rachel19 Posted July 20, 2007 Share Posted July 20, 2007 Me and my friends have used facebook for quite a while now and had no problems at all - you get the odd weirdo trying to add you as a friend just because you have the same surname or something but you just decline and thats that. The whole poking thing is just a bit like 'nudging' on msn. You can add the superpoke application and do all sort of things. My personal fave is the pacman application - highly recommended and so retro!!! Spend ages playing pacman now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 I have various games of scrabble going with friends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 I've got to admit that I've not really explored the site properly since joining and haven't really got a clue about what I can do on there. I did find my very elusive little sis which was nice, she works odd hours and is the worlds worst at keeping in touch so I was chuffed to get a Facebook message from her, but otherwise I guess it's that I haven't found the time to play properly on the site so it's all still a mystery to me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 Hi everyone - I feel like a stranger as I haven't had access to a computer for a week (a power surge killed my hard drive ) I've now joined the Facebook group! How cool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prongs Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 Had never heard of Facebook until now, but looks rly good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I looked at my Facebook page today - and found that my husband has told the world (and his children) he is no longer married to me! That wasn't a very pleasant feeling! Inevitably, he'd been changing his privacy settings because of the new wider availability of the site and somehow mucked up this bit - or so he says! He's put it right now, but it was a rather unnerving surprise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I've just deactivated my facebook account. I presume that it means that noone can access me so I apologise to anyone who may have considered doing that. I was spooked by a random woman - the wife of a bloke I know - posting a photo of me driving off the 16th tee of the golf course and linking it to my page on facebook. Now, that may seem a bit excessive (my reaction that is). But I realised that actually I didn't want other folk, who I don't really know that well, posting pictures of me, when I have no control of it at all. A photo of my backswing, disgracefull tho it is (the backswing, not the photo) doesn't really constitute an invasion of privacy. But I didn't ask for it, nor was I asked if I wanted it posted. So I am no longer on facebook, I hope. however the Omlet forum is a totally different matter, with lovely polite people who wouldn't, I'm sure, post stuff about other people without being sure that they wouldn't mind. So I am not very impressed and in fact am really quite miffed - about facebook. and I'm taking my ball home and not playing anymore, with them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I understand completely Richard and I too have a lot of reservations about it. I guess it might be OK if your 'friends' really are actually friends but if they are colleagues/acquaintances - or even complete strangers on the Omlet forum who I think of as friends - there's a lot of personal stuff floating around. I'm friends with my daughters but also with my Godson and with a few other people including the marketing man of my meat delivery company. I'm not sure about me appearing on their pages saying 'Ginette is enjoying a warm shower' or something equally personal and uninteresting. And I'm even less sure about it going public and being accessible by anyone. I imagine I will get very bored with it and remove myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 Richard - did you change your privacy settings to 'just your friends'? That way "Ooops, word censored!"ody can access your page or info at all, only the people you personally add as friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 I agree with both of you, Richard and Ginette. I'd hate anyone to start posting pics of me without my consent (even I've not posted a pic of me.......... I'm retaining my air of mystery ). It's a strange one, great to have another way to communicate but then the telephone and email have always worked pretty well for me in the past, and I'm not sure just how much of my life I want to conduct in cyberspace, especially if I'm not going to have full control over what is published. That said I rarely visit Facebook anyway, there simply aren't enough hours in the day, and I'm not willing toput aside any of the oher things that I do in order to find Facebook time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted September 7, 2007 Share Posted September 7, 2007 Thanks Ginette, its nice to know that other folk have reservations. My problem is, I think, that I'm really cool about having aquaintances - but I don't have really close friends, at least not internet ones. Other folk may feel that being involved in random chats on facebook makes them a more intimate friend than I regard them as (if you see what I mean). I think this is a problem with all these forums {or should that be fori - some latin scholar will put me right} (Richard getting serious for a change - doesn't happen very often!) When we have conversations and banter on forums (fori), including the Omlet one, it ingenders a familiarity which will, inevitably, mean different things to different people. Some folk will take it to mean that we are all bosum buddies, some will regard it as a fleeting casual contact. The problem comes when we don't appreciate that the 'friendship' that one person thinks it means isn't reciprocated - if you see what I mean. so, the random woman who posted my photo would probably be mortified to know that I actually don't regard her as a friend and am upset by her actions. She may think that, becuase I've had a passing conversation on the net, I regard her as a personal friend. Its as much my fault as hers. It is, without doubt, the same on the Omlet forum. Everyone is very friendly and pleasant, but the depth of that friendship/aquaintance with be percieved very differently by the different people involved in it. No problem, until someone feels rejected, or insulted, or whatever, when someone they thought was close, has a different view of the situation. I don't know if I'm being erudite, sensible or just rambling, so I think I'll shut up and go to bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannie Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I'm sorry to hear how upset you've been by this Richard. I think I'd be a bit put out too. I think its a bit rude to make photos of people public without their permission. On the other hand I guess: who's going to look at it, apart