Cinnamon Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Being called 'love' by people I don't know. I have just had a girl on the till at Tesco who couldn't have been more than 20 calling me love, & it was just horrible...........really patronising I felt like saying,why am I your love,we have never even met before. Same goes for Dear,Duck,Darlin & Swee'art Just so you all know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisa33 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I'm so with you on this. It makes me so Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 No worries love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Same goes for Dear,Duck,Darlin & Swee'art Just so you all know Orroight Bab Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Mum HATES it when shop assistants come up to you and say "are you alright?" She LOVES Costa coffee in Billericay where all the staff are youngsters but properly trained in customer service and how to address customers. They even call me Madam sometimes - although mostly they still call me Miss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I don't mind really, I think it's quite a friendly thing. I am guilty of calling every child I meet 'Sweetie' because I can never remember their names What I do hate however is when people with whom I have a professional relationship bank staff, medical staff etc., calling me Tessa I always correct them and say "to you I am Mrs xxxxx" Tessa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I also hate love, duck or anything remotely like this - why do they do it - I could be their mother and I am still called Love! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Oh thank goodness, it's not just me. In formal situations and when I don't know someone or haven't asked to be called by my first name then I prefer to be addressed as Mrs B... I believe you should wait to be asked to refer to someone by their first name not use it automatically. I think it all comes down to good manners. My OH doesn't really agree and says I'm being difficult when I ask someone on the other end of the phone to not call me by my first name. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperman Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 It's only a saying, it's not like they are being rude on purpose. Cathy hates been called 'dear' even though she is, very (expensive) She doesn't mind being called 'Our lass', she finds that quite cute. I found being called 'Duck' hilarious when on holiday in Skegness, I was only about ten though, every time someone said duck I did! Kev Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbaraJ Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Nope i find it cringeworthy beeing called love or similar by a stranger. I also hate people i hardly know deciding to shorten my name!! i wouldn't dream of doing that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Good job you don't live in Yorkshire then! I don't mind being called 'love' when someone can't be expected to know my name... but I do object to being called by my first name when I think people are being over-familiar - I was cold-called by an insurance company recently and the caller used my first name! I still do a double-take when anyone addresses me as Madam, though - that's my Mum, not me (I'm still 17 in my head...). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I also hate people i hardly know deciding to shorten my name!! i wouldn't dream of doing that! Ooh I absolutely hate this too. I sometimes meet strangers who insist on calling me Tess I always correct them, the 'a' is very important to me TessA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevie Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 While walking into a pub one saturday evening-the bouncer on the door said "evening lads" which isnt unusual except im 37 and he was about 19... I just looked at him and laughed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I used to think that it was a northern thing. My Dad calls everyone 'girl' or 'queen' which at times is a bit odd especially when directed at my 65 year old mum-in-law but she thinks it's great and it makes her giggle. I know that he doesn't mean to be patronising. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Afraid I do the same as Tessa and call children sweetie I don't do it to adults though. I don't mind being called love, dear, darling etc in shops unless they are trying to patronise me. For customer service people I find it disconcerting though when they ask if they can call me Patricia particualry when usually it's for something where they don't actually need to use my name at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Up here you get called "hen" . How could we complain about that . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Dont sweat the small stuff!! At least "they" are acknowledging you're there, alive, and breathing!! But I still think it's a compliment if a builder whistles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I don't mind at all. I'd rather have someone pleasant serve me and call me 'love' than someone who is surly and won't make eye contact. There's a lady in our co-op late shop that calls me 'love'. We got chatting one day, about chickens funnily enough, and now we're on first name terms and we always have a chat when she's on shift. DH goes mad as I end up holding up the queue in the shop! Nope, I don't mind one bit, the more 'love' the better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Dont sweat the small stuff!!At least "they" are acknowledging you're there, alive, and breathing!! But I still think it's a compliment if a builder whistles I went to a christening today and we had to walk from the church to the reception as it was only round the corner. The builders on the scaffolding of a nearby building serenaded us with a few choruses of 'singing in the rain' it was quite funny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisaroo2 Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 In the Potteries - (we won't be calling it that for too much longer!). It is quite common for people you don't know to call you 'duck.' It's not meant as an offence, just as a way of being friendly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I also hate people i hardly know deciding to shorten my name!! i wouldn't dream of doing that! Ooh I absolutely hate this too. I sometimes meet strangers who insist on calling me Tess I always correct them, the 'a' is very important to me TessA oops, I think I called you Tess a few times I don't mind if you want to call me Just Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Only people who I hate calling me 'love' is builders. You always know that you are in trouble (as a woman) if a builder calls you 'love'! Sorry to any builders on the forum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I don't mind if my name is shortened to Lou, but I hate being called Luce (or should I say Loose) I'm ok with dear and love and darlin, I think that for a lot of people it's not a conscious thing just part of their natural speech pattern. It's the over familiarity of using my first name that I object to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 what a minefield of etiquette! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 I'm not keen on any of the "endearments" you mention Cinnamon, especially from strangers. I especially hate being called "Dear". In Sheffield you are likely to be called Duck. It took me a while to get used to it, as I thought people were shouting a warning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
