memphisto Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 Unfortunately, my partner and I have split up and as a consequence, I have to rehome my beautiful girls. Luckily, I have found someone who will take them all but I feel so guilty, I haven't had them long and I feel like I am giving up on them, everytime I look at them I cry and feel so guilty. I know they will have a good, free rage life, but it should be with me, not someone else. I'm moving back in with my Mum and she doesn't like them so they can't come with me (plus it would be a 4 hour journey with 21 chickens). I will miss them so much....they really made my life complete. I will also miss this forum, I don't think I will be about to post anymore as my Mum doesn't have the internet but I think I would find it a bit too much as well. So thank you all for everything, all the advice, everything, have a wonderful Christmas all of you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
House MD 221B Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that. I couldn't imagine having to give up our girls, and I can't imagine how hard it is for you. But try and remain positive, when you're back on your feet again, and once this unfortunate dark time has passed, you will be able to rebuild your henpire and give some new chooks a wonderful free-range life, and while it won't take away the loss of your previous girls, at least they will be happy somewhere having a good life, and you will be giving your new girls a good life when that time comes. I wish you all the best, and hope to see you on here again when you are able to. Look forwards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackian Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that. I couldn't imagine having to give up our girls, and I can't imagine how hard it is for you. But try and remain positive, when you're back on your feet again, and once this unfortunate dark time has passed, you will be able to rebuild your henpire and give some new chooks a wonderful free-range life, and while it won't take away the loss of your previous girls, at least they will be happy somewhere having a good life, and you will be giving your new girls a good life when that time comes. I wish you all the best, and hope to see you on here again when you are able to. Look forwards. Oh how I agree with these kind words. I am sure you will be back as I have read your posts a lot and know how attached you are to your girls .Thankfully you have someone who will care for them.I feel once a loving chicken owner always a chicken owner...Good luck and please get yourself the internet some how or another and keep up with us all.your advice like a lot on here was valuable...Look forward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
surfer_chicken Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 So sorry to hear that I can't imagine how I'm going to feel next September, leaving the chickens behind when I go to Uni Will you be able to visit them in their new home? I hope you treat yourself well, and don't beat yourself up about them. At least you've found them a good home where they can be together. Focus on getting yourself back on your feet and I'm sure you'll be back on here awaiting the arrival of some new chooks in no time. Sending lots of good luck and hugs xx xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that. I couldn't imagine having to give up our girls, and I can't imagine how hard it is for you. But try and remain positive, when you're back on your feet again, and once this unfortunate dark time has passed, you will be able to rebuild your henpire and give some new chooks a wonderful free-range life, and while it won't take away the loss of your previous girls, at least they will be happy somewhere having a good life, and you will be giving your new girls a good life when that time comes. I wish you all the best, and hope to see you on here again when you are able to. Look forwards. This post says it so well. All the very best to you at this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that. I couldn't imagine having to give up our girls, and I can't imagine how hard it is for you. But try and remain positive, when you're back on your feet again, and once this unfortunate dark time has passed, you will be able to rebuild your henpire and give some new chooks a wonderful free-range life, and while it won't take away the loss of your previous girls, at least they will be happy somewhere having a good life, and you will be giving your new girls a good life when that time comes. I wish you all the best, and hope to see you on here again when you are able to. Look forwards. This post says it so well. All the very best to you at this difficult time. I couldn't agree more with the above there is no need to feel guilty you have found them loving homes thinking of you at this difficult time and hoping things get better for you soon XxHugsxX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adelochick Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 I do feel for you in this dreadful situation that you find yourself having to cope with. Like the others, I am so sorry too that you are having to part from your flock as well as everything else that you have to deal with now. Although I'm not at all techy, could you not keep in touch via internet cafe/library pc or such like, so that you at least can maintain contact with like-minded and empathetic people? At the moment you probably think it would be too painful to keep in touch via the forum, but I think you would be making yourself bereft of some necessary support, all be it via messages. All the best and good luck, whatever you choose to do. Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sammiboo Posted December 19, 2011 Share Posted December 19, 2011 So desperately gutted for you Iona, I know you love your girls. Unfortunately we have to go with whatever life throws at us. Keep intouch, you never know the forum may be good therapy, keeping your hand in. I know when I have been at my lowest I kinda relied on a forum to keep me sane, helped my escape a little. You have my number if want a chat I am just at the other end of the phone! Big hugs Sam xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicken shack Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 I am so sorry. You were only a short while ago discussing your X and MIL relationship and seeking advice. Many Many moons ago when I was very young I split with a partner and had to give up my cat but was lucky enough that my parents allowed me to take my dog back home so I do know how you feel. I now have a new OH of nearly 30 years so not so new now two children and 3 grandchildren, 2 cats, 8 hens and a cockerel and I am very happy. A very good friend of mine told me that we all have to have a few downs to enable us to appreiciate the ups. You can go to your local library and get free internet access so there is no excuse not to stay in touch with all your Omlet friends. Keep positive and look forward to hearing how you are getting on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mum Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 You have nothing to feel guilty about; you are not giving up on your girls, you are giving up on a relationship with your partner that is no longer working out. As a consequence you have taken great care of your lovely girls by finding them a new home where they will be taken care of. Take lots of pictures before they are rehomed and maybe you can begin a s"Ooops, word censored!" book so you can continue to enjoy the memories they have given you. It is heartbreaking that you are having to go through this and particularly at this time of year, but, even though it doesn't seem like it right now, you will get through this and you will be able to take up your passion for hen keeping once again when things are more stable in your world. You may not be able to take your girls, but, on a practical side, will you be able to take your chicken equipment? Investing in coops/housing/runs is the most expensive part of chicken keeping and if you can salvage those at least, when the time comes when you can begin again, at least you will have a start? Be gentle with yourself ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuckmum6 Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Ever so sorry to hear about your split, boy you have been through a lot! Give yourself time to heal and adjust, don't be hard on yourself. Once you are settled and have rebuilt your life, then you might be able to have hens again. It sound like you have sorted out a great place for you flock. Best wishes to you hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueandwhite Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Very best wishes, you gave your girls a great start and you have found them a new home. No fault of your own. Good luck for the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goodinparts Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Sending love & sympathy...nothing to blame yourself for, as everyone else has said - but I'm just so sad that you have the extra loss of your chooks to deal with on top of the breakup of your relationship and all the upheaval, both practical and emotional, in your life. Praying that 2012 sees lots of new beginnings and signs of hope all round. Take care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeky Chooky Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Ever so sorry to hear about your split, boy you have been through a lot! Give yourself time to heal and adjust, don't be hard on yourself. Once you are settled and have rebuilt your life, then you might be able to have hens again. It sound like you have sorted out a great place for you flock. Best wishes to you hang in there. Couldn't have put it better myself. Take care of yourself *hug* xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Ditto to all said already - hope you get settled soon and all the best for the future - sure we will see you on here agian - love Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
