johnandkymberley Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Hi all, have been to a few interviews lately and not got them, went to one today i thought was promising and i think i have lost it. i just have no confidence in myself atm after knock backs, there are 2 jobs and 3 people being interviewed, im just feeling so low. they havent confirmed i havent got it but i know. i have got a practical next week but i think they have already chosen, they said at the end nice to meet you etc which usually is a goodbye we dont want to see you again struggling at the minute to keep my head up. Sorry to post on here but needed to let it out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Marple Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Hang in there please. What type of job are you trying to get? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newcountrygirl Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Keep smiling - you've got a good chance of getting an offer - don't lose faith in yourself - if you don't get this one it means something better is waiting for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmommasally Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Don't right yourself off. I have done loads of interviewing and I always finish with "it was nice to meet you" it never ever means "Goodbye we won't be seeing you again". You especially need to stay focused and have belief in yourself if you still have the practical to do, as they will not make their minds up until after that. Look at yourself in the mirror, smile, tell yourself out loud all your attributes and sell yourself to yourself, do not let any negativity creep in! You are good, go into that practical beleiving that and do just your best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 I am a great believer in Karma If you don't get this job it wasn't meant to be something better is waiting for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majorbloodnock Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Hmm. A couple of things jump out here. Firstly, if you've been to several interviews then, irrespective of outcomes, this means your CV and covering letter (and the employment history they portray) are doing their job. You're interesting enough for companies to take a closer look at, and that already puts you well ahead of an awful lot of other people. Secondly is that I suspect you may have a slightly inaccurate picture of the interviews themselves. From an employer's point of view, an interview isn't about finding the best person for the job; it's about finding the best person for the company. The person needs to fit in with everyone else as well as just having the right skills. However, there are an awful lot of companies that just don't have the right atmosphere for me to be comfortable in, so I wouldn't fit into them. As a result, I'd be rather glad if a company recognised a mismatch and didn't offer the job to me. It's not about not being good enough, it's about not being the right fit, and it's as much the interviewee's responsibility to spot a bad fit as it is the interviewer's. A company doesn't get offended when you say it's not right for you, so you needn't get down when the boot's on the other foot. Eventually, the only way to get the job you want is by interviewing for several that don't suit you. If you've been through three interviews already, that's brought you three closer to your next job offer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenNutter Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Classic Major B. I wholeheartedly agree. You obviously have the right skill set and the right approach, just hang on in there and the right opportunity will come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WarrensWorld Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 (edited) Don't give up. You're not alone. Made sense to me...... Edited June 26, 2011 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 It is horribly difficult & you have my sympathy. Three of my four kids have their lives sorted and under way but one just doesn't have much luck. Much of my purpose has been to keep him optimistic when things just don't work out for no reason that we can understand. He has RAF selection coming up and spends so much time preparing for it, but we have all, including his mates, made a plan B for him in case it goes wrong as it often seems to do. I always say to him, persevere, keep trying and someone will see that you have qualities such as being hard working & loyal and that those that don't employ him are losing out on a fine employee. As a fill in he is doing some gardening jobs clearing weeds & mowing. He refuses to claim benefits so it earns him a little bit of cash. Fight for this job when you have the practical & remind yourself that you deserve it as much as anyone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnandkymberley Posted June 26, 2011 Author Share Posted June 26, 2011 Thankyou for your support, i have a interview tomorrow, my practical for the job i went for last week and then another interview on wednesday, im scared though, the one tomorrow is a DREAM job, tbh i know i wont get it as there is going to be so many other people but i would kill for that job, we will see how it goes... my mum says its only a job, but its not to me, i worked at 16 whilst at school and did my dipolma and still did the same job, worked 16 hours a weekend and got around £100 a week, my friends didnt do anything but i loved the money and independence. i met my partner at 16 and he was 21, he had/and still has a fantastic job at boots as a company boss so on lots of money but i want my own money, not his. now we are living together so everything is in out joint account but its not the same as i dont feel its "mine" and H2b could have all his money to himself if he didnt have me and the house, he would be able to buy everything he wants. So now at 22 i find myself out of work since feb and it feels like a lifetime, i am a grafter i really am, i dont want to be at home. i hate it with a passion i will post on if i get any of the jobs this week, really nervous though now for tomorrow - even though i wont get it but its a job i really want so it makes it worse! does that make sense?! xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 (((((hugs))))) please done write yourself off before you even get through the door - the people interviewing you will recognise this. you have as much chance of the job as the next person. look at all of your positives: you are independent you are a worker you want to work you can do the job its your dream job the negatives you are nervous - yes - stands to reason you have been out of work since february - yes - but you have been applying for jobs - and there isnt much work about. repeat after me!!! (look in a mirror and say it) you are worthy of this job - you are a wonderful person (then smile at yourself) trust me - it will make you feel better - even if it makes you feel a bit daft and you laugh at yourself! fingers, toes, paws, wings and claws crossed for you for this job - you can do it!! - the right job is out there for you somewhere cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 What Cathy said Fingers crossed here too hunny Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Think to yourself - you ARE going to get this. You might be surprised. A bit of confidence & positive thinking for tomorrow & hopefully you'll be back on here saying....you got it! Good luck - you CAN do this! Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newcountrygirl Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Good luck for tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 I am also 22. I left university last june and didn't get a job until september - I'm a trained archaeologist and I'm doing school leaver admin work for an electrical firm on a school leaver wage (I'm earning so little that I didn't have to pay tax at all until May) - you are not worthless just because the jobs you want don't seem to be coming your way, the recession is hitting everybody in a lot of ways, and people in our age group statistically are the ones it's had the largest knock on effect for. When I was out of work and no interviews were going my way I kept going. I'm not doing the work I want to do and it is by no means my dream job - but like you I just wanted a job to give me independence and to give me my own money. Keep your faith, set yourself limits and boundaries. Statistically the more nos you get the closer you are to a yes! For example, I swore to myself that I would do almost any work if someone would pay me for it, but set myself the limit/boundary of not applying for anything commission based or involving cold calling, as I knew I'd be unhappier 'selling my soul to the devil of telesales' than I would be out of work. It cut some avenues off for me but it meant that I didn't feel compromised and I didn't feel like I was panicking and flailing wildly to get any job I could - which helped OODLES with my self respect. Feeling confident in yourself when you're signing on to take job seekers can be quite difficult, also count yourself lucky you aren't in the dole queue right now, as that really does get people down. Although I'm not in an ideal situation, and I'm doing menial tasks in a job I feel no passion for - I see it as a transient stage in my life and career, this job is giving me money to keep me ticking over until I find my dream job - however long that takes. Just remember, however long it takes, something will come up. Give it time, patience, and never take a turn down personally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Good luck for tomorrow. We're behind you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Hope that things go your today I agree about the right person for the job and the team in that workplace. I work in a small law firm where my OH is the managing partner. We have a very family like atmosphere with another partner's wife working there a brother and sister and the son of one of the secretaries is our cleaner while he goes through sixth form. Also 2 of my children have also done various jobs from typing to cleaning and weeding the car park. this may sound like jobs for the boys, but it is not like that at all, we have recently taken on several new people but they have had to have the same family values and quirky sense of humour to fit in. Don't dispair as has already been said you are getting plenty of interviews and you are willing and able so it shouldn't be long before someone snaps you up. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGirlsMum Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Good luck for today. positive thoughts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy ben grace Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Hope it goes well for you today. Whatever happens dont lose confidence in yourself. Remember you are as worthy of good things happening to you as anyone else at that interview. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGirlsMum Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 How did you get on? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnandkymberley Posted July 3, 2011 Author Share Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) Hi all, didnt get 2 of the jobs, waiting to hear about the other where i did the practical, but dont want it, i hated it whilst i was there! but im not letting it get me down, there is no point stressing etc as i am trying my best, still went to zumba and im getting on with it, i am all spotty from the stress, which im worried about with the wedding coming up, and worried will affording that and its a big expense as its a 12k do, but my mum and dad have agreed to help, there isnt much left to pay but loosing my job wasnt forseen so we couldnt really help it As for this week ive got an interview on tuesday, for a company caled @home childcare, i am really overqualified so hoping this will increases my chances and i have all certificates etc, the only thing i need to pay is £60 to put towards insurance, the CRB, list 99, ofsted registration is included and that costs about £175!! they are also offering a 10 hour course for free, its a course on childcare in the home and although i dont have to do it, i am going to, why not? no on knows everything do they? and its a certificate for me and it shows i am serious about the job etc and willing to further my training! i would be looking after 3 children for 10 hours, 2 days a week, taking them to school and picking them up, making tea/breakfast and helping with homework and reading etc, really easy and i have always bonded well with the children i work with so im happy doing it. i would also have another child for 4 hours a week doing the same things, so for 14 hours i would get about £398 a month, not thousands but its £398 i havent got now and its a permanent wage, they also want holiday care so more hours there, the company always tries to get the most hours - the houses are about 15min walk away - good exercise for the wedding and local! i cant drive due to pete mal epilepsy (so will limit hours as the need might not increase in the area) but i have been health checked by ofsted and occupational health and they are happy that i am healthy and its under control. So fingers crossed, i cant wait to meet the family and go on tuesday for the interview, its not loads of work but its something, its experience, its money and it gets me out the house! things looking positive atm, just praying i will do well! fingers crossed xxx Edited July 3, 2011 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Marple Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Fingers crossed for you. You sound much more positive- that is important when you are interviewed too. Good luck!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Sorry about the other jobs but this one sounds promising. Best of luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
