Single hen

[Ms Marple]

I know there was a post from ANH. I think on a similar theme last year but as I don't blog I felt the need to write something down and this forum always offers words of hope and support.

 

I have just got home having dropped my OS at a funeral of one of his schoolfriends, who died of a brain haemorrage(excuse spelling) on Wednesday of this week. He was 20, he collapsed, no prior symptoms and now is dead. OS has come home from uni to attend and is very upset as am I. I did not attend the funeral as it was in a local mosque- he was a Muslim boy. I sent the parents a card and some flowers to the house. It is always hard to know what to do for the best. Brain trauma always upsets me anyway as it is too close to home. It is very hard watching OS too, the first close friend he has lost. THere were so many people there, clearly not just for Friday Prayers, as there were many non-Muslim, like Luke.

 

I can't seem to find the right words for him at the moment.

 

Thanks for 'listening'

Terri

[Cinnamon]

Oh Terri, I am so sorry.

 

Brain trauma is close to my heart too. I lose my Mum a couple of weeks ago following a brain injury she sustained 5 years ago in an accident.

 

However, losing a young person is a true tragedy & I am sure your son will need you for support over the next few weks.

[mad house]

Close to my heart too. My mum and aunt died of brain heomerages, totaly out of the blue.

 

Feel for you and your son.

 

If you cant find the words then just put your arm around him, thats all he will need.

[Egluntyne]

Very sorry to hear it Terri.

[The Dogmother]

That is so very sad

[Chickvic]

How sad

[HENthusiastic]

Thinking of you and your son.

[Cooks]

So sad

[Karen & co.]

Such sad news

 

Karen x

[Ain't Nobody Here]

I'm so sorry to hear this . It's such a tragedy for someone so young to go so suddenly.

[Jules.]

i would feel terrible if one of my school friends would suddenly die

my prayers go to his family to help them to cope with his sudden death

[Lesley]

So sorry to hear that Terri

[chelsea]

heartbreaking and tragic, and I agree a life too short. so sorry. x

[Cate in NZ]

Such a tragedy, I am so sorry to hear about your son's friend

[Seagazer]

I'm so sorry to hear about your son's friend. Such a tragedy for someone to die so young.

 

My ES has lost three friends in the last 18 months. Its made him realise that life can be very short indeed. The only plus side is that two were in car accidents and it has made him very aware of the dangers of driving and being a passenger. All of his friends wear seatbelts now, he always has in our car but you never know what they get up to in friend's cars.

 

All I've been doing is listening to him when he's needed me, even if its the middle of the night. We've had far more cuddles in the last year than we have for a few years.

[Plum]

Really tragic. So sorry for you son.

[carrie]

10 years ago when my brother was 18 he lost a friend to Leukaemia. He found it hard especially as he was serving in the Falklands and missed the funeral. However he now says that it has made him appreciate what he has and the friends he has got. He will never forget his friend but he has grown up into an adult who truly values friendships. Your son is very lucky to have such a supportive and caring parent I am sure everything you are doing will help.

[Ms Marple]

Thank you for all your thoughts and comments. Really sorry to hear of your losses, especially yours so recently Cinnamon.

 

 

It wasn't an easy few days and OS was not really for talking about it overly much. He always has been a person that will suddenly decide to talk perhaps at 2 in the morning and then you just have to listen really. Will see what Easter brings. School have asked him to write an obituary for the annual school magazine and he has said he will try to have a go. That could be a good way to find peace I think.