Nacktschnecken omlet Cube

[westie mum]

Hugs for everyone, I know how you feel. My middle daughter moved away 4 weeks ago to do a 12 month work placement on a farm in Hertfordshire. Thankfully she has settled in now and has made friends. She started crying on the Saturday morning that she went as soon as she said goodbye to the dogs. Tears continued for the rest of the day and it was heartbreaking seeing her sitting on the grass verge when we had to leave her, we blubbed all the way home and were still struggling on the Sunday. We Skype a couple of times a week and it's lovely to see her relaxed and happy, she does have moments where she's homesick but says she can cope because she loves the work so much.

On the other hand youngest daughter moved to Cumbria last weekend to go to Uni her way of coping when we were going was " see ya, you can close the door on the way out can't you?". She seems to have settled and made friends and says she is fine. Little worried yesterday when I saw photos on FB of a night out with her new friends, the table in the pub was covered with used shot glasses and there was 5 jugs of alcohol on the table ready to be drunk. I did text her yesterday and say that I would like her to come home with her liver intact!!

I do miss them terribly though and my eldest daughter does too as she's the only left at home, things should get better for her though as she starts her first proper job this week.

[Cinnamon]

Mine messaged me last night to inform me that she was eating some salad

I did have to force her to buy it,though!

 

Sussex is where my youngest is looking at - what did you think of it,Lisa?

 

I must say how impressed I was at the accommodation at Surrey,which is just beautiful.

Very spacious,bright & clean - only a year old too,so in good shape & not tatty.

It was nice to know that I was leaving her somewhere that seemed so lovely & well organised....although she still has to suss out the bus routes to get too & from Campus

[Seagazer]

Hugs to everyone missing their kids that have gone to Uni. Before you know it they'll be back. As I mentioned before we didn't cry when we left DD at Nottingham uni as she was so happy and excited so we couldn't shed a tear. However when we left her for her 3rd year in France that was an entirely different matter. She was crying and very nervous and I literally cried all the way back from Valencienne, even through dinner on the ferry and was still crying when we got back home. BUT we all survived, even she did although she mostly hated her time in France (not that you'd know it now - she's going over there now and thinks of it fondly ).

 

I think going away to uni does our young adults the power of good. I'll let you know how I cope when they actually leave home for good.......

[LisaP]

Cinnamon, Sussex is lovely It Is clean and well kept, some parts are a bit older but they are doing quite a lot of new building.

 

Must admit that it was the only Uni I visited with her but she looked at others and said she felt most at home at Sussex. Again no comparisons from me but everyone was very friendly at the open day and yesterday and it was all very organised.

 

The first year students are all accommodated on campus and there are a variety of options - DD has a room with a wash basin, in a flat that has six bedrooms with shared facilities. They have a bathroom with a bath/basin/toilet, separate toilet, separate shower and then communal dining area and kitchen.

 

The Uni is only 10 mins or so from Brighton and the Uni has it's own subsidised bus to and fro, so hopefully even when she has to move off campus next year, she'll still be able to get there relatively easily. On campus they have a doctors surgery, dentist, bank, post office and Co-op supermarket and a regular farmers market

 

Lisa P

[Cinnamon]

Thanks - that sounds lovely & very similar to Surrey.

My girl is in a complex of flats about a 20 min walk from the Campus itself,like your daughters they have a shared kitchen,but all the rooms are ensuite (& very nice too).

 

They also get a farmers market - great idea,isn't it?

[LisaP]

Sussex have a variety of accommodation, including en-suites but that would have swallowed up just about all of her grant and after sharing a bathroom with her 3 brothers here, she thought it couldn't be any worse

 

I agree about the farmers market, especially as DD is veggie and loves her fruit and veg

 

Lisa P

[Ms Marple]

Hang on in there everyone, I think they survive better than us in the main. I left YS in Birmingham last Saturday and cried most of the way back down the M6. He is in a lovely flat for 5, with 4 Chinese who speak hardly any English but are all friends It took him until yesterday to get his internet to work (wouldn't let me sort it and I'm the IT 'dude' in our house ) His mailbox key doesn't open his mailbox and althought he has reported it several times as I keep reminding him, it is still not done. Uni asked for additional ID ie passport which he had thought was better left at home. I sent it Special Delivery on Tuesday to the supposedly 'manned' office for the student flats. No-one there so it is now at a sorting office somewhere in Birmingham and the delivery card is still in the locked box. I am hopping mad, indignant wanting to go down and sort it all out. He won't let me and says it will get sorted and that he doesn't want to shout like I do

He is not too happy in the flat, so ES has told him how to go about changing. Trouble is YS has always done things his way (which has often resulted in intervention by me in the past). I got a text last night saying ' I love you Mum but you have got to stop treating me like a baby.' So I am currently trying really hard to leave it to him.

 

Trouble is we all just want them to be happy and getting things wrong is the best way of learning I suppose, but .....

I started watching the Sandhurst programme on BBC4 this week in anticipation of what is in store for ES....

ON the bright side OH and I are off to St Lucia three weeks today and he has almost finished our WIR after a year

Stay positive all of you and I am trying to. I think because ES travelled for 6 months in his gap year, it did make the whole start of uni thing with him much simpler.

[Ain't Nobody Here]

It's so hard not to stick your oar in, isn't it . I'm managing at last to let ES sort things out for himself but thankfully he's often in touch and will ask for help if he needs it .

 

What a shame for your son - I hope he manages to sort something out with his flat, it doesn't seem fair to put him in there on his own .

 

Re accommodation, ES told me yesterday that the Uni is demolishing his halls from last year . That says it all about the condition they were in .

