Egluntyne Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 A navel piercing can look very good on a slim toned and tanned tum.....but some of the sights you see when you are out an about....you can only assume they don't have the luxury of a full length mirror to check their appearance in before they face the public! It is also something that in my view only the young can get away with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 You've been to Banbury then Egluntine? I don't mind them on other people, just prefer them kept under wraps and have no ambitions to have one myself. Phil was winding me up the other day about getting his nipples pierced - he wouldn't because he's far too squeamish. I just said...'fine, go on then - I just don't want to see them'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I think you all sound like sensible parents and that you make the correct decisions according to the maturity and personality of your children My Mum didn't really believe in reasoning - if she said "no" that was the end of the discussion, no explanation of why or chance to discuss, just "no". Needless to say this made me more determined to do whatever I wanted anyway and this is why I had as little to do with my parents from the age of 14 to 18 as possible. I had my navel pierced when I was 16, not sure what the rules are now, but it was almost unheard of when I got it done and I think you were supposed to be 18 unless you had parental consent. My mum knew nothing about it until a year and a half later She banned me from getting my ears pierced more than once but I rebelled and ended up with 5 in one ear and 4 in the other. She threatened to report the jeweller to the police (I was under 16) until I announced I had pierced them myself I'm sure that I would have rebelled less if I was given the opportunity to discuss what I wanted to do and the reasons why I wasn't allowed to do it. I just couldn't accept refusal without a reason ("because I said so" really didn't wash with me). I get on really well with my parents now and can see that I was an extremely head-strong and stubborn teenager so can't criticise them too much!! Every family is different I suppose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I have my nose pierced but that is because I believe a lot in Hindu traditions & married women have their noses pierced. I happen to like my Indian nose studs too. I also have my ears pierced twice so I can wear my Indian earrings that link together with a tiny link of gold. I will want them doing another time at a later date. I can thoroughly recommend getting them done by Claires Accessories. I had zilch problems and the after care is fantastic! If I had babies, their ears would be pierced whilst still babies (girls only). All hindu baby girls get their ears pierced & I also like to see it. Belly piercings I am put off by. They can look pretty on young slim girls, but I had a lot of gip with mine & it grew out. I have a bad scar now! Concerts - hmmm I'd let her go so long as you took her & picked her up & yes got her to text you regularly. Festivals, would be a no no until she was 16! You never know what goes on at festivals! SOme over sexed lads in tents - Not to mention all the people arrested for drugs at the V festival this year! No way would I let any child of mine go until 16 or even older! Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 Festivals, would be a no no until she was 16! You never know what goes on at festivals! SOme over sexed lads in tents - Not to mention all the people arrested for drugs at the V festival this year! No way would I let any child of mine go until 16 or even older! Emma.x When I do let mine go,it will be on a strict come-home-for-the-night basis Luckily we are only a few miles from the Reading site,so thats no problem Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 My 17year old (18 in Oct) went to the Leeds festival this year. I was quite impressed, him and his pals planned it like a military campaign. They were fine....and the security was very much in evidence. I wouldn't have let him go any sooner than this though. I asked him if he had eaten any vegetables while he was there and he said yes...every day...I had onions with my burgers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 At 5 feet tall i am no good in a mosh pit- but i have stood on empty cans to make myself a bit taller Although I do have my ears pierced (at 13) I hardly ever wear earrings, & I can't stand to see babies with their ears pierced....sorry. A girl I knew at primary school had her lobes ripped when her earrings caught on someone in a game of British Bulldog Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 A friend of mine had one of her ear lobes ripped when her baby pulled the dangly earring! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Sarah, sounds to me like you have got it right (although I am not a parent). I had my ears pierced in the Easter holidays after I was 16, I paid for them myself and we had finished PE at school (weren't allowed piercings in PE) and were only going back for exams. Not sure if I told my mum or not I used to go off into Birmingham city centre on a Saturday when I was 11 with friends. We never came to any harm though, because we were sensible (and lucky probably). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I started going in brighton shopping with my friends when I was 12/13 and I started going on holiday with friends from the age of 16 instead of with my parents......much more fun I never came to any harm and my mum has always been pretty leniant with me because she knew i wouldnt do anything stupid. Now my mums worrying cos im leaving home to move into my student house next week........she's worrying that I wont eat properly etc etc - I do keep telling her that I'm 22 now and cook for myself anyway On the piercings line i'll never forget going to get my belly button pierced when i was 14 and a girl in there getting her nipple re-pierced as the last one 'got ripped out' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martin B Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I think you should let her go. Being 15 myself, when my parents say no to something it's so frustrating. The drugs, smoking, booze talk is just a headbanger! We get enough of it at school. I wouldn't even mention the lot because then it makes you feel more inclined to do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Martin I believe that you have a point there, and I truly believe that there's limited value in us making sweeping statements about young people shouldn't do X until they're 16 and Y until they're 18, but it's OK to do A at 12 and B at 14. I really think that there's a difference in personalities and that different people mature at different rates. The key to responsible parenting is, I hope, all about knowing your teenager, keeping lines of communication open and allowing them the freedom to do what they are able to cope with with the security of knowing that parents who love and trust them are at home and willing to listen, help and support as needed. I believe from what little I know of you that you would have the maturity and commonsense to deal with a lot of things, I don't necessarily think that's true of all young people of your age. I also happen to believe that it's important to talk to my children about drink and drugs and rock'n roll etc. etc. not because I want them to do it, but because I need to know that they know enough to make sensible decisions themselves and also that they know that I'm pretty unshockable and practical and they can talk to me about anything Only my opinion of course, this is the first time I've ever been a Mum to a teenager, so I'm very inexperienced and learning on the job Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 Lorna, I think that;s why I was such a wild child to - I had a very strict roman catholic upbrining (I know, it's hard to believe that a pagan like me ever took communion). I went completely off the rails as more of a stance against the rules and restrictions really. But in those days, your parents didn;t have to give reasons - they 'said' and you 'did', that's what rankled! