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Grrr... sorry this is just a rant...but our neighbour has been driving me to distraction. There is a chain link fence between our two properties which he says is his (fine ok..I don't dispute that).. a few months ago my son came in and lent his bike against it...and this was followed up with a sign that said "polite notice" ( all laminated and everything) facing our side so that we can read it which says.."respect other people's property do not lean things against this fence"...trouble is as it is his fence..I can't put anything up to hide the notice which now glares at me every time I walk into the garden...Anyway...tried to ignore this as being the bigger person and all that..we have had fox problems which I have posted elsewhere, so DH finally got round to replacing our somewhat tatty side gate....The old gate, which has been in place since my m-i-l lived here (15 years at least) hangs from wood attached to the side of our house, but butts up to a post which is his side...Today he interrupted my husband as ge was working and said he didn't want anything attached to his (concrete) fence post (although the old gate was attached by two screws and always had been as far as we could tell)...so anyway new gate now partially in place as we will have to put in another post to attach too...but why oh why do people have to be soooo petty :evil:

 

That feels so much better :D

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Maybe the wind could rip it off :whistle: ... the plant sounds like a good idea though :)

 

 

Sounds like our neighbours, we were having the loft converted and they came round to say the builders had cracked one of his roof tiles. Fair enough.

We asked how he knew, he'd climbed over the fence into our garden, up the scaffolding into our extension and had a look! :roll:

 

Dad was in bed in the back room downstairs with 3 slipped disks a couple of months ago, we went out and he heard "Go on, I've just seen them leave!"

..... a ladder appeared, and he walked past the patio doors! He went red and scuttled back :lol:

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You've just reminded me why we have no neighbours :evil:

 

Could you put up your own fence on your side? - we put up the maximum height fence at the back after similar petty problems from our neighbour. We put tall posts in first and I think she was hoping that we were going to put in an overheight fence - knowing that she was a solicitor and just waiting her chance, we finished it to one cm below the legal height :wink:

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I am in shock, reading these posts :shock: It is absolutely unbelievable how petty, cheeky and downright rude some neighbours are. How sad must these people be to have the time and just be bothered to complain about the most stupidest things. Im sorry you have to put up with it all :( Rotten neighbours grrrrr :evil:

However, just to have to even it up by praising my neighbours to the highest level, they are great :D Im so lucky i know :D

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:DGarden law are really useful.

 

We used to do a great deal for our neighbour, then she was widowed and turned :evil: with the help of some younger friends. She now has tried but failed to have OUR fence moved further from the boundary - so giving HER more garden. Friends of hers have called us allsorts for erecting a new fence on OUR property - she has payed for nothing :wall: . The worst is that she persecuted the other neighbours - older than she - but says my generation have no respect ...... err.... NO :shameonu:

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Oh Lesley, what bliss.!!!.1 cm lower. she must have been incandescent... :lol:

 

I can't believe the brass neck cheek of your neighbour lwescott, and many many thanks for the links to Garden Law which is a great site....

 

The real problem with this sort of thing is that you end up plotting for revenge and could be as petty as they are..

 

But it's so lovely to be able to post on here and get rid of all that pent up frustration

 

I satisfy myself with knowing that petty as he is, he will have checked the deeds to make sure I can keep chickens...and I did too ( knowing what he was like) ...and I can... so yah boo sucks to him. :lol:

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:lol: They are really cheeky and its like the 'keeping up with the Joneses' thing. If we ever leaf blow the drive you can guarantee they're out there withing 10 minutes :wink: but they are good because if we're away they're know everything thats going on and watch over the house.

 

The other side, the house is empty and we'll have new neighbours nxt week, and next to they are really nice and we get on really well :D

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Could you put up your own fence on your side? - we put up the maximum height fence at the back after similar petty problems from our neighbour. We put tall posts in first and I think she was hoping that we were going to put in an overheight fence - knowing that she was a solicitor and just waiting her chance, we finished it to one cm below the legal height :wink:

 

 

Ditto

KK

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We used to have a petty neighbour several years ago. He tried to tell us that we owned the fence between us and when we produced deeds to show otherwise, he said that he wasn't happy. However, as our property is higher than his, we offered to pay for double gravel boards ... thought that was being fair. I said that if he got a quote and asked the company to itemise the gravel boards then we would pay that chunk. However, we got home from work one day to find that he had done a bodge job on his own.

 

The new neighbours are excellent and they dislike his fence (instead of gravel boards, he wedged pieces of plywood down into the ground :roll: ) so we have made the same offer to them for when they replace the fence.

 

We don't live in our neighbours pockets but we do get on very well with them and we keep them supplied with eggs. They help us out when they can and we help them out when we can. I can't see the point of arguing with people.

