2009 Omlet cube and run for sale

[keyhole kate]

Without going into a lot of detail my older brother has to leave his current property at the beg of January as it is to be sold. His partner will receive half of the proceeds of the sale. Here comes the dilema my brother and I currently have an income from our parents property we rent out. The property is run and managed by me and is in my sole name DB has rang me today full of booze crying and basically asking me to give our tennant a single mum with twins who is a perfect tennant notice so that they can move in and he claims he will pay me my half instead of renting privately. My gut instict was to say NO and told him so as they are in this mess due to poor choices and both have huge drink problems I said he can use his rent share to offset his rent I think it would be a disaster he frequently asks me to dip into his rent share when he needs money before pay day they dont go anywhere but the pub. But I feel terrible when alls said and done he is my brother I am sick to death of having to be the sensible one opinions please

Edited November 13, 2011 by Guest

[Griffin]

Stick to your guns! Gut instinct is very rarely wrong. You sound as if you'd regret allowing him to move in. You've said yourself the present tennant is perfect. He sounds as if he wouldn't be perfect.

[Ain't Nobody Here]

It sounds like a recipe for disaster to me . You already know he's financially irresponsible so it probably wouldn't take long before he started taking advantage of you.

 

Stick with your current tenant - it would be really unfair to kick her out if she's such a good tenant.

[Paola]

Stick to your guns! Gut instinct is very rarely wrong. You sound as if you'd regret allowing him to move in. You've said yourself the present tennant is perfect. He sounds as if he wouldn't be perfect.

 

Well said Griffin, I agree. Its not easy when family is involved. Good luck

[Egluntyne]

You current tenant will have rights, presumably, and as you have stated that she is the perfect tenant, you may find yourself in hot water if you boot her out. Stick to your guns!

[The Warrens]

Always go by your gut feeling!!!......

 

keep your tenent if they are perfect.......it always gets messy when family are involved - i should know lol

 

i dont know you or your family, but what if he moved in and then decided not to bother paying......as its only his sister (you) hes letting down and its not like you would kick him out...its not like you would get a solictors invloved due to not paying as your family.....blah blah ..... - thats how the story would go if it was my siblin

 

Cant he rent elsewhere?

[Redwing]

I was booted out of a rented flat because the owners son called 'dibs' on it

 

I didnt have a leg to stand on but the whole situation was horrible as I had been a model tennant

[Snowy]

I agree, go with your gut instinct.

Where drink is involved, you have to be cruel to be kind - he will never sort himself out until he learns to stand on his own two feet and take responsibility for himself.

Very hard for you though, I know

[Chicken shack]

My philosophy for what it is worth is:- If you are asked for anything whether it be money, time, property etc give it if you are prepared to not see it again. This method has served us well over the years. Other wise you will become recentfull. You brother is playing on your sympathy however he can put his share of his income towards his rent. I doubt you will see any rent from him. This will enable you to help hime out if you so with. The other solution is to sell your inheritence and devide the money and you both go your seperate ways. As for your tenant, you matter to and you should do what is fair to you all. If you were to ask your tenent to leave it could take up to 6 months, a court order would have to be sevred, this would cost money and in the mean time the tenent may withhold rent. So if you chose to sell or allow your brother to move in it may take six months to evict your exiting tenent who has legal rights. What ever you decide it all needs to be done in a formal manner. Good luck

[Guest]

Follow instincts............

If it all goes wrong it will end in tears! You might not get your rent, he could mess you around and leave you in a position where he knows you will not pursue him/evict him and it will be sour all round!

Worst of all...he will have more money for booze and get in a worse state!

Be cruel to be kind - he will still have his rent money to put towards renting somewhere else where he will have to be responsible and pay up on time!

Plus your tenant has rights and deserves not to be messed about and have some stability for her family!

Best of luck! xxx

[snowberry]

I can'r really add to any of the above responses but agree with them wholeheartily..

[poachedegg]

Another thing to consider is that if you did rent to them, you then become completely absorbed in their lives/issues at least at the moment there is some remoteness if needed.

[sadietoo]

It is so difficult when family are involved but I think you should stick to your guns if possible. Presumably the terms of your jointly owned property are such that he can't force a sale ? Not that you should be held ransom to this even if he could. I agree that forcing him to rent elsewhere and pay his rent will leave him with less money for booze, which has to be an advantage too...although I'm sure he won't see it that way at least at first.

 

My philosophy for what it is worth is:- If you are asked for anything whether it be money, time, property etc give it if you are prepared to not see it again.

 

I like that Chicken shack!!

[clootie]

pm'd you

[freddie]

I really feel for you, as no matter what you do.....

Follow your instinct.

Been where you are, It is Grim. It took three yrs for me to stop beating myself up over it.My sibling and I have 0 contact. I honestly feel relief, although I do wonder how he is getting on sometimes.But I will never ask, as it would open a can of snakes.

[keyhole kate]

Thank you all you are a wise bunch after a very sleepless night I am still in the same mind and I am going to be selfish and stick to my guns my tennant is a gem and I think I have been very fortunate to have a great tennant.

In my heart I know DB and her would be nightmare as I told him I could see it causing problems between us. I hold the deeds everything is in my name tbh I would rather sell and lose out from the longer term investment than have them as tennants. I feel sad that my tennant is more reliable than my own flesh and blood though

If there is one thing I would urge everyone to do is make a will and although difficult make sure your parent have also either made a will or there wishes clear If my Mum had done either I probably wouldn't be in this position

[freddie]

Oh so true. I've made sure our wills are in order, and are very clear. It can ease a lot of headaches for the ones left after wards.

I hope it all works out for you, and is'nt too messy.

[The Dogmother]

Good for you KK, you go with it

[Looney]

Just seen your original post and was going to say you should stick to your guns. You are not being selfish you are protecting both of your interests (whether your brother can see this or not). It's a tough one. Good luck xx

 

Oh, and I keep meaning to make a will and never quite get around to it. I really must do one. Thanks for the reminder x

[whoopsie]

Instinct all the way. Family problems are always very hard to deal with but if you give in then it is likely to be YOU that suffers. My parents are still trying to get rid of my brother and 'girlfriend' after about 6 years of them living rent-free because they got into debt. As a result my parents have really missed out on their freedom.

 

Stand firm and protect yourself. Harsh I know but your brother's problems are not your fault.

[donald]

Yes stick with gut instinct. Just tell him you are tied in with current tennent etc . If he has a drink problem?? alcholics can tell big porkies(it does go hand in hand with the drinking) etc.

 

Its easy to give someone else advice isnt it always. But he needs to get some professional help AA etc if he will go.

 

He is an adult and sometimes its cruel to be kind etc. But so sorry for you. Agree stick to your guns, help him find another place to rent somewhere else ie another landlord etc.Not you.