Lesley Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Orroight Bab ooooh!! one of my pet hates! I don't mind some of the terms........ but no-one shortens my name .......or at least, it will be at their own risk! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I don't mind the endearments really, don't use them myself, well not to people I don't know anyway. What really gets my goat is when people change my name. To pretty much everyone I'm Kate....that's my name and how I prefer to be known. I am also Catherine (on formal occasions, but dislike being called that....makes me nervous, reserved for job interviews and Mum starting a lecture ) and Mrs A....., but I have a ptient who insists on calling me Katie . I hate it, I find it patronising but I know he doesn't mean it that way, but I also think it's rude for someone to ignore what I choose to call myself and pick a substitute to suit themselves . Not worth sweating over it though, I think he means it affectionately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I dont mind the endearments, but I prefer them from friends and family rather than strangers. I am afraid I am very 'sweetie', 'darling' etc with my friends it's just me, I dont mean any harm, and if they said they didn't like it I would stop and I often say 'cheers ma'dears!' to my friends.. edited to add I call my best friend 'precious' aswell.... because she is Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Lou Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I really hate.. ...being cold called by someone the other side of the world when I'm ex directory and being called "Mrs ..." (not married) or even worse when they shorten my name to Lou without even asking if they can use first name let along shorten! And.. they always call when you are in from work late and knackered.. or ealry when you have a day off.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I take great pleasure in hanging up on them. I agree with you totally on this one. I was at Claret's on Saturday and she was cold called in exactly the manner you describe....from USA. She was magnificent! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Lou Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I hang up too.. but always say " no thank you!" first while they are still talking and then hang up! The only ones that get a bit longer is when they say I have a service with their company and it takes me a while to remember.. actually no I don't! very naughty tactics! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I hate cold callers... have enrolled in that preference agency now, which stops most of them.. however I do still get a few. I ask them, did I ask you to call.. they go errrm errr errr no!.. I say well goodbye then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I take great pleasure in hanging up on them. I agree with you totally on this one. I was at Claret's on Saturday and she was cold called in exactly the manner you describe....from USA. She was magnificent! :lol: Thank you They alwasy ask is that 'Mrs T*****' and I never confirm, partly because i'm not a Mrs, but also because i never want them to know that they have reached the person that they are trying to call. Buffoon was trying to sell me cavity wall insulation, but wasn't going to stop reading from his script when I told him that I don't have cavity walls - my house is too old Round here they all call you Duck - took me a while to get used to it. I don't mind endearments from people I know, but I always correct them if it comes from people that I don't know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moochoo Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 (edited) Well I must appolgise to you all. I am the person who uses all those terms of endearment to my patients, especially " me duck", (being originally from the potteries) mainly because as soon as I've called my patient from the waiting room I've usually forgotten their name I've never had anyone say they don't like it and I think the older patients, especially the men rather like it. So here I am, loves, duck, babs, chicks, sweeties and me dears telling you that it's not meant patronisingly but just in a caring way. However, I did have an elderly, deaf, black country man shout WATCHA COCK! across the waiting room at me the other day and it did make me think about regional terms quite a lot Edited June 2, 2008 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flo Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Someone at work calls me babe and has done since his first day. It made a very bad first impression with me, in a social situation I would have thought it was a bit forward, but at work it is hugely inappropriate. Knowing him a bit longer I can see that it is his personality, he calls everyone babe or darling in a very theatrical way, but it made me rather uncomfortable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I do call children 'sweetie or sweetheart' but not adults. However I don't really mind people using such terms because mostly they are meant well, as Poet said much better than surly behaviour. My grandad has always got my YD's name wrong, her name is Katherine and we call her Katie. he calls her Kath which she hates. I hate to be called Lizzie, I was called this by my friends until I was about 13 and then changed it to Liz. I even got married as Liz in the marriage ceremony because that is what my OH had always called me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I do call children 'sweetie or sweetheart' but not adults. However I don't really mind people using such terms because mostly they are meant well. I tend to do that with children too, especially if there are a lot of them and I have forgotten their names I do use M'Dear, but only with people I feel I know well. My boss calls me "'er in charge". