LisaP Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I am so sorry - thinking of you ((hugs)). Lisa P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joybelle Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I was so sorry to read this, it brought back memories of my mum and dad. I lost both of them very suddenly back in 1978. My dad died on May 19th and mum the following week on the 25th. Mum died two hours after we buried dad. Neither had been ill they both had heart attacks. They were aged 57 and 61. Joy xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I'm so sorry! Really puts everything into perspective and makes you think doesn't it ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 oh, im so sorry I agree, start the new year 1st March, hopefully things will pick up for you (((hugs))) cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura & CTB Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 How awful for you - sending hugs from here too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Lou Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 How awful for you I'm so sorry, Words cannot really help but hope you stay strong through these hard times. I can understand a little of how you are feeling as have had a horrid start to the year myself too... my Mother in Law lost her fight with cancer and we found out our expected baby had died within 3 days of each other in January so having a similar time coming to terms with two losses here too. I hope you gain comfort with time,my thought are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 Thinking of you at such a sad and difficult time Such sad times for many others as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I am so so sorry to read this. Thinking of you (( hugs)). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 What a sad year so far for so many, huge {{{hugs}}} to you all, Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I'm so sorry that you and your family are having to deal with all this sadness all in one go.Our thoughts are with you.Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickweed Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 What a sad time you are going through.Your experience is so similar to mine. I lost my parents just eight days apart in 2008. My mother's death was not entirely unexpected, but my father's was a shock. You are probably feeling guilty, thinking you could have done more, been more aware, spoken out, not spoken out and so on. I still have these thoughts. I do try to remember the good times though, and take comfort from the fact they were not apart for long. (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted February 27, 2010 Share Posted February 27, 2010 I am so sorry to hear about your sad loss. The year can only get better. Take one day at a time, and take care of yourself and take comfort in your DH's support. The forum is always here to lend and ear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy chickens! Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 That is dreadful for you and your family; bad enough coping with the loss of one parent, but one after the other like that must be unbearable. Sending hugs and support. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
earthmam1 Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 I am so sorry - sending you lots of (hugs) sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 I am so sorry. I lost my parents close together (Mum then Dad for me) and I think that the second does lose the will to live. As you said take comfort in the fact that they are together again now, however, this does not make it any easier for those left behind Sending hugs and virtual support, and take every day at a time xx Ditto to everything that Space Chick has said ((((((hugs))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGirlsMum Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 Very sorry, thinking of you, keep strong, but allow yourself to cry too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 So very sorry to read your post and that of others who have lost nearest and dearest. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saronne Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 Sending you love and hugs. Please look after yourself. Saronne xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 oh hunny, Im so sad for you. Thats so hard for you loosing both of your parents so close together like that. Sending big hugs your way. So sorry.xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 So sorry to hear of your loss, thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 Amanda So sorry to read what a sad time you're having right now. Be glad you spent the time with your mum when she needed you. Sounds like she decided she'd had enough and didn't want to go on without your dad. Lou Sorry to read your news as well. Sending you both hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 I am so sorry. I lost my Mum very suddenly in 2005 and my Dad a year later. I have to say that my Dad had a really horrible year after she died and it would have been a blessing in a lot of ways if he had gone sooner. Take a small crumb of comfort in that for your Mum's sake. Don't expect to "get over it". You will learn to live with it and it will get easier in time. I read an article on grief which said that you need 2 years to come to terms with an "expected" death, ie a parent and 4 years for any other - child, spouse etc. After 2 years or so I suddenly realised that I felt OK again (after not realising that I felt so bad). I still miss them dreadfully and it hurts that they aren't seeing their grandaughters get careers and become lovely adults. However, I can now think and talk about them without that awful stomach churning feeling of loss. I think you need to allow yourself to feel rubbish for as much time as you need. Take care Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubereglu Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 ((((((((HUGS))))))))) to you both, sounds like you're having a tough time at the minute, but just remember things will get better in time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
docsquid Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 Just caught up with this. What a horrible start to 2010. Nothing I can say, except lots of hugs, and send my very best wishes to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reikiranf Posted March 2, 2010 Author Share Posted March 2, 2010 Thank you all for your replies, hugs, thoughts & for caring. I'm so glad that I have my 'Omlet friends' as despite having a DH and three lovely children, my brother and his family I feel very alone, I can't explain it. Thankfully I have no regrets or guilt about Mum and Dad, they moved to the coast 20 years ago and I saw them at least once a week and did everything I could for them, I left my job in May so I spent even more time with them, apart from Mum's illness last year we had a great year as a family, birthdays, my daughter's wedding and a fantastic day out on a canal boat. Thank you all once again, I know it won't be easy but I know we'll get through it eventually. Amanda. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
