Alis girls Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Like many parents I often feed other peoples kids when they are here with mine and would never not feed them unless we were going out or something - even if it were only something on toast etc. ES has a friend whose mum I am friendly with who often says she cant feed him as they have no food in. Now even on our "no food in days" I can stretch to a buttie or an egg ! of some sort. Anyway ES popped in this evening having been at this mates as they are popping out to pick up his phone and left friend standing in hall while he got his phone. In a moment of panic I just knew OH would call out " shes not fed you then?" !!! so I hastily got in first and shouted " Go and sit down B and wait" glaring at my husband. When they had left I said I just knew he was gonna say something - he said he could hear the panic in my voice and knew he;d been rumbled. Men Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted March 11, 2011 Share Posted March 11, 2011 Men cant live with them cant live without them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 But some people are right mean. If no food in, she could have gone the chippy at least! Think this friends mother needs to learn food organisation. Has she not heard of a freezer? I mean it's not the best food, but she could always have some micro chips & pizzas in. Or even tins of soup / yukky pot noodles. Teenagers love stuff like that....honestly, what a meanie! Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 But some people are right mean. If no food in, she could have gone the chippy at least! Think this friends mother needs to learn food organisation. Has she not heard of a freezer? I mean it's not the best food, but she could always have some micro chips & pizzas in. Or even tins of soup / yukky pot noodles. Teenagers love stuff like that....honestly, what a meanie! Emma.x Some people just cannot afford to keep a freezer stocked or to pop out to the chippy. I don't know their situation but if its a single mum on benefits for some reason they may be struggling to feed their own teens. She may be highly embarrassed by this. Of course she may just be stingy but you wont be able to change that either Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 12, 2011 Author Share Posted March 12, 2011 I dont think its either of those (shes married) I think he son just poles up with mates and doesnt tell her and she probably doesnt like visitors. I'm not bothered just wanted to highlight the nearly funny mistake my lovely OH made Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 Maybe you should let him next time so that said teen goes back and complains at his mum/dad and they feed your teen occasionally to balance it out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 She musn't have heard of Farm foods or Iceland! Cheap! I'm not saying to have it stuffed full, but to have just something in. My mum always fed our friends when we were young, yet we'd go others houses & come home with rumbling tummies. Nothing to do with income - because we went to houses where the families were on quite low wages / benefits & we ate as if it was a party. They had lovely kind hearts In fact it was those on higher incomes that neglected us! I'd just let your son keep going, but either send him with snacks in his bag or feed him up when he gets in. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted March 12, 2011 Share Posted March 12, 2011 These teens, they'll eat the contents of all their mates fridges given half the chance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 12, 2011 Author Share Posted March 12, 2011 Tell me about it - I hide food from my son and I shop on a Friday as thats when hes likely to bring a mate round for a meal. Its just not everyone is like us - where I come from you had a mug of tea in your mit before your bum touched a chair (even if you didnt want one ) i just accept everyones different. OH's family (Greek Cypriots) didnt have the kids friends round - his mum was shy and had depression and the house was untidy so OH never invited friends round. Our house is "lived in " but people seem to like coming round. I want my sons to remember their childhoods as a time when friends were welcomed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 These teens, they'll eat the contents of all their mates fridges given half the chance! Tell me about it I'd rather have a photo of my teen and her boyfriend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 Nothing prepared me for the food capacity of teenage boys. They eat their own body weight twice a day. Even if they had both had a three course meal with second helpings at the mate's house an hour earlier: a) they would have forgotten b) they could easily manage another one c) they would be hungry again an hour later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 Ah, the old "hollow leg" syndrome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 14, 2011 Author Share Posted March 14, 2011 Hollow everything I think - the only thing I can think of is to padlock everything with food in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I'm planning already. Any tips? Ds1 and ds2 already out eat me and I don't have small portions i think I'm kicking ds1 out when ds3 becomes a teen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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BeckyBoo Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 