Alis girls Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 I know lots of women suffer this , but I am getting worse. I am a different person - I know from my job that some women get it bad but i am serioulsy worried re my mental health. I take EP oil and zinc - drink to much coffee try to exercise and eat healthy carbs but this week has been a bummer. Crashed car which probably would have happened anyway - was reversing out of drive and a woman was reversing into MY drive! The air was blue. my car is drivable but ruined body wise (bit like me). I am in the PTA and sending off emails etc and also have an Orthodox Easter thing to help organise. Yes I am stressed with a capital S. I hope someone out ther will have tried something that works for them - and yes I am gonna see Gp before I kill someone!! Wheres that cat?................. By the way I am 47 - middleaged, fat and miserable Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mostin Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 I get bad PMT but manage to cope with the usual remedies. My friend at work has it really bad to the point where she destroys things and fears for the safety of her husband and four children. She went to the GP as she was worried she would harm her children. Her GP prescribed her Prozac but she only takes it for the 2 weeks just before her period. It's not a well known treatment for PMT, but it's working really well for my friend. She says it's saving her marriage and her family anyway. I hope this helps you at all. Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 I think we must be cyber twins I thought PMT was supposed to ease as I got older, but I spend at least 2 weeks either being vile to those I love or trying not to cry in front of everyone else I'm taking St John's Wort at the moment as I mentioned to my GP how grim I am to live with (take it anyway to get me through the winter) and he said it was good for PMT too Sorry about the car, but at least you are alright, and it was the other persons fault I do hope you can find something to help, because it's horrible feeling yourself change from 'normal' to PMT woman from hell Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janepie33 Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 I totally sympathise. I am 48, wobbly round the middle and when my PMS is bad I drop things, loose things, think people hate me and worry that I might actually go out into the street and scream untill I loose my voice! Last month my 18 year old (son) asked innocently "What's the date mum?". I told him. He replied "I'm just making a note of it in my diary for next month". !!! I could have hit him. I also think I'm getting a bit menopausal - a few very early signs - and I think PMS can get worse around then. I have found that the best thing for me is to eat reguluar small meals, make sure I get pleany of sleep, ask for help when I feel I have just got too much to do. I tried zinc, St. Johns Wort, some expensive cream from pulverized jungle plants and hormones from the GP, but nothing seemed to help long term. Reflexology seemed to help and there is a good website www.pms.org.uk Hope you feel better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 You should try being in my house for 'that' week each month, with myself & my 2 daughters & our synced cycles Not fun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitchens Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 What I find overwhelming is that feeling of anger, short temper, tiredness, weepyness etc etc all rolled into one. I know I am EVIL before my period but I genuinely feel I can't do anything about it. I try to walk away from stupid quesions but eventually my temper gets the better of me. That release of hormone when the period starts is fab. Like someone has lifted their foot off of my head! If find some months better than others but lord knows why Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 You should try being in my house for 'that' week each month, with myself & my 2 daughters & our synced cycles Not fun does OH move into the garage? I never had it until I had a hysterectomy last year (they left the ovaries in) I was going through an early menopause anyway (I'm 46), I only get it slightly but find that lots of exercise and daylight helps a lot. My cycles are few and far between now, so not long to go I hope, and I don't have the bleeding so never really know where I am in my 'cycle'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quickcluck Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 I think Star flower oil is sometime better than Primose because Its higher in GLA's. It sounds like you are doing the right stuff though. The B vitamins are also really good during that part of your cycle at they even things out, although i'm struggling to remember if its b6 or b12! Also you should go to your GP and state your case as there are MANY things that he can offer to help level your hormones out! Good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 It is awful isn't it. My 'boys' now know to avoid asking me stupid questions at that time of the month. I have been so weepy recently before my period that I am almost a sobbing mess I'm taking evening primrose oil and a supplement called Premtis, trouble is I forget every now and then so I lose the benefit. I do walk a lot though every day, possibly about 8 miles or more. I'm dreading the menopause as I have a fear that because my pmt is bad I will have a bad menopause. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 26, 2009 Author Share Posted March 26, 2009 Glad I'm not alone, I have been accused today of sending agressive emails! When I read it back it sounded ok to me but hey ho what do I know. Thanks for the great replies - it is nice not to feel alone. I'm sorry but I giggled when I read about the teeager who was gonna put it in their diary. Little devil OH cant get in garage as its full. Hes been nice this week as he knows I'm upset about car and costs etc. But sometimes hes cross as I get cross with the kids and my 7 yr old knows which buttons to press. I am really trying to control it but sometimes its controlling me. Joys of being a woman eh Thanks again everyone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 You should try being in my house for 'that' week each month, with myself & my 2 daughters & our synced cycles Not fun does OH move into the garage? Nope, we kick him out there...he has no choice on the matter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 Nah, I'm perfect - it's just that everybody seems to keep away from me and I haven't a clue why! