difficult people, by the staff that work on these projects. It still humbles me to see their eyes well up with pride when one of their pupils is talking about what they have achieved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted March 16, 2007 Share Posted March 16, 2007 I recall looking after my cousin when he was about 4 and i 17. I took him to the park in the village and there were two lads who were wagging school sitting on the swings and swearing like troopers - i was quite shocked at the time as they continued even though i had Iain with me. Needless to say i told them i was not impressed and to shock me again they apologised! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helly Welly Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I can't believe they apologised I always tell off people who swear in front of my daughter and apology is a rarity indeed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
