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[millymollymandy]

My best friend is getting married on saturday and I am one of two bridesmaids but I am feeling bad as I haven't done much to help.

 

The problem is distance, she lives 4 hours away the other bridesmaid my other best friend lives even further away and we have found it really hard to get involved with the planning.

 

Having never been a bridesmaid I have no idea what is expected of me on the day. My friend has been understanding up to now about me not being able to do much apart from phone and internet help.

 

I don't want to let her down on her big day but being a bridesmaid virgin what am I supposed to be doing??? At the moment I am just turning up in a pretty dress and following her down the aisle and even I know there must be more to being a bridesmaid than that

 

HELP!!!

[Ain't Nobody Here]

I think turning up in a pretty dress and following her down the aisle is just fine to be getting on with .

 

I'm sure you've been there to support her emotionally even if you aren't close enough to help with the practical stuff . You'll be a huge help to her on the big day, I'm sure, even if you're not sure what with .

 

Good luck for the big day (and we expect photos of the pretty dress ).

[Space Chick]

I also had pre bridesmaid jitters when my friend got married, it was fine and dandy on the day. Enjoy it, make the most of looking like a princess and support your friend. She has obviously asked you because she adores you and trusts you, so don't panic

[Snowy]

Being a bridesmaid is about being there for her on the day itself, helping her to get ready, calming her last minute nerves, sharing the champagne

 

You will be a great bridesmaid!

 

Now I was a very bad bridesmaid I will try to scan a photo for you to prove it

[BeckyBoo]

Now I was a very bad bridesmaid I will try to scan a photo for you to prove it

 

 

Intrigued.....

 

BeckyBoo

[bigmommasally]

I think you're suppose to carry her train so it doesn't get dirty and smooth her dress before she goes down the aisle.

 

If she's having a hen night you might need to help organise it and make sure she has fun.

 

You'll be fine, have a great day

[Sunshine]

I was one of 7 bridesmaids a couple of years ago when my auntie re-married she had all her nieces, her new husbands niece and her step daughter. We all had great fun. It all just sort of came into place on the day eg. taking her flowers before the vows, checking her dress was ok and not caught up in anything and best of all being 1st up on the dancefloor for the ceilidh!

 

The main thing is just being there for her, thats why she has chosen you.

 

Have a great day! What colour dress have you got?

[millymollymandy]

Thanks I think I am getting as nervous as her!!!

 

My dress is really nice and brown satin and has netting on the front which noone but me noticed that the pattern has birds on it which i have decided are chickens!!!! he he

[Snowy]

Sounds lovely!

 

As long as you don't do this you'll be fine

[Scramble]

Snowy

 

Good Luck, you'll be fab

[chick wiggle]

Loving the photo snowy!

 

Milly molly mandy, (thats what we call our daughter, Amanda by the way ) dont worry, I was a bridesmaid a hundred years ago and wearing a pretty dress and looking after the bride is about it really. She just needs her friends there to support her and have fun. Just show up and everything else will fall into place Have a really great day and dont forget..... we NEED photos!

[Chickvic]

You don't look too impressed Snowy!

 

Enjoy being a bridesmaid, you'll be fine

[Chookiehen]

When I got married, all I wanted from my bridesmaids was a bit of reassurance, help keeping my mother calm (a major task, believe me!) and for them not to look quite as stunning as me!

 

Great picture, Snowy! All my wedding pictures are somewhat spoiled by a very grumpy 12 year old, who didn't like her dress (she was after a flowery Bo-peep number ), and was gutted that I didn't have a train long enough to require carrying down the aisle.

[BeckyBoo]

I was a bridesmaid once (about a hundred years ago ) when I was about 6 at my Uncles wedding. My Dad spent almost the entire ceremony outside the church with me whilst I had a strop (no change there then )

 

Hope you have a great day, and Snowy, FAB photo, you haven't changed a bit!

 

BeckyBoo

[Snowy]

I was a bridesmaid once (about a hundred years ago ) when I was about 6 at my Uncles wedding. My Dad spent almost the entire ceremony outside the church with me whilst I had a strop (no change there then )

 

Hope you have a great day, and Snowy, FAB photo, you haven't changed a bit!

 

BeckyBoo

 

I think being asked to stand around all day for photos when you are 6 is enough to make anyone stroppy! I must have been about 4 or 5 when that was taken at my uncle's wedding. At least I didn't spoil the photos - I just wasn't in many

 

I love old wedding pics maybe it's time to start a new thread

[Olly]

good luck Millymollymandy - she knew when she chose you that you wouldn't be able to be there much beforehand because of the distance,so don't worry about that. Your job is just to keep her calm, help her get dressed, and follow her down the nave (sorry, I know everyone says 'aisle' but it ISN'T!).

 

I didn't have any bridesmaids when I got married. I'd have either had to choose between various nieces/cousins (mine and his) which would have led to ructions, or I'd have had to have all four, and I didn't want a big do with fancy dresses. My mum held my bouquet for me, and that was fine.

 

As someone else has posted above, she wants you and the other bridesmaid to look beautiful, but not quite as gorgeous as she does!

[C&T]

And don't forget Toilet Duty!!

 

You may laugh - but if she has a big dress/skirt, she will need help!!

 

But seriously, just be there for her, rescue her from people she needs rescuing from, and make sure her dress is gorgeous again each time after she gets out of a car!

 

Oh, and try and make sure she is not toooo late for her own wedding!

[Chookiehen]

I've been a bridesmaid twice, when my brothers got married. First time I was 14, wore a hideous pale green dress, with frills upon frills upon frills (it was the 80's!), had a particularly dodgy poodle perm and horrible fake green flowers in my hair, and foundation two shades too dark..... My sister-in-law must have been thrilled!

 

Second time was a whole lot better - gorgeous dark green velvet dress with a Scott tartan bow at the back, fresh flowers in my (straight!) hair, and as I'd had a few more years practice, a much better make-up job!

 

Must ask my parents if they have any photos scanned onto the computer of either event!

[chickenanne]

You'll have a great time, as will the bride! Keep smiling, carry the train /flowers, take a spare pair of tights in case she ladders hers and blister plasters. Be positive about everything (well, within reason!) and steer her away from anything that looks like it has/might go wrong. Dance with your ugly cousin/uncle (c'mon, everyone has one!) who's sitting in a corner sulking, if you're feeling really in need of bridesmainds points!

[Valkyrie]

Love that photo Snowy!

Just relax and enjoy yourself. Two of my bridesmaids came from a fair distance and the other was OH's sister. While I got ready upstairs they were all doing their makeup and worrying away downstairs squashed in our little bathroom. I was finished well before them. I wasn't nervous at all, but it was fun watching them panic. I've always had an evil streak! To be honest there wasn't much for them to do except carry their bouquets and look pretty and follow me up the aisle. My SIL was there for the rehearsal and again, nothing for her to do but watch.

You'll be fine - and the photographer tells you what to do too.