Funny isn't it, I'm flat broke, always am and yet I had seven kids for tea on Saturday evening (and fed two extras at lunchtime too). It was nothing exciting just chips and bread and butter and a mixture of fish fingers or pasta (as my son won't eat anything but pasta!) but mine don't eat at other peoples houses nearly as often as we have visitors here. When I go to collect mine from other peoples houses the houses are often immaculate and I know when the mums come to get their kids from mine they must look at the big slobbery dog, and odd bits of chicken bedding that seems to materialise within 30 seconds of me hoovering, the toys all over the floor, the cat, the chickens, the rabbits and the perpetually open front door and they must think "what a state to live in". But my house and garden are ALWAYS full of kids and I know my lot will remember chaotic noisy tea times more than a shiny floor. When my children are grown and flown, THEN I'll have a tidy house with no toy cars to trip over and food that stays in the fridge when I put it in there BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 My girls have both left home now but when they were teenagers we always had assorted friends eating with them - it's amazing how far you can stretch a spag bol with extra veggies etc! My OH used to get really annoyed "are we feeding the whole street" etc etc! I always had a tin full of fun sized sweets and chocolate bars I loved it as I wanted my girls to feel that everyone was welcome. When my YD recently met on of her old friends he said that he always loved coming round our house as there was always the choccie tin to raid and could she thank me as he never said anything at the time. I suppose 10 years isn't too long to wait for a thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Henchanted Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I agree with Emma and Bronze. It is mean, a (peanut butter/ marmite/ egg etc) sandwich will hardly break the bank and letting the friend hear your OHs comment would get back to his mum and be a wake up call I do think that your story shows how you and your OH work so well together aaw.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I can empathise as I often have a house full of starving teenage girls Luckily Rosie is a good enough cook to help out if I'm busy. I have to say though that one of her friend's mothers seemed to think that I was operating a child-minding service, despite the fact that I work full time. We had her daughter at our house for most of the Christmas holidays, no offer to help out with food, a small gift or flowers as I would have done. If she'd asked, i wouldn't have minded, but there was no please or thank you either. Along a similar vein.... it was Rosie's birthday on Friday and we took her and 6 friends out for a meal, I had told all the parents that we'd give them each a lift back home afterwards (about 9pm) I drove around Banbury, dropping each girl back home, Phil got out of the car to take each one to the door and make sure that they got in safely..... Yup, you've guessed it... out of those 6 girls, only two of the parents bothered to thank him/us manners cost nothing but say a great deal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 14, 2011 Author Share Posted March 14, 2011 This bought a tear to my eye - Becky - my house is like yours - I despair of the mess - but I work and dont want to spend the time tidying up - its clean (ish) and no ones had food poisoning (yet fingers crossed) - other kids love our mad cats - I would feed anyone thats just me - not everyones the same Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Speckled Hen Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 Funny isn't it, I'm flat broke, always am and yet I had seven kids for tea on Saturday evening When I go to collect mine from other peoples houses the houses are often immaculate and I know when the mums come to get their kids from mine they must look at the big slobbery dog, and odd bits of chicken bedding that seems to materialise , the toys all over the floor, the cat, the chickens, the rabbits and the perpetually open front door and they must think "what a state to live in". But my house and garden are ALWAYS full of kids and I know my lot will remember chaotic noisy tea times more than a shiny floor. BeckyBoo BeckyBoo They have a house whereas you have a home.............something to be proud of. Ask your kids twenty years down the line where their memories lie? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 Children should play & a house should be a home. I haven't got children, but you can write your name in the dust! It's cluttered & homely! Let others think what they want - I wouldn't want a shiny floor. When we were little our lego would be sprawled over the floor, followed by Barbie clothes, Sindy wardrobes etc etc. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 Nooooo not lego it's so painful to stand on. Last week I stood on a legless man and my foot hurt for days Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 My dad always says a house is not a home until you can write I love you in the dust We can leave each other notes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 16, 2011 Author Share Posted March 16, 2011 And it gets in the hoover Lego that is Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
