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[newcountrygirl]

We are in the throes of moving. We moved from Yorkshire to Lincolnshire 2 years ago. We currently live in a pretty but small 2 bedroomed listed cottage with 3/4 acre but are moving to a larger place with 3 acres(room for more choocks)!!! and 2 fishing lakes.

 

My husband wont throw anything away. Here we have a double garage plus a very large shed and another shed. At the new place we have 2 double garages, 2 sheds, stables and a large store. He has insisted on transporting everything to the new place including a complete, rusty old car (all in bits) plus the engine and a spare engine. In addition to this we have 3 cars, a large van, 2 motorbikes and a trike, plus we keep bees so there is all their equipment, plus the chickens, eglu and WIR. - Oh - I forgot to mention the 3 trailers and a caravan!!!

 

I have done so much lifting and carrying that i could qualify for the Mrs Universe competition and have aches and pains everywhere not to mention cuts and bruises. My lovely hubby doesnt seem to see that I am only 5ft tall and not exactly full of muscle. Not only that but in the last 4 years he has been extremly ill and now has an ileostomy so I am always worrying about him doing too much and forgetting to take his medication - but he just thinks I am nagging.

I know it will all be worth it eventually, but I am just feeling sorry for myself - please excuse the rant.

[Cinnamon]

Your husband & mine must be kindred spirits.

We have a double garage full of 'stuff', its loft also heaving,4 sheds,one enormous.

Plus our car,the daughters car,his van,his old van,his amphibious vehicle,2 motorbikes, 3 trailers,a canoe,a small boat,a jetski, 2 snowboards (WHO needs 2 of those?),running machine,fishing equipment........................I am sure I am missing something out too

 

The trouble is with my husband,the more space he has,the more he will use,so you need to have a good word with him about his collection & get him to cut it down a bit.

 

Good luck with the move.

It is ery stressful I know,but it sounds like you are moving to a lovely place & I am sure it will be really worth it

[Alis girls]

Rant away - we moved 5 yrs ago - with 2 kids, 2 rabbits 2 cats and a fish tank (re chuck era) night mare - we hired a skip and got rid of what we could - but the amount of rubbish that moved with us was shameful. Much of it was taken at later dates to tip. Does he work - can you sneakily get rid of stuff. Get as much help as poss. Friend with landrover moved my buns and their enormous penthouse - we did cats and I did the fish on a wintry Dec morning - tank in a cardboard box on back seat of car. Mill Hill is hilly and the sound of sloshing water was alarming - I fully expected them to die but we didnt lose one. Good luck - get help if you can - hugs Ali x

[Seagazer]

Ahh you rant away, moving is such a stressful time. You do sound as if you have a lot to cope with. I would sneakily go through everything when he's not around and try to throw away as much as I could. You can't move in my brother's garage and I'm sure he doesn't have the faintest idea what he's got in there any more.

 

We're lucky in that we don't have a garage, so no huge amount of cummulative rubbish ahem I mean treasured items but we will have to move within the next couple of years I think to accommodate the ever growing number of canoes that are now littering my garden.

 

Good luck with the move, the new place sounds fab.

[Chicken shack]

I remember you were trying to sell last year I think. Well done. We moved last August (5 months ago) We are both horders and moved everything I have a huge worshop full of unopened boxes. My husband has sorted his workshop out (almost) He had to move huge lathes, milling machines and the like. We had to use specialist movers with crain lifting gear god knows what our new neighbours thought when it all arrived. I had to move kilns, wheels and all that goes with it. Yes it is a nightmare and still is. We are also in the middle of having the kitchen sorted and pulled the old one out the day after boxing day. The tiler is here today so we are getting there second fixing for the electrician next. still lots to do but really glad we have moved. You can do it.

[craftyhunnypie]

Ahhh I feel your agony! We were lucky as we still had & still have our old house, so could move gradually. Plus we had a business to relocate too. We had lots of stuff! You think it's never possible to move it all, but it is I assure you!

If you are truly worried & can afford - why not put some of your stuff in storage?

Our neighbours have the back end of a Sainsbury's wagon for most of their storage. It is hidden in a dip, so we don't really notice it much.

Just go with the flow & all the best to you!

Emma.x

[Cheeky Chooky]

Awww, sounds like you're entitled to a little rant, you've got an awful lot on your plate Look after yourself *hug*

[newcountrygirl]

Thanks everybody - I am glad to know other people have hubby's like mine. I have tried to get him to sort stuff and throw some out but to no avail. He maintains that "you don't know when you might need it!" We still have our old cottage and thought that we would have plenty of time to move gradually - but it's sods law that the minute we started the buying process on the new place - someone decided to buy the cottage. I shouldnt moan really - there are loads of people who who love to have agreed a sale and could move.