[Chook n Boo Mum]

It's not quite the same as mine are home every weekend, only for Saturday night & Sunday til teatime, but they are both (DD 11, DS 14) away at boarding school now, over an hour away..........

 

At least I don't have to worry about them going out & getting wasted, or missing the bus to campus, but do have the moans & gripes about room-mates.........she has a Japanese girl and a Spanish girl in with her, luckily she's a friendly little thing & had got to know a couple of the other English girls before she went to the school..............DS is a hormonal monster atm, so school's the best place for him , he ALWAYS complains about who he has to share with , going in to his 4th year, it falls on deaf ears now

 

Still got empty nest tho' ..............

[chickencam]

My eldest turned 18 today and this time next year she sill be off to uni. I got quite weepy just at the thought that she is now legally responsible for herself, let a lone her leaving home. She was chuffed to be informed that she now qualifys for the adult version of facebook, she didn't even know that there was one, neither did I.

 

I have never thought of myself as someone who would be bothered when my chicks left the nest, but I am beginning to wonder. I love the extra time that I get with OH now that they are older and that I can go out whenever I like and not worry about babysitters or taking them with me though.

 

Good luck to all of you with recently flown offspring, they are moving on with their lives, time to pat yourselves on the back for a job well done.

[Mrs Webmuppet]

I too have a temporarily empty nest as LMW is at boarding school and only comes home for Saturday night to Sunday teatime every third week plus the school holidays ................the house does look remarkably tidy.

 

LMW is having a fantastic time at boarding school and has made loads of friends. She came home this last weekend and when we took her back I nearly got flattened by a stampede of girls welcoming her back! - I was carrying a large cake box, freshly refilled (of course!).

[Cinnamon]

I have just mailed my daughter a box of things she 'needs desperately' at Uni.......including her leather jacket,a box of Quality Street & a turquoise feather boa

Its comedy night for freshers tonight,so I am rather hoping that it means it will be a more sober night which ends a little earlier than the 4am she had this morning.......

 

The food bill was down by £20 this week (Monday - Thursday),which isn't a bad thing

[The Dogmother]

How's she managing financially? The students living over from us are following the time-honoured tradition of blowing all their loans on parties

[Seagazer]

The feather boa will definitely come in handy.....my DD has so many dressing up clothes from all the themed parties that they went to

[LisaP]

Our DD apparently has a steadily increasing list of items she either didn't realise she'd need/forgot/wishes she had taken, although she has said it can all wait until we visit in a couple of weeks, apart from her hairbrush, which was desperately needed and duly mailed to her yesterday No requests for feather boas as yet though

 

Lisa P

[Cinnamon]

How's she managing financially? The students living over from us are following the time-honoured tradition of blowing all their loans on parties

 

 

Well, she is somewhat of a pedant when it comes to her finances.

She sat down & made a spreadsheet of everything & worked out a weekly budget for herself,which she is 'paying' herself from one account to her daily account by direct debit,on a weekly basis.

Should she go over,she has £3k odd or saving behind her anyhow.

 

TBH she shouldn't need to buy much in the way of food for a week or so,the amount she took with her

Plus she has £80 of my saved Tesco vouchers too.

 

Doesn't stop me worrying though.....................

 

Her slinky witches outfit has also been requested for Hallowe'en parties.

[bellekatz]

My DD came home this weekend when she found out on Facebook that I had bought Brownies She hasnt been to many parties, only 1, and went back with my clothes airer (to save on tumble drying), more pasta and some veggie stuff i had in the freezer. We do chat on facebook when we are on at hte same time but I try not to ring/text unless it is really important. She is on her 2nd day of lectures today and has had one cancelled already . Seems there were 28 people without seats so the lecturer refused to teach u ntil they found a bigger room.

[Ain't Nobody Here]

Just be careful how much extra stuff they ask you to bring - it's all got to come home again . We had to make a couple of journeys to bring all of ES's stuff back . Luckily it's only an hour door to door!

[abwsco]

Wonder if any of them will beat the £1000 on booze in the first week that a friend of both DD's did last year.

[Ms Marple]

I had a bit of a cry this evening, no idea why really.......I guess I am a woman of a certain age as well as an empty nester. I watched Sandhusrt part two last night which I found a bit chilling but you have cheered me up on here just from this thread alone so thank youx

[sadietoo]

A bit later than most Reading went back today, and so duly delivered DS (and my baby) to halls today.. feeling sooo empty nesty tonight..... really weird happy/sad at the same time.....sure we will get used to it but at the moment a bit all at sea

[Lewis]

I started back last week but was home again this weekend for chickens ... National Preparation course at Cotswold Chickens and then a poultry show today!

Mom didn't ring all week but was texting my brother so she knew I was alright, just a bit drunk

 

Had such a good week though

Feels really strange living in the middle of town - really loud and busy in the mornings compared to halls, loads of cars and Spar delivery lorries right outside my window

 

We were meant to start lectures on Tues but that one was cancelled so had them Thurs + Fri instead - were ok, apart from having two 2 hour lectures next to each other on a Fri... and they've said we need to start thinking about our Dissertations ready for next year!

[squiffs]

It may seem quite early lewis but you'll appreciate the extra prep time, we had to have chosen a topic and been allocated a tutor by easter of 2nd year, so we could work on it over summer and have chapter one and the bibliography ready to hand in at the beginning of 3rd year, my OH is doing his this year and to be frank UWE have handled the dissertations disastrously, they won't pick their subjects til the beginning of next month and it will be due in in february I couldn't deal with that pressure in that short space of time especially when you have normal essays still to work on and finals to prep for. Good luck with it all!