Guest Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 You may have read over in "my family & other animals" about my cat being sick. She has a dislocated knee and is currently down at the vets. They will let me know tomorrow what they can do and the operation will be (hopefully) done on Tuesday. We've all struggled today - snapping at each other and totally unable to concentrate - poor Mum should have been celebrating her birthday but instead we are all just being rather distracted. On top of all that I'm going to a funeral tomorrow for the lady who was so important in running the band I used to be in. I am good friends with her eldest daughter as well as having known the family for a long time. Her death was a sudden and unexpected event which everyone is still reeling from. I have to go into work for a couple of hours first as I am having to take the time as unpaid leave as she isn't a close relative. I actually don't know how I'm going to manage at all teaching kids for the next couple of days, I am so on edge and snappy. I just needed to let some of this out on here - I know you forumites are great sounding boards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Poor you . That's a lot to cope with all at once . Hope the funeral isn't too difficult and your poor pusscat gets her knee fixed quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 oh no it wont do the kids any harm for you to snap at them, dont worry about them - snap all you like. (((hugs))) cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Thank Cathy - just a bit worried as it's my first full week this week so some of them havn't met me before! My brain just isn't functioning right at all today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 I was always told "go in hard, you can always ease up later" you will get a reputation being being hard and then when you are "letting up" the kids will think that you are really really nice dont worry, you are more important cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Hope everything goes ok over the next few days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimmyCustard Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 P It never comes one thing at a time does it?! Theres always 2 or 3 things to cope with at once. Keep your chin up Sausage, as they say: What doesnt break you, makes you stronger. The kids wont mind, they love moaning about school (at least OH's eldest D does). Big hugs Kimmy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deejmum Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Sorry to hear you are having such a rough time,you have got a couple of really black clouds hanging over your next couple of days. Hopefully you will feel a lot better by the time Tuesday is over and done with, I hope honey recovers well. Obviously there is nothing that can take away the sadness of an impending funeral, but usually people feel slightly better after a funeral don't they? and tend to reflect on the good things about the person who is gone. So sorry for your loss. Best wishes Katy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Sorry to hear that things are difficult at the moment Peng. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omletina Kyckling Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Oh Pengy, things always seem to come all at once don't they? Hope the funeral goes ok,and that Honey is better soon. I agree with the others about the school children. When I taught primary the older teachers told me I shouldn't smile for the first half term so they knew who was boss. I couldn't do this as I'm a smiley person, but if you are tougher with them the first few days, it won't do them any harm. Sending you hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Sorry to hear you are struggling Pengy What will be will be regarding school - you always sound like a very professional person and I'm sure the children won't pick up on your mood as much as you think they will. And if they do, they'll get over it! Hope the funeral goes as well as these things can, sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that the vet's news is positive. I'll be thinking of you, sending you big hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Thats a real shame about your friends mum, I'm so sorry - I think people often forget that our friends parents often can become as close as our own family especially of you have known them some years and to stipulate that you can only have paid time off to attend a funeral of a close family member is a bit harsh a good boss knows that if they take care of their staff they get much more in return. Its really nice for you to be there for your friend at this time too even though you have a lot of other things going on. I hope your cat bounces back and recovers quickly, if it makes you smile my cat had an operation and the vet sent a Get Well card....how sweet....but it had the vets bill inside! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Just wanted to say I'm sorry things are rough at the moment Take care. Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time at the moment. You may find you feel better after the funeral. Whilst I hate the term 'closure' as it's used to widely after the death of a loved one you do need something to mark their life before you can start recovering. We'll all be thinking of you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phonix Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Oh PenguinMad sounds like your having a bit of a hard time of it. Don't worry about the school - for the majority of kids school makes a good thing to complain about so a snappy teacher should give them a bit more fuel lol! I hope things ease up soon and you start to enjoy the new job and remember the good times with the lady who has sadly passed away and im sure that the kids will provide you with some light entertainment (without intending to of course!) Take care ((HUGS)) to you! Stacey xXx ps. what did you end up doing with your hair? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Thanks again all - oddly James isn't that upset about Honey, he saw her yesterday when she was hopping on three legs and has been at Daddys ever since. Now Honey looks out for him - always goes to bed with him and watches from his chair or drawers as we put him to bed. But TBH he seems more bothered when we have a sick chicken! Of course having said that he is cuddled up with me now as he's just had an unspecified nightmare. And he must have picked up on how snappy Mum and I are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Sorry to hear you're having such a pants time, hope things work out for Honey. I've never understood the reasoning for funeral/compassionate leave, I am closer to some friends than I am to legally close relatives. Take each lesson as it comes and you'll get through the week. A time for the British stiff upper lip if ever there was one. Remember we're all here for you x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Crumbs yes, I have a relative who has terminal Lung cancer - when I heard I said I wouldn't be taking a day off for the funeral as I hardly know him. Mum will go alone when the time comes, its a long way too and not something we want to take James too. But as soon as I heard Pam had died I knew I would go to her funeral. I remember some very happy times with her and her family, parties at her house, how she was always there at band and so welcoming when I hadn't been there in a while. Its going to be a huge turnout, the band will play and probably everyone won't even fit in but I think her family need to see all those people there as she was a woman who was loved and treasured by so many people. This has all been such a shock (she had a heart attack, on holiday) that they need the comfort of everyone around them. I know myself how hard it is to lose a parent, my Dad wen't quickly but we knew he was going (lung cancer) but I still remember the amazing turnout at his funeral and how it made me realise he was special to more than just us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisa33 Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 I hope things improve and that tomorrow goes as well as it can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Pengy, sorry you are having a rough time. Love n hugsx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Aaaww, ((hugs)) Pengy. Hope it goes well tomorrow. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 So sorry to hear that you're having a tough time right now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Take one hour at a time and remember that the week can only get better. Hope your pussy cat is on the road to recovery, Mondays are pants at the best of times without anything going wrong. Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 The funeral was very good - I nearly passed out from the heat in there though, it was standing room only and not everyone got in. Her daughter spoke very bravely about her Mum, I know I couldn't have done that at Dad's funeral. The wake was excellent too - really good with lots of people and a celebration of Pam's life. Honey has eaten and drunk today and will be having her operation tomorrow afternoon, I have no more news about her! Work was too busy this morning to notice - the nework was down and was rather shakey when it came up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Sorry you're having a rough time at the moment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