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my friend is about to move into a house soon,and her soon to be neighbour claimed that she has has a row with her. odd since she has not even met her yet !

she had wanted a family member to get the house and is not happy that my friend got it

I have told friend to log this with council so they are aware this woman has started hassling her

( she has a very bad rep in the street for anti social behaviour )

 

Mags

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Sometimes boundaries are not too clear especially in old properties, often old chain link means it doesnt belong to anyone in particular? Just a thought. Got to say I am with Lesley a nice hedge ie Hawthorn or a 6 foot fence including a nice post for your gate!

 

My neighbour because he is mean told me as soon as I moved in the chain link was mine(only because he doesnt want to pay, but on checking it is not at all clear and we were advised its probably shared) However I am happy for him to think its mine as I can choose what I put up. He is really wealthy too.meanie!

 

Just ignore him, he must be bored and very bored indeed

 

indie :)

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You really have to feel sorry for these sort of people who obviously have so little going on in their lives that they get meaning and satisfaction from being so petty.

 

Next time they do something so petty, just look pityingly at them and say 'Ahh, bless!' and walk off. Wont solve anything but may make you feel better.

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He is really wealthy too.meanie!

 

Just ignore him, he must be bored and very bored indeed

 

indie :)

 

That's why he's wealthy Indie..as tight as the proverbial duck as my Dad would say :oops:

 

My neighbour is not happy with anything unless it was his idea.....he was really shirty about the wall we put up on the front garden boundary, it was his responsibility to put up the back garden fence/wall etc. He announced he didn't want our flints to come over his boundary at all......so we started off by building the wall in breize block which we would have rendered for him & only flint facing our side, so nothing was on his side as he requested.......he was furious & created absolute merry hell resulting in us having to remove the wall & rebuilding it about 4 inches to our side of the boundary just to keep the peace......he put post & rail fencing up at the back & hedging plants knowing full well that we had dogs, so we had to put up our own stockproof fencing on our side to keep our creatures in, which I know is the law we must keep them in not him keep them out, but he's petty in the extreme..........We've done so many things to help him with building consents etc, but he just gets narked about almost everything, I'm waiting for a comment about the cockerels as his MiL has been dropping hints about there being enough chooks & dogs in my garden :shock: .I've told the boys they need to keep their beaks shut or they'll have to move home :shh::anxious:

 

Every so often they make noises about moving.....would be good if they did :anxious:

 

Hope your misgog gets himself a life Sadie :pray:

 

Sha x

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Thanks again for the support everyone...

 

We are going to put up a new "Tall as we can" fence and put it right on the boundary...our side of course, haven't decided yet how we are going to decorate the side that faces his property: :lol::lol:

 

Sha it sounds like your neighbour is a nightmare...Is it cos there are so many retirees round here do you think with too much time on their hands?

 

You do just have to shrug your shoulders and not let it get to you..but I think what has offended me most is the fact that he (mostly) doesn't feel he can come and discuss with us when he feels he has a grievance and resorts to these patronising notices...Ho hum..other people what?

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Sha it sounds like your neighbour is a nightmare...Is it cos there are so many retirees round here do you think with too much time on their hands?

 

 

Very likely, thing is ours is only about 43.....an old codger before his time maybe :lol: ?

 

I was terrified what he was going to say about the bees & their hive, but he's been great "good idea" etc....I'm waiting for the flip side :anxious:

 

Just had a thought....you might know him as you are local :oops::oops::roll:

 

Sha x

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You can put up quite a high fence 6.5foot high and he cant paint it his side without your permission so go for it! I wouldnt tell him you are going to do it. Dig the holes first and then order the panels in.

 

Good luck at least there is a solution :evil: indie :)

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My nasty neighbours have sold their house and are moving :dance: Whoever takes their place cannot be as bad as them so we're very happy :D I'm hoping they'll like chickens and will be willing to look after mine when I go on holiday. We're going to give them eggs and Daisy wants to bake them a cake as a house warming gift :lol:

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Thanks again for the support everyone...

 

We are going to put up a new "Tall as we can" fence and put it right on the boundary...our side of course, haven't decided yet how we are going to decorate the side that faces his property: :lol::lol:

 

I'm going to throw in a different view.

This chap is obviously being really petty but these neighbour disputes can escalate badly sometimes and you read such dreadful stories. It would be a pity if this ended in an escalating oneupmanship. Why don't you pop round to see him with a few eggs and a jar of jam and ask him what sort of barrier he would prefer between you (even if you are thinking of leylandii). I know it's not your fault but your being friendly over it might just wrong foot him. Personally I think he should be ashamed of himself and should channel his energies elsewhere.

Just a thought.

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