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I know what you mean about parents being too strict, but the really awful kids at my school were the ones whose parents let them do anything and didn't say no. I also dont see how your parents telling you not to do drugs and drink loads amount of alcohol is gonna make you want to do it - if you have any common sense you wont do drugs and all teenagers are going to drink just like adults do at some point. At the end of the day no matter what your parents say you make your own choices and you have to live with them as it is your life. My parents let me have wine with my dinner from the age of 5 or 6 so I never saw alcohol as a rebellious thing even during my teens. My parents never told me not to smoke or take drugs or anything like that they left it up to me hoping that the upbringing they'd given up to that stage would aid me in making the right decision. Saying that I do think some kids need more structuring in what they can and cannot do - it depends on the individual. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I was brought up drinking watered down wine too Rachel - Barolo! I don't drink now though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 No I don't really drink either even though I'm a uni student - I do still like wine but just the odd glass - I've never seen the point in drinking so much you don't know what you're doing. My experience is that if you've been bought up to appreciate wine then you dont view alcohol as such a rebellious thing.....well I haven't and a couple of friends haven't either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 My Dad said no to me going to a concert with my older cousin and her boyfriend back in 1982 (I was 12), it was The Jam at the Brighton Centre, their final concert. We could have stayed locally with Dad's cousins who were his age. This summer I tried desperately to see From The Jam, Foxton and Buckler reunited for the first time but no Weller. Babysitters let me down and despite have tickets for 3 different concerts i never got there (Mum was on holiday ). On December 21st I have a ticket and a hotel room booked to see them play......The Brighton Centre "A tour of the UK is planned again for autumn 2007, finishing with a 25th anniversary concert of The Jam's last ever show at the Brighton Centre on 21 December 2007." Its taken 25 years for me to get to Brighton to see The Jam and I don't think Weller will magically appear on stage (if he has a change of heart I will just die!!!!). It still burns that Dad didn't let me go, he was wrong. I would let James go to a concert if I was happy that he was going to be safe, I would take him and pick him up if needed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 11, 2007 Share Posted September 11, 2007 I've never seen the point in drinking so much you don't know what you're doing. I used to.... Pengy... no Paul Weller? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 11, 2007 Author Share Posted September 11, 2007 I was brought up drinking watered down wine too Rachel - Barolo! I don't drink now though. I let my eldest drink some wine too on special occasions- but its low alcohol stuff. She feels grown up & I think it is good for her to know the results of drinking alcohol rather that finding out the hard way. I am under no illusions here - I do know she will get drunk,throw up & feel like death the next day at least one time - its part of growing up, isn't it? Its taken 25 years for me to get to Brighton to see The Jam and I don't think Weller will magically appear on stage (if he has a change of heart I will just die!!!!). It still burns that Dad didn't let me go, he was wrong. So would I - he is just divine He has the most wonderful voice & is one of the coolest men on the planet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 (edited) I just thought I would do a quick update on this thread............... Devon went to the gig last night (The Pigeon Detectives), as I managed to get standing tickets on eBay. She had a fantastic time & naturally after I told her NOT to go to the front & NOT to stand in front af a speaker, thats exactly where she went anyway She was just thrilled with it all, & at the end the lead singer leant over,took her hand & gave her his set list So now she is wanting tickets for 'Scouting For Girls' next year too Edited November 20, 2007 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Am glad that she survived the experience. When she has been to a few you won't give it a second thought.....apart from being roped in for lifts etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 First ever gig, age 14 - Uriah Heep at the Kings Theatre Edinburgh (£2.50 - I still have the ticket!). Followed by AC/DC, Motorhead, Rush, UFO, Whitesnake, etc etc .. you get the picture . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 Am glad that she survived the experience. When she has been to a few you won't give it a second thought.....apart from being roped in for lifts etc. I know, thats the worst bit. We were up until mid night picking her up & ferrying around I am normally tucked up in bed by 10, so feel a bit wooley this morning Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChookieCaz Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Well done for letting her go. It isn't easy to let the children go off ... on the bus to town, the cinema ... etc, but there comes a time when we have to. I've asked our children to be patient with me as they may be ready to do things, but I might not be ready to let them! If you don't let your daughter go to the Reading Festival this next year, I wouldn't blame you. If ours ever want to go, I hope they will be at least 16 and going with a group of sensible friends. Having said that though, that would mean my older daughter this next summer! At least she doesn't appear to be showing any interest in that direction. - could do with an icon to express relief! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 I too have severe reservations about The reading Festival, but if The Kaiser Chiefs are playing,who she adores,then I may have to let her go with her friends. She will be 15 then Trouble is with Reading,is that the tickets are released before they announce the bands,which is a right pain.They sell out real quick too. Reading as a town is really lacking a decent venue. We have the Hexagon.for lesser known & smaller acts,then the Madjeski Stadium, which is huge & only a Stadium act can fill it We need that inbetween size place,to attract bigger bands Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