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 Nah, I'm perfect - it's just that everybody seems to keep away from me and I haven't a clue why! Me too - I've told OH that there is a male hormonal fluctuation that causes all the males in the house to become extremely irritating once a month Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 I can get a bit grumpy ( ), slightly short tempered ( ), and perhaps slightly more emotional than usual ( ). Heaven help anyone who says that classic line "oh, it must be that time of the month" I usually reply that it isn't but they should see me when I'm really hormonal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 Oh you have my sympathy you really do. I think PMT was a factor in me eventually splitting up with my ex, I know it can be funny with hindsight but it really is a serious matter. First thing I would suggest is give up caffeine. It's a little thing (although it can be hard) but I used to live on coffee, 6-8 cups a day and when I changed to de-caf I became a different person. Really. I drink Clipper Organic de-caf which I think tastes great and now, if I have a proper coffee, it can keep me buzzing for hours (and I do sometimes because I do SOOOO love coffee and I do soooooo still miss it!) Then try to just know at the time, that it is PMT that's making you behave the way you do. You may not be able to help what you're feeling, or saying, or doing, but knowing that's it's not really "you" can make a big difference, or I found it so anyway. And if I had moments of lucidness (is that a word?!) I would use it, no matter how brief, to tell whoeever I was being foul to at the time, "look I'm really sorry, I just feel so awful and I can't help it". Saying that to people made me feel better about it, it wasn't excusing what I was saying but I did feel like I was trying to offer an explanation and an apology. My kids cop for it sometimes and I spend my lucid moments wracked with yet MORE guilt, but despite EP oil and multi vits to keep up my iron and all the other essentials I've still not cracked it and I really, REALLY don't want to go down the prescribed drug route. Incense and loud music can lift my mood in a moment and if I had the cash I'd DEF go to a homeopath as I truly believe they can help. If they don't already get it try and explain, when you're not PMT! to your family how helpless you feel and how full of rage, then they can help by accepting your apologies when you're able to offer them and by trying really hard not to push your buttons at the crucial times. It's not just you though as this place shows, we are all cyclical and (tree hugger / hippy that I am ) I also believe the lunar cycle can affect mood - I'm either mega high or mega low if it's a full moon at "that time of the month" Failing allllllll of that, we can all gather round the caldron during "that time of the month" and stab pillows with sharp knives and scream and shout until it all goes away!!! BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chooklady Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 It is so nice knowing you are not alone! I turn into an evil monster, I'm sarcastic and argumentative with anyone who gets in my way. Emotional, I just want to cry at stupid things that upset me and everything seems to take on gigantic proportions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluffyfeet Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 There was an old record my Dad used to sing - one eyed one horned flying purple people eater - which I remember him saying to my mum about 'that time of the month' when I was still living at home. He only said it once - my mom is a red haired Irish descended hormonal nightmare, or rather she was before the change - now she's just plain potty. Only problem is I (and my sis) have inherited her hormones and temper - I've broken bones twice thru sheer anger. I was told by my GP to keep a pile of old crockery by the back door and break that instead of me - it worked a treat too. I now take Prozac which was actually prescribed for Anxiety/Depression but does seem to have an effect on my PMT - I think it has started to be officially recognised as a solution to severe PMT, I recall a TV programme some years ago about it. As for self help stuff, I play music and dance about like a demented muppet, sing my head off, I can recommend Kelly Clarkson/Anastasia for that, throw yourself into something physical. I avoid things that I know will wind me up, warn other half although he still doesn't learn and best of all, Eat Some Chocolate!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Moocher Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 Failing allllllll of that, we can all gather round the caldron during "that time of the month" and stab pillows with sharp knives and scream and shout until it all goes away!!! BeckyBoo You mean this is a last resort? I thought everyone did that. Oh, just me then. BTW I have three (hormone-related) spots on my chin that look just like Orion's Belt. Gah! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 Weird this came up- the other day I realised how much better my symptoms are since I went on Weight Watchers and lost a significant amount of weight. I put it down to eating far fewer refined and processed foods, and less carbs overall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Moocher Posted March 27, 2009 Share Posted March 27, 2009 My symptoms have become worse since I had children. And I'm one of those annoying people who has lost weight after children, so it can't be that. I had a chat with a Dr Hauschka practitioner, and she suggested it could be connected to the drugs administered to expel the placenta which she believes remain in the body for a very long time. *I've just reread to make sure I wrote Dr Hauschka and not Dr Oetker!!!* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saronne Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 My symptoms have become worse since I had children. And I'm one of those annoying people who has lost weight after children, so it can't be that. I had a chat with a Dr Hauschka practitioner, and she suggested it could be connected to the drugs administered to expel the placenta which she believes remain in the body for a very long time. *I've just reread to make sure I wrote Dr Hauschka and not Dr Oetker!!!* What stays in the body for a long time, the drugs or the placenta?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Moocher Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 The drugs! I think I'd have more than a few spots if I'd held on to the placenta for three years!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 The placenta should come out after you've given birth or you're in trouble!! infections etc. They are then frozen and go to factories to make face creams- I wont name it in case of getting forum into trouble, So next time you slap on your night cream - just think it was once part of a placenta . For those preggie ladies - apparently you can fry it and eat with onions a good source of iron - bit like liver. Yummy. No I'm not pregnant just a deranged pre menopausal woman of 47 watching her sanity flow away. Remember the woman in attic in jane Eyre - well thats me Cackle cackle - sorry i also have a sick sense of humour - comes of having worked in NHS for yrs and seeing the seedier side of life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'm 48 and started HRT 4 months ago and my PMT went away I only missed 1 period but have been getting more & more grumpy for the last few years, my joints were painful I'd put on weight and felt fat old & ugly, now new woman, I'm still a little wobbly around the middle but I don't care. I'm able to exercise without feeling sore and am enjoying my self more than I have in years. Go see your GP you don't have to live like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I tried several different types of HRT and none of them agreed with me - made it worse in fact, but then after several gynae ops over the last few years, the pill stopped suiting me too Just one of those things I guess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