from her friends (and your friends)? In days prior to Facebook she'd probably have shown her photos around to her friends / colleagues without your knowledge. At least now you know what she's showing them. Can you just ring her, or email her, or pm her (or whatever!) and say you've found it a bit unnerving and ask her to take it off? I do understand your discomfort. One person I know takes photos all the time, and I know she shows them all to everyone she meets, as she always shows me loads of photos of everyone! It makes me very uncomfortable. I feel like a part of me is almost turned into a commodity that she owns! I find it very invasive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 You are right to be upset Richard. I would be too. You re also right about how people perceive relationships which develop on t'interweb. Fora (......it is fora not fori I believe :lol) engender an air of intimacy and safety that in many cases is false. This forum is an exception...but there is still stuff that I wouldn't share on here about myself and family and I'm sure others are the same. I was pestered by an ex class mate whom I could barely remember, via friendsreunited. I had it stopped. Very unnerving. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannie Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 Don't forget that privacy could still be invaded prior to the internet. I was really disturbed to receive a phone call from an ex-boyfriend who I hadn't seen or heard of for 20 years. In retrospect I'd realised that this guy had really out of order with me when I was very young and vulnerable, and I regretted my relationship with him. My mum didn't know this, and when he phoned her to make contact with me, she just gave him my phone number without asking me! Of course he rang while I was getting dressed and in still in my underwear one morning, which really freaked me out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I think there's over 120 photos of me on facebook posted by various people (close friends mostly) - some of them i'd love to delete e.g one my friend took up my nose But to be fair i've posted some horrid ones of my friends in various stages of drunkeness so i guess its only fair Im not really bothered who see's photos of me or anything - i;ve had a few strange people send me messages but they go away if you ignore them. Generally weird people with my surname (who aren't family) expecting me to accept them as my friend as we share the same name! Strange people! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I think maybe I'm showing my age. Its a new way of networking, and a method of communication that doesn't have some of the checks and balences of 'normal' one to one, or one to many, comunication. When you are 'talking' so someone over the net you don't have the voice inflections. eye contact, body language etc. etc. that are so much a part of face to face contact. We try to imitate it with the emoticons, but it's really a very crude substitute. I suppose it's a matter of knowing and accepting the rules; like any sort of society. When it comes to 'real life' I wouldn't dream of pinning a photo of a friend on the village post office noticeboard, or the parish notice board. However it may be that on a site like facebook, posting photos is acceptable - and it is me that is out of step. The great thing is that I can opt out. Its interesting. Those of you with children will no doubt warn them that people on the net may not be what they seem to be. The same is true of our fora (thanks Egluntine - I was thrown out of latin O level class - back in the '60's - and did music O level instead. You can see why). We blindly accept people on this forum because they profess to have a shared interest in chickens and seem very pleasant. I'm sure they all are - but it is always worth remembering what we would advise our children! After that bit of seriousnessness, I would like to reassure everyone that I am not a serial parking offender, emailing from Rampton, attempting to find out where you all live so that I can come and park outside your houses. I'm not even a cult leader building up a mercenary chicken army in order to take over the world, who will arrive and brainwash your girls into following me, pied piper style, to my hidden Headquarters in the deepest Fens. But think about it, why should you believe me ....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I think maybe I'm showing my age. You Richard? - never! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 But the same could also apply to meeting someone face to face - you might meet someone who you think is a nice honest person but could turn out to be a complete psycho axe-murderer..........you'll never know. But if you believed you couldnt trust anyone you met you'd never go out or talk to anyone - at some point you have to take a blind leap of faith whether that person is right in front of you or hundreds of miles away behind a computer screen. Sometimes you get it wrong but at least you've tried, everything you do is a risk on some level. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beauty-Box Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I joined facebook yesterday after seeing this topic. I feel down now because I only have one friend and she is my sister! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannie Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 Problem is that we use user-names on here and real names there, and so it can be hard to pair people up! I'll be your friend but I don't know your name! I'll PM you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beauty-Box Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 Thanks Christine you are a star! My name is a bit of a mouthful - Rebecca Mary dawn Welton. I don't know why I put my middle names in, but I can't seem to take them off now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 I am really loving Facebook at the moment & have gotten myself some great applications for it..... I have just thrown a sheep at Martin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 I have just thrown a sheep at Martin Poor Martin Couldn't you have found a few quail to chuck at him instead.......... not quite as heavy I've had a look at a few of the applications, but there's so much on there that I reckon I'd need a few extra hours in the day to even start to s"Ooops, word censored!"e the surface So my account gets intermittently revisited and then forgotten about again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 The pacman application is a pretty cool game - takes me back a few years! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Man Banned Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 I have just thrown a sheep at Martin When I go to Superpoke I have the choice of throwing a chicken too! A xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
