chickencam Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Fingers crossed that this is the start of a better life for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 I really feel for you. No matter what your son has done - love him, cherish him, support him & get him the help he dearly needs. He will soon be a different person once he gets some help. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 I just want to say my heart goes out to you Big Hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 Thanks all GP has just phoned and said nothing has been received yet re the respiridone so he is going to chase it up and get back to me later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 So sorry to hear of your problems Claire and I hope you soon receive the help you all need, things seem to move so slowly at times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 Things are starting to happen now We have the Respiridone and my son took his first tablet earlier. I had a letter earlier for an appointment with the Psych on Monday afternoon and social services are coming here Monday morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGirlsMum Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 I'm glad tthings are starting to happen for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dodge Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 As a parent I can't imagine the heartache and stress you must be going through May I suggest a possible fairly inexpensive way to ensure that all the drugs in your house are safe http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000T5K3Z8/ref=asc_df_B000T5K3Z84799301?smid=A2RLE7VQ2OV7MU&tag=googlecouk06-21&linkCode=asn&creative=22218&creativeASIN=B000T5K3Z8 This could be just what you need for peace of mind. Best wishes to you and your family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 13, 2011 Author Share Posted October 13, 2011 Thanks Dodge I had been looking at something similar but more expensive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sage Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 Keeping everthing crossed for you. Hope you all get the help you need and quickly. Sage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 Glad something is happening now Claire, boys of this age are very vulnerable to depression and mental health problems. Hopefully you will now get the support you need Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 So pleased to hear that things are starting to happen now, hopefully all for the better. Thinking of you x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 13, 2011 Author Share Posted October 13, 2011 Thanks all I will report back on Monday and let you know what's going on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 I am glad to hear that things are now happening. I hope life will soon improve for both you and your son, it must so difficult for you at the moment. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 Thanks Chrissie Yes, it is very difficult. The swings arn't quite so big now he is on the meds but are still there and he is still difficult to manage. It's also effecting my YS, who is 12 and has his own problems, he is dyspraxic and dyslexic, quite badly as he is feeling quite left out as so much of my time has been taken up with my older son. Add in my own medical problems and i'm surprised i'm still standing! We have a hurdle to get through tomorrow as the owner of the letting agents we rent from is coming out to speak to us. The neighbours have been complaining to them about various issues including noise and swearing etc and the amount of times the police are here. They even complained that an ambulance car had blocked their drive Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 The meeting didn't go well and we are on our final warning. If there is one more complaint, notice will be served. Social Services came this morning. They filled in bits of paper with contact names and addresses. Looked at the boys rooms and said they need to see YS. ES will be appointed a social worker soon but i don't hold out much hope in getting help from them. We went to see the Psych this afternoon ES now has a formal diagnosis, whilst that is good news, it is also bad news, as it's a disorder that can't be treated. Conduct disorder. The psych said there is no point in sending him for any talking therapies, as ES had a year of that in Oxfordshire and it did no good. He said the only thing that will help is id ES wants to change (can't see that really) and learns strategies to manage his behavior. He is sending some leaflets on anger management to ES (not sure what good it will do). He says if he writes a list every morning for 6 months with things on like when i'm angry i won't destroy property, when i'm angry i won't hurt people and when i'm angry i will go for a walk it will become second nature to do this. How do you get an angry defiant teen to do that though! He will see him again in 4 months to see if ES has decided to change or if he wants any talking therapy etc then if he doesn't then we will be discharged. To say i want to scream and hit a brick wall is a great understatement. As soon as he gets his proper social worker i am asking if she can arrange any form of respite as we can't cope with this indefinably without some support at the very least. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 I'm so sorry that things are still so difficult Claire. Big Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Thinking of you, that is such a lot to deal with I wish I could offer some helpful advice. I hope that something clicks your ES and he starts responding to the help being offered. And I really hope you get some positive news soon. Sounds like you need a break. Sending you big hugs xxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bramble Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Oh dear, that's not the news you wanted to hear, I'm so sorry. I'm afraid you will need to be firm in your dealings with doctors and social services, they have a tendency to leave you to it unless you demand help - so don't be afraid to do that, put your assertive hat on and don't take no for an answer, easy though it is for me to say. Sending you a hug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 Thanks all. Bramble believe me i can be assertive when i need to be! What makes it all the more frustrating is when he's not in a stupid, abusive or aggressive mood, he is lovely. He made our evening meal tonight and has just made me a cup of tea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Claire I am sorry, I was hoping that any diagnosis would not be conduct disorder, for exactly the reasons you describe. It does need your son to make an active choice to engage with help and to want change, daunting for a distressed teenager and hard for them to do. As others have said, you need to be very assertive with the social workers here and ask for the help you and your family need. One thing that may be useful is to ask for a referral to the local service working with young people in danger of offending or becoming NEET - in our area they are called Targeted Youth Support - who provide mentoring and positive activities. I have seen quite a number of youngsters benefit from this type of support and make positive changes in their lives as a result. As well as supporting your son, they provide activities and trips away which will help give some respite to you and the rest of your family. From what you describe of your son's behaviour he would certainly qualify for this referral in our local area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Sorry to hear that things are difficult. Sending best wishes. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 I will ask Helen as that sounds useful. I know he is going to be referred to an agency called CAN in our area for help with his drug and alcohol problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowberry Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 (((hugs))) to you all; It's not the most helpful of diagnosis's is it? Is your son still on the Rispiridone? In our area, people between 16 - 18 in need of accomodation go to the local YMCA; I know your son is 15, when is his birthday? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 The psych said keep the Risperdone going for another week to 10 days and see if it helps. If it doesn't there is no point in ES taking it. He's 16 in June. Not sure we have a local YMCA or if they do that round here, will find out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
