Sooo much pooping

[Cinnamon]

My youngest,who is 15, is doing a media & arts diploma which means she is at the local college each Wednesday,& is also involved in local events in the evening.

One of these events was a Christmas market in Henley last Friday night,which she went to,to sell gifts for charity.

 

The teacher has had cause to send me a very,very snippy & angry email about something that happened at this event which involves my daughter (& which she vehemently denies!),but she has read the email out to the entire class first (my daughter arrived a little later today) & asked them if it was ok, what sort of punishment they think my daughter should have

 

This is before she has investigated the claims made,spoken to me or to my daughter.

I am furious,& my daughter is weepy with both anger & frustration,& at some taunts about the email from other pupils.

 

I really don't think something that was private should be read out to my daughters class, do you?

[welovemarmite]

no that should not happen. The matter should be dealt with between your daughter, the teacher and if the situation warrants it, you as her parents. And even if it were a communal decision on punishment, this should not be until all had been throughly looked at and investigated.... (i work for a professional body in the discipline area)

[beach chick]

absolutley not Cinnamom. that is really poor practice, and shocking behaviour on the teacher's part.

I would go to your daughter's head of year and/or principal for an explanation, and then decide what you want to do. there 'might' be a simple explanation, so dont go in all guns blazing yet - but from what you say I think the teacher is way out of order (and I'm a secondary school governor...)

[Aunty e]

Completely unacceptable - I would be furious. Is there a headteacher you can complain to?

[Cinnamon]

Thanks. That is what I thought.

 

I have emailed her back again,but have not had a response to my first email yet,even though I know she has received it.

Apparently she was going to read it out to the class,but didn't...................

 

I have not mentioned her reading the email out in my response to her,but have asked her to contact me as a matter of importance.

[Bramble]

I can't offer any advice Cinnamon, only sympathy, something similar happened to me when I was about your daughter's age (so obviously, it didn't involve email, the missive in question was written with chalk on a slate!!!), but I was absolutely hysterical in class and it upsets me now, just to think about it. If the teacher has an issue with you/your daughter, then she should raise with you/your daughter, it is no-one else's business. I do hope you can sort things out for your daughter, my parents just swept it under the carpet, which just left me feeling worse. Big hug for your daughter (and you, of course). Good luck

[Seagazer]

That is terrible and very unprofessional in my opinion. How awful for your DD. I hope you manage to get it sorted out. She shouldn't be allowed to that.

[Alis girls]

This is bullying which as we all know can lead to humiliation which what she has done - even if my child was involved I would be spitting feathers. This is a dreadful example to set to teens who could think bullying is acceptable - heads should roll - ie hers - good luck

[Egluntyne]

I would ask immediately to have an interview with the head.

[Cinnamon]

It gets worse.

Just heard from another pupil that the teacher in question said that 'unless Cleo grovels to me big time I am going to make her wear her school uniform to college'

 

They wear their own clothes on college days - this is just plainly done to humiliate my daughter

[Calamity Jane]

Have just read through all this thread, and it has made me really upset - and I am not involved personally. I hope you get this resolved soon and that your daughter is not upset or humiliated any more. Sounds to me like SHE is the one who deserves an apology.x

[Chucky Mama]

I actually think this is too serious to be discussed via email. I would phone to arrange a meeting with the 'Head' of this college and lodge a formal complaint. How does your daughter feel about how you deal with it? Most teenagers cridge at the thought of their parents getting involved. It is important to make sure that she is OK with how you choose to deal with it.

[Guest]

I actually think this is too serious to be discussed via email. I would phone to arrange a meeting with the 'Head' of this college and lodge a formal complaint.

 

I agree, plus if you email her it gives her thinking time, i think you ought to catch her on the backfoot and not give her a chance to formulate a response. Go and see the head.

[Seagazer]

I agree too. You must see the head teacher. This is an adult bullying a child.

[Powerlady]

That is bullying...pure and simple.

You need to demand an appt with the Head asap..also I would pull her from classes untill it's sorted.

 

Who the hell does this woman think she is?

 

Good luck and don't let them get away with it.

[Alis girls]

i am shocked - I'm not a violent woman but if my son (same age as Cleo) was treated like that I'd have to restrain myself.

[Powerlady]

I wanted to write that....but was too chicken..makes you angry doesn't it..disgraceful

[Willow]

Shocking behaviour. How can she possibly have thought it was appropriate to involve the class ?

I would demand to see the head as well. If you can get Bryan along as well, if you can't take a friend as they will probably overwhelm you with numbers. I would insist they handle the two things separately and investigate the incident at the market before going for a punishment.

 

The 'grovelling' comment is bizarre what on earth is she thinking ? Can you get some of the pupils who made it to agree to their name being given as witnesses ?

 

The teachers behaviour is definitely bullying. It wouldn't hurt to copy the board of governors (another school governor here) as they may not get to hear of odd behaviour from teachers until something major happens, so although they may not do anything it would be good to have this on record.

[bluekarin]

That is outrageous! The teacher is abusing their position of authority. I would do what the others have said and go and speak to the head. Usually, in the first instance, you go to the teacher in question, but if they are doing things like this, its gone to far for that. Good luck and I hope it goes well.

[freddie]

Ask for the college grievance proceedure, which they will have to give to you. it will show you the path you need to take to get this dealt with, properly. copy in the head of dept, the head, and the clerk of gov body on any correspondence, and Always state that you would like(wouldd expect) a reply by .... (add date/time).

had to do this before, and know the LEA are a rule to themselves. Go protect, mother hen. i did, and got to secretary of state before i got anything done.

[Willow]

Go protect, mother hen. i did, and got to secretary of state before i got anything done.

 

That is awesome

[Yorkshire Pudding]

This woman has behaved in a completely unprofessional manner.

 

Freddie has give excellent advice, do involve the Governors here as well as the head or principal.

 

I am seething on Cleo's behalf. The initial incident should have been properly investigated and NEVER spoken about in front of other students. The use of humiliation is unacceptable and this woman is giving teachers (and I know there are a few of us on the forum) a bad name

 

off to calm down.....

[DebC]

I can't add much but How dare the teacher behave like that. I would definately complain/go through the grievence procedure for the college. it's adult bully and an abuse of position.

 

Hope that your daughter is able to put this behind her and get on and enjoy college, as she should.

[Cinnamon]

Well, I started work at 4 ish,but emailed the Head of the school to request an urgent appointment. I expect a phone call from her tomorrow.

 

I can assure you that I am NOT taking this lying down. I am beyond furious,especially as the issue now is not the incident my girl was allegedly involved in,but the way her teacher handled her complaint to me.

This is inexcusable,as far as I am concerned.

 

My daughter is concerned as this teacher marks all her GCSE Diploma work.......................

 

Will post to update once I have met with the head teacher

[sadietoo]

Good luck with your meeting today Cinnamon.. I am absolutely appalled at the teacher's behaviour...I thought this sort of thing went out in the dark ages...