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 It's just a pleasantry and means nothing. I think Londoners use "Love" a lot, I for some reason have been saying "M'Dear " and I can't remember when I started doing it - perhaps it's a Hampshire thing. When I was small I went shopping with my dad. When we got home I refused to talk to him - apparently he called the girl on the till "Love" and I didn't like it - I saw it as a threat to my mum! He still says that to people. I do hate being called Dahling, Darling or even Darlin, although the people that use it don't mean anything by it. It's better than being called Fatty. When I was expecting my son I had to endure some horrid little boys singing "Preggy Lady walking down the street" - I would have loved to have throttled them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggy Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Interesting thread this is... I always, always call kids 'sweetie'.... even the ones I know the names of... I can't help it, it's just the way I talk to them... I never use all those terms mentioned here for adults... but that could well be cause I only moved to the UK when I was already a grown up (in age anyway... in mind I'm not so sure ), and hadn't been speaking english before that... I do not mind what people call me, I think it's all in the tone and attitude... I'd rather be called 'love' by someone who just uses the word out of habit, than 'babe' by a young man with an overconficence problem, for instance... It's interesting to see everyone would probably have their own preferences and reactions to all this... The first time someone called me 'hen', in Scotland, where I lived first after leaving Belgium, I got really surprised!!!!! I'll never forget her... she was a little old lady in a supermarket who couldn't reach something at the bottom of the freezer... she turned to me and said 'hen, could you reach this for me?'.... thought what an odd way to address people!! Had never heard of 'duck' by the way.... good to be warned... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazygal Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 Where I originally come from its usual to address people as "lovey" or "my lover" and its a form of endearment and I like it! I do find that I use "lovey" sometimes- mostly for children but I called a work colleague it the other day without meaning to and I think she thought me a bit strange (I was commiserating with her over something and it just popped out). I used to work with someone who called everybody "fruit" as in "alright my fruit?". Again, a bit of a west country thing I think!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keanie Bean Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I'm from London and if I got upset every time someone called me love I'd be on anti depressants by now. I dont mind what people call me its the way they say it that can be offensive. Tone is far more important to me than content. What I get really cheesed off about is when drivers pull partially out of an exit expecting you to let them out. I always go round them no matter how akward it is. I tend to let people out a lot if they are turning right on to a busy road so I dont mind being rude to those who assume. Sarah.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutrix Farmers Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I for some reason have been saying "M'Dear " and I can't remember when I started doing it - perhaps it's a Hampshire thing. I have a work colleague who is from Cornwall that says M'Dear. I think pet names should only be used by people you know. A complete stranger should call me Madam (I can be a right stroppy one sometimes too!!!) or Mrs L******. I call all gentlemen I don't know "Sir" but that's a throwback to when I worked for a bank and we were trained to be formal and polite. My Mum is a complete extreme though, she hates it when shop assistants dare to make eye contact let alone exchange pleasantries!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted June 2, 2008 Share Posted June 2, 2008 I work with a few people from the South USA and they call me Ma'am which I love ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I cant bear it when people ask me "is that Miss or Mrs _________?" I always ask them why they need to know, and if they insist I say its Reverend! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 The receptionist at the Bristol hotel I stayed in last night called me petal I dont mind if its just a way of speaking - I get a lot of "my lovely" down here in Dorset and I know I use it too - but only with people I know and I know would be ok with it. (apart from calling my boss sweetheart once by mistake ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I cant bear it when people ask me "is that Miss or Mrs _________?" I always ask them why they need to know, and if they insist I say its Reverend! I hate this too. They usually say 'is that Miss, Mrs or Ms?" my reply is always " I don't mind, you pick one, surprise me" Tessa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard T Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I cant bear it when people ask me "is that Miss or Mrs _________?" I hate this too. They usually say 'is that Miss, Mrs or Ms?" Tessa Me too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggy Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 I think many firms ask that 'mrs' or 'miss' question so they can have it correctly on their records, as some people do mind! So they ask, so that next time they write or contact the person, they have the right title and avoid aggravating people by using the wrong one... why everybody can't just be referred to as Ms, I don't know... would seem more logical to me... When I used to work in a call centre, we were definitely supposed to have everything recorded as accurately as possible... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard T Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 ... why everybody can't just be referred to as Ms, I don't know... quote] Mr Richard T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedusA Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 Orroight Bab I just knew you were a Brummie, even before I saw where you lived! I'm only an honorary one, having lived here for a mere 7 years. I have to admit to being guilty of calling people "sweetheart" in the past, but I would never do it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