 

I am ok - I think I am just a bit hormonal too - "in the change" don't you know. I might have to console myself with some more chickens when we get completely moved in. I keep waking up in the night with hot flushes so I feel tired anyway - but it is better than having periods.

 

Other things on my list are- A bright red kitchen aid mixer etc, a new Barber jacket, oh yes and one of those new Range Rover Evoque's - but i am having a bit of a problem convincing him on that one. Thanks for listening.

[craftyhunnypie]

I cried buckets before we moved! I guess it was all emotions all over the place - joy, fear & stress. Feel really daft about it now. We had a total relocation & I knew no one here, apart from my hairdresser in Aber - oh & Lewis!

But I wouldn't change it for the world!

Cry - it's really normal to do so!

Good luck.

Emma.xx

[Alis girls]

There are worst horders than your OH - a friends OH hordes stuff at his parents house too. My friend sneaklily puts things on Ebay every so often - dont know how she does it prob when hes at work

[Seagazer]

Definitely treat yourself to the red Kitchenaid - I have one and its gorgeous

[newcountrygirl]

It has been a bit easier this week - almost all the stuff in the garages and shed have gone to the new place. We are taking the Bees over today. That just leaves the chickens and then the furniture - which we shall get a removal company to do. I am definately getting the red kitchen Aid and hopefully some other new stuff too. It has been a bad year - with my Mum passing away in August. It's funny - cos when she was alive she infuriated me sometimes but since she died I have missed her so much. But - we have a whole new chapter to start and I am looking forward to it. Thanks for all your kind words. Also - the people who are buying our place - I have converted them to "chicken wanters" They are planning to get some as soon as they get settled in - so that is a plus point.

[Old Speckled Hen]

We are taking the Bees over today.

 

Let us know how that goes?

I might be in a similar position this year so might appreciate some tips.

[newcountrygirl]

will do - old Speckled Hen.

[Alis girls]

Glad you sound brighter - good luck with the girls. How many do you have?

[SeramaSilly]

New country girl - I know exactly what you mean - I remember when we were both talking about never being able to sell our houses on a different thread. I've sold mine now too and have 15 years of accumulated 'stuff' to pack and it is absolutely daunting! My husband works long hours and only seems to have a little time on a Sunday to help me! But we'll get there hun - you let off steam to me and I will do the same to you!

 

Sophiex

[newcountrygirl]

Thanks Sophie - will take you up on that. Hope everything is going well for you

[newcountrygirl]

Old Speckled Hen - Did you get the bees moved? We have moved ours twice in two years. The first time we waited until it was dark. Taped them up and transported them on a trailer. Put them into position -then left them for a day to acclimatise. When we moved this time we only had two hives so did the same but transported them in the daytime/early evening. They seem to be fine and are flying happily to and from their new home

[Alis girls]

Well done on the move - now comes the fun - we still havent unpacked everything 6 yrs on

[newcountrygirl]

Thanks Alis girls. We are starting to enjoy it now. It was a huge relief when the sale of our old place completed late on friday afternoon. Right up to the point when the solicitor rang to say it had all gone through, i was sure something bad would happen.

 

On another note: See you are having problems with your Dad. I was in a similar position with my Mum. For the last couple of years she was going downhill - not changing her clothes, not cooking meals, she would never pick up the phone and ring me - I had to ring every day. Then she couldnt remember i'd rung. She had a series of mini strokes and each time it left her more vacant and forgetful. We managed to get her moved into a sheltered flat and she loved it - She sadly died in August last year aged 87. I know what you mean about mourning the person you feel you have lost. I felt like that with Mum - my Mum was always very houseproud and fastidious about her appearance. So - it was totally at odds with how she became. She used to infuriate me - cos she wouldnt do anything but now she's gone I truly miss her. I hope you can be strong hunny. When you look back later, you will realize it was the results of the mini strokes etc causing your Dad to do or say things and not the real "him".

[Alis girls]

Thanks Newcountrygirl - I know what you mean re remembering good times. Its good advice and I will try and follow it.

[newcountrygirl]

I have three - Gladys a Campine/silkie cross, Matilda a gold laced Wyandotte and Madge who I truly believe is crossed with Mavis Riley from Coronation Street (a Pekin)

[Chicken shack]

We are taking the Bees over today.

 

Let us know how that goes?

I might be in a similar position this year so might appreciate some tips.

My tip OSH is don't take a thing with apart from your chooks and other pets. Our old house was an old Edwardian house our new home was built in 1984. Hardly any of the furniture looks right. As we are decorating we are getting rid of the furniture we bought with us. I have had a large studio built and can't use it as it is full of boxes. The money spent on the 3 days it took them to move us would have gone a long way to buying new stuff.