Laura & CTB Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 One and only child DS went off to univeristy yesterday to start his maths degree course and I'm missing him already....... where has all the loud music gone? The electric guitar practising? The endless sounds of another text message coming through on his phone? I was worried about leaving him all alone ( ) then he rang me today to say that he is sharing a house with 3 other girls, he fixed one of their computers and subsequently they cooked him dinner and he cant talk any longer cos he's off on a pub crawl Whad I do?????????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Not quite got there yet with my guys, so don't have any useful advice, but put the kettle on, feet up, and then make a list of all the things you would like to do for yourself things that either need doing or you want to do take care, karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 THIS will be me before i know it. Im sure hes missing you too! Have you left him a little note under his pillow or in his lunch box My Mom used to do this for me. hehhe Love lxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 23, 2007 Author Share Posted September 23, 2007 Have you left him a little note under his pillow or in his lunch box My Mom used to do this for me. hehhe Love lxxx He'd never speak to me again I did make sure that the first item up on his room "pin board" was a photo of me though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Oh I wish it was me I have a few years to go yet! Just enjoy the time to yourself, till he comes home with a huge pile of washing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 23, 2007 Author Share Posted September 23, 2007 Just enjoy the time to yourself, till he comes home with a huge pile of washing! Oh you wouldn't believe - he has all the mod cons - washing machine & tumble drier - think I'll send MY stuff down to him!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 My sister starts Uni on Thurday. She has a cleaner, all her meals cooked, and get this: a washing and a ironing lady!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dancing Gal Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Breaks your heart when they go off to Uni. You feel all bereft and useless. I remember coming home after delivering my daughter into the care of the University of Nottingham and not knowing what there was left to do with my life. So much worse than when they start school as you don't get to collect them at 3pm. Although I must say that the very worst time was in her gap year between college and Uni. Taking her to the airport first stop for her was China. Waving to her as she went through the departure gate was the most distressing time I can remember and I had to hold it together until she couldn't see me anymore. Tsk who'd be a parent eh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 DD1 went on Thursday Laura (same age) and I feel quite miserable too. But she is having a great time. Went to bed at 3:30am on Friday night and rang me today saying she had just got up - 2pm. I hope she gets sensible soon as she's singing this week! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 23, 2007 Share Posted September 23, 2007 Been through it twice with my older two. You still set their place at the table and prepare too much food at meal times for months. You miss the clutter and noise. I've still got one at home and he more than makes up for his brother and sister in the clutter and noise stakes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Just enjoy the time to yourself, till he comes home with a huge pile of washing! Oh you wouldn't believe - he has all the mod cons - washing machine & tumble drier - think I'll send MY stuff down to him!!! Believe me, it will still come home. Either he won't have the time to do it (too busy socialising) or the machines will be broken and he won't have the time/inclination to fix them. Our son did an engineering degree first, then a masters in computery stuff. When he came home and her indoors asked him to fix the washing machine (reasonable request for an engineer?) his reply was that he hadn't done the washing machine module in his degree yet, so sorry but ... Dad will have to do it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 24, 2007 Author Share Posted September 24, 2007 fabulous excuse though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocchick Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 It's called empty nest syndrome. I'd just enjoy the peace and quiet/extra freedom etc. I bet he'd appreciate a nice food parcel when you next visit. When I was in halls I saw someone get loads of really posh food such as salmon, and was really jealous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperman Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 i think he will be fine somehow one divided by three he's mastered maths Enjoy the silence and be very proud of yourself! Kev. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 25, 2007 Author Share Posted September 25, 2007 one divided by three he's mastered maths Kev. I like the food parcel idea Chocchick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 I like the food parcel idea Chocchick I've baled mine out with a supermarket delivery before now! It didn't run to smoke salmon and champagne though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 25, 2007 Author Share Posted September 25, 2007 I've baled mine out with a supermarket delivery before now! It didn't run to smoke salmon and champagne though! Maybe a tin of sardines and a bottle of Asti if he's really lucky then Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 More like Jaffa cakes, bread, tuna, and loo paper! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 Rosie's just told me that she intends to go to uni near here so that she can live at home Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 25, 2007 Author Share Posted September 25, 2007 I thought that was the plan with mine - uni is only 24 miles away so I was thinking of all the money I was going to save by not paying rent etc - then he said he really thought he'd better stay on campus for the first year so as to get his social life up and running Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 Rosie's just told me that she intends to go to uni near here so that she can live at home Cleo thinks that too. She doesn't realise that as soon as she is out, we are off to sunnier climes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 Don't worry....they change their minds once hormones start coursing round their veins! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 Far, far better to go away, I think. I just cannot imagine university life if you have to go home to your parents every night. No 'back to mine for coffee' at 3:30am, no walking home at 5am and wondering whether to get up for breakfast at 8am. 'twould be very strange indeed! My DD1 is having a great time already I hope she can still sing tomorrow! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 Going away from home makes them appreciate just what they've had, too. When my son used to come home the first thing he would do was stand in the hall and inhale deeply. He used to say that it wasn't until he left home that he realised how he liked the smell of home....because the house smelt of nothing but clean smoke free air, whereas his student house ...well...words fail me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted September 26, 2007 Author Share Posted September 26, 2007 That's one of the things I'm grateful for Egluntine- all the houses are smoke free zones and have more smoke detectors than Homebase! I wondered why when I went to visit there that students were sitting outside on the window ledges with feet dangling down